6 señales de que sigues en una relación sólo porque te asusta la soltería

No hay nada peor que permanecer en una relación que no te hace feliz

. Pero la mayoría de nosotros lo hemos hecho y seguiremos haciéndolo porque no es algo que se haga conscientemente.

You cannot decide that you’re going to stay with that person just because you’re scared of being alone.

Pero sus acciones pueden demostrarlo, y eso es a lo que debe prestar atención.

When love fades away and your passion is gone for good, it’s hard to save your relationship from a possible breakup.

Sometimes it’s doable, but when you see that there is no hope and you still keep trying, you need to ask yourself why you are doing this in the first place.

Is it because of the fear of being single or because you don’t want to believe that your relationship is falling apart?

Here are 6 signs that will help you decipher whether you’re staying in a relationship just because you’re scared of being single.

Your partner doesn’t make you happy anymore

Ésta es la más importante. Si sientes que tu pareja simplemente no puede hacerte feliz anymore, the chances are that you’re still with them just because you don’t want to be single.

Especially if your partner is trying hard to satisfy your every need, but you simply don’t enjoy it anymore, it means it’s time to move on.

Cuando hay que forzar algo para que funcione, significa que hay que repararlo o desecharlo.

And if you’ve already tried everything and you’re aware that your partner bores you and you’re not interested in them anymore, you should consider leaving them for good because your happiness should be your number one priority.

Te quejas de tu pareja ante los demás

If you find yourself constantly complaining about your partner to others, it means you’re not happy with them, and there’s no point in staying with them only to gossip about them.

If their habits all of a sudden irritate you, it means you’re no longer comfortable in their company, and you no longer like them for who they are.

Cuando alguien te gusta de verdad y quieres estar con él, sus costumbres y manías te resultan divertidas y no irritantes, y ésa es la mayor diferencia entre estar enamorado y tener miedo a dejarlo.

You’re constantly daydreaming

Daydreaming about a better future or about another partner is an alarming sign that you’re staying with your current partner only out of fear of ser soltero.

When we’re daydreaming, we’re contemplatingall of the things that we would want to improve or discard in order to be truly happy.

We’re daydreaming because we are unhappy with our reality / our partner, and we do it as an escape from what we are unable to do—and that is breaking up with them and moving on for good.

In this case, you need to realize that you’re only postponing the inevitable.

No puedes imaginar estar soltero

¿Qué es lo primero que le viene a la cabeza cuando piensa en romper con su pareja?

¿Es la sensación de estar solo o es la sensación de libertad?

If the first thing that pops into your mind is feeling alone, chances are you’re staying in the relationship because you don’t want to feel alone.

Another indicator is if you’re appalled by the thought of dating again.

You’re trying hard to change your partner

It’s totally normal not to be 100% satisfied with your partner, but it’s totally different if you’re constantly trying hard to change them.

If you’re doing this, it means you don’t want them. You want another version of them that has nothing to do with who they really are.

Quieres a otra persona que se adapte a tus necesidades y que pueda hacerte feliz porque es evidente que no eres feliz con tu pareja actual.

Instead of changing your partner, you should consider changing your views on the situation you’re in.

You’re not enjoying your own company

Do you feel extreme loneliness when you’re by yourself? Do you find it hard to enjoy your own company?

If yes, this could mean that you’re still with your partner just because you don’t have the guts to go your separate ways.

If you’re not enjoying your own company, it means you’re scared of or you don’t know how to be alone with yourself, and that is why you choose to stay in a decayed relationship instead of breaking free from it.

Don’t be afraid to spend time on your own. Enjoy yourself.

Quiérete a ti mismo porque antes de amar a otra persona, debes ser capaz de aceptarte por lo que eres y apreciar el tiempo que pasas a solas.