6 señales de que estás enamorado de un maestro de la manipulación

Todos hemos sido manipulados alguna vez en nuestras vidas—it’s part of human nature.

Children manipulate their parent;, salesmen manipulate their customers; lawyers manipulate jurors—it’s nothing new and somehow seems normal…normal to the point where it becomes destructive.

Manipulation in a relationship is even more destructive, as it can be very effective and can even risk your own mental health. Because of that, it is very important for you to recognize if you’re being manipulated in your relationship before it becomes too late.

It is not as easy as you might think because master manipulators are often typically very skillful. They start out with subtle manipulation and raise the stakes over time—so slowly that you don’t even realize it’s happening.

Pero si sabes qué buscar, con el tiempo podrás descubrir sus tácticas manipuladoras y estas son las señales más importantes que debes buscar:

1. You’re apologizing for the things you’re not guilty of

You’re apologizing and then suddenly thinking: “Oh, wait, I’m not the one who messed up. Why am I apologizing?”. The worst part is that this is not the first time, and it seems not the last one either.

A master manipulator will trick you into believing that you’re the guilty one. No matter what he did—it’s always someone else’s fault, usually yours.

If you get angry at him, it’s your fault for having unreasonable expectations. If he gets mad, it’s your fault for upsetting him.

2. Te sientes obligado

If he did you a favor, you feel obliged to repay him for his sacrifice—over and over again. Is this really how a relationship works? Is this how it is to be in love? No, it’s not.

Even if he doesn’t say that he expects you to do something in return, he will mention it whenever it suits him. When you two have a fight, you will be always reminded of the time he did something for you and this will be one of his best arguments.

3. Es imprevisible

Tiene mal genio and you never know what frame of mind he’ll be in. You never know when he can lash out furiously, and you live in constant fear of that.

Su estado de ánimo es incoherente y el tuyo se ve influido por el suyo e incluso depende de él.

4. Le has pillado demasiadas veces mintiendo

Si es un hábil manipulador y le pillas de alguna manera en una mentira, imagínate cuántas veces te habrá mentido sin que te hayas dado cuenta.

He will tell you everything you want to hear, and he will make sure that you believe in that. The only downside is that his actions speak louder than words and he’ll be exposed sooner or later.

5. El cambio no es una opción

Sometimes you know that he’s manipulating you, but you know he is a good guy and don’t want to lose him. You know that if he changed only a bit there would still be hope.

Well, that won’t happen. It won’t happen because he does not want to change. He doesn’t see the immorality of his actions and he will trick you into believing the same.

6. He knows all your buttons and he won’t hesitate to push them…all

Eras muy feliz cuando empezasteis a salir porque él se interesaba mucho por tu vida. Quería saber mucho de ti y quería participar en todo.

Parecía que le importabas de verdad y que quería conocerte. Un maestro manipulador quiere exactamente eso, pero con el propósito de encontrar rápidamente tus puntos débiles, y utilizarlos si es necesario.

Es muy consciente de tus emociones, pero las utiliza para manipularte, no para hacerte sentir mejor.

Véase también: 20 señales reveladoras de una mujer manipuladora (+ cómo afrontarlas)