7 cosas por las que me conformé una vez (y nunca más)

1. Pésimos amigos

Muchos de nosotros tenemos esos amigos que sólo te llaman cuando no tienen nada mejor -o nada- que hacer.

Or, there are people who always blame you somehow for the mistakes they have made. Well, those are lousy friends and they don’t deserve a place in your life.

You settled for shitty friends when you were younger, but you don’t have to do it anymore. You’re a grown person now and you don’t need someone who will make you feel bad and only take advantage of you.

You’re worthy of true friends and by eliminating all those fake ones, you’ll make room for those who deserve you.

2. Casi relaciones

That is the train I’m not boarding anymore. I had my share of broken hearts and I’m not planning on continuing the streak.

It’s understandable when you date and you break up. Of course, you’re going to have a broken heart, but when you don’t date someone and you still get your heart broken, then it’s a problem. Someone you thought loved and cared about you hurts you the most in the end.

Les abrí mi corazón y les dejé entrar sólo para descubrir que habían empezado a salir con otra persona.

Buscaban apoyo emocional y amor en cierto modo conmigo, pero en cuanto encontraron a alguien que me sustituyera, me rompieron el corazón.

I’m not buying that shit anymore. I’ve learned my lesson.

3. Relaciones tóxicas

I’m naïve and I trust people. That’s why I’m so easily manipulated. I’ve been lied to and I’ve been played.

I’ve always failed to see someone’s true face because of infatuation, because of something I thought was love.

I forgave those people a long time ago, but I had trouble with forgiving myself. I was so mad at myself for falling for their tricks and for not seeing straight, but in time, I managed to move on. I know it wasn’t my fault and that I didn’t do anything wrong.

Me utilizaron junto con tantas otras personas. Son ellos los que necesitan ayuda, no yo. Lo único que puedo hacer al respecto es prometerme a mí misma no volver a caer en esos trucos nunca más.

4. Novios de mierda

I’m done being the only one trying. I’m done living in a relationship where I’m treated like shit. I’m done dating selfish men who only know how to take care of themselves.

Tantas veces estuve a su lado y tantas veces se fue cuando más lo necesitaba. Nunca se arrepintió y ni siquiera se paró a pensar en su comportamiento.

He felt it’s a normal relationship because, from his standpoint, everything was just fine.

Well, this is one mistake I will never do again. This was an experience from which I’ve learned a lot. I learned how strong and worthy of true love I am.

I’ve learned that no one has the right to treat me like he did.

5. Relaciones unilaterales

Sacrifiqué tanto por él. Hice todo lo posible para complacerlo. Básicamente, estaba jugando con sus reglas.

I was never truly happy in that relationship but I thought I was because I didn’t know what true love is.

I didn’t know what it is like to be loved and cherished by someone. I didn’t know what it is like to wake up happy in the morning.

Me descuidé psicológicamente y me descuidé físicamente. Me sentía y me veía como una mierda.

I took care of him and ignored my needs, but every time I was taken for granted. I got nothing in return. Why? It’s simple—I was the only one who loved in that relationship. He never cared, not even a bit.

It’s my fault because no one forced me to stay. It’s just that I underestimated myself and I voluntarily let him abuse me with his neglect.

Debería haber aprendido que merezco más, pero afortunadamente, ahora lo sé.

6. Llamadas de botín

I ‘ve given up answering late night, drunken calls and opening the door in the middle of the night. I’ve found some self-respect which I lacked when I was younger.

Nunca confié ni creí en mí misma, así que me conformaba con cualquier cosa que hubiera. Cuando me gustaba alguien, hacía literalmente cualquier cosa con tal de llamar su atención y que me utilizara.

I’m not going to do the same thing over again. Through the years, I have realized that I don’t need to beg for anyone’s attention. I’m smart. I’m fun to be with and there are people who like me without me asking for it.

Hay personas que renunciarían a su tiempo sólo por pasarlo conmigo.

7. Ser siempre el último de la lista

I’m really sick and tired of ser la última prioridad para todos, especially men I used to date. I’m tired of being treated the way I don’t deserve. The way nobody deserves.

I had no idea who I was in the past. I didn’t know how to appreciate myself. I didn’t know how to love myself, so I searched for validation everywhere I could—unfortunately in wrong men, too.

I’m not that young naïve girl anymore. I became a woman. I became aware of my own worth. I’ve slapped the world back for every slap it gave me.

There is no more screwing around with me. There is no more setting for things I don’t deserve because I deserve everything I wish for.