6 forti segni che sei innamorato di un maestro della manipolazione
Tutti noi siamo stati manipolati in passato nella nostra vita.—it’s part of human nature.
Children manipulate their parent;, salesmen manipulate their customers; lawyers manipulate jurors—it’s nothing new and somehow seems normal…normal to the point where it becomes destructive.
Manipulation in a relationship is even more destructive, as it can be very effective and can even risk your own mental health. Because of that, it is very important for you to recognize if you’re being manipulated in your relationship before it becomes too late.
It is not as easy as you might think because master manipulators are often typically very skillful. They start out with subtle manipulation and raise the stakes over time—so slowly that you don’t even realize it’s happening.
Ma se sapete cosa cercare, con il tempo sarete in grado di scoprire le loro tattiche di manipolazione e questi sono i segnali più importanti da cercare:
1. You’re apologizing for the things you’re not guilty of
You’re apologizing and then suddenly thinking: “Oh, wait, I’m not the one who messed up. Why am I apologizing?”. The worst part is that this is not the first time, and it seems not the last one either.
A master manipulator will trick you into believing that you’re the guilty one. No matter what he did—it’s always someone else’s fault, usually yours.
If you get angry at him, it’s your fault for having unreasonable expectations. If he gets mad, it’s your fault for upsetting him.
2. Vi sentite obbligati
If he did you a favor, you feel obliged to repay him for his sacrifice—over and over again. Is this really how a relationship works? Is this how it is to be in love? No, it’s not.
Even if he doesn’t say that he expects you to do something in return, he will mention it whenever it suits him. When you two have a fight, you will be always reminded of the time he did something for you and this will be one of his best arguments.
3. È imprevedibile
È irascibile and you never know what frame of mind he’ll be in. You never know when he can lash out furiously, and you live in constant fear of that.
Il suo umore è incoerente e il vostro umore viene influenzato dal suo e addirittura dipende dal suo.
4. L'avete colto troppe volte in fallo
Se è un abile manipolatore e lo avete colto in qualche modo in una bugia, immaginate quante volte vi ha mentito senza che ve ne accorgeste?
He will tell you everything you want to hear, and he will make sure that you believe in that. The only downside is that his actions speak louder than words and he’ll be exposed sooner or later.
5. Il cambiamento non è un'opzione
Sometimes you know that he’s manipulating you, but you know he is a good guy and don’t want to lose him. You know that if he changed only a bit there would still be hope.
Well, that won’t happen. It won’t happen because he does not want to change. He doesn’t see the immorality of his actions and he will trick you into believing the same.
6. He knows all your buttons and he won’t hesitate to push them…all
Eri così felice quando avete iniziato a frequentarvi perché lui era così interessato alla tua vita. Voleva sapere tante cose su di te e voleva essere coinvolto in tutto.
Sembrava che gli importasse davvero e che volesse conoscerti. Un maestro manipolatore vuole esattamente questo, ma con lo scopo di trovare rapidamente i tuoi punti deboli e usarli se necessario.
La sua consapevolezza delle vostre emozioni è fuori scala, ma la usa per manipolarvi, non per farvi sentire meglio.
Vedi anche: 20 segni rivelatori di una donna manipolatrice (e come affrontarli)
