7 razones por las que no quiere vincularse emocionalmente
The first thing you have to know is that you’re not alone. You’re not the first and you won’t be the last woman to encounter an emocionalmente no disponible hombre y salir herido.
Today, this is more and more frequent. Maybe it’s because the dating world has become too fast and too available. You can have literally anything you want in a short period of time.
Basta con echar un vistazo a Tinder y otras aplicaciones de citas. Las citas se han convertido en algo sin sentido y algo con lo que hay que acabar.
That’s why men and women don’t appreciate dating anymore. We don’t even bother getting to know someone better.
If he or she doesn’t work for us in the first hour or two, we move on because we know another one is just around the corner.
That’s why women and men are more and more emotionally unavailable.
Abrir tu corazón y dejar escapar tu vulnerabilidad no merece la pena.
Aunque todos somos emocionalmente inaccesibles, algunas investigaciones demuestran que los hombres son más propensos a ser emocionalmente inseguros que las mujeres.
Why is that? Why is it that every guy you’re interested in doesn’t want to get emotionally attached?
He’s self-centered
He’s a bit selfish and the reason he can’t emotionally attach to you, or pretty much anyone, is because he loves himself too much and there is no love left for anyone else.
He is not evil, he doesn’t do it on purpose. He doesn’t want to hurt you intentionally.
It’s just who he is. He has prioritized things in his life and he has put himself first, then a few spots are blank and then other things and people can be considered.
This is both good and bad. It’s good because rarely anyone can hurt him. If you don’t care for anyone, you can’t get hurt.
But it’s bad because he’ll end up alone. He’ll get old and when he does, he’ll be sorry that he pushed everyone out of his life.
Es un jugador
Es un jugador
Se mantiene alejado emocionalmente de ti porque es un jugador. He isn’t serious about you and that’s why he avoids committing.
Si le pides que defina lo que ocurre entre los dos, evitará darte la respuesta.
Los hombres como él envían constantemente mensajes contradictorios. Un día están encima de ti, te traen flores y te compran caramelos, y al día siguiente no se les ve ni se les oye por ninguna parte.
Si actúa así, lo más probable es que sea un jugador que nunca se apegará emocionalmente a ti ni a nadie.
He can’t admit he’s wrong
Maduro men know to say when they are sorry. They know that if they’ve made a mistake they have to answer for it and deal with the consequences.
Pero este tipo actúa completamente al revés. Actúa como un niño porque es un hombre-niño.
He doesn’t want to admit he is wrong because it’ll hurt his ego. A man like that can never get emotionally attached.
Because when you’re in a relationship, you have to make compromises and you have to admit when you’re wrong.
That way you’re showing respect to your partner and you’re taking their feelings into consideration.
Es un perfeccionista
He can’t get emotionally attached because there will always be something about you that won’t suit him.
Quiere que actúes según sus reglas, según algo que él considera correcto.
Anything other than that bothers him because he thinks it’s not perfect.
Nothing can ever be perfect but the thing is, he doesn’t understand that.
He doesn’t get that his behavior is not perfect either and that everyone makes mistakes, including him.
He can’t see that maybe he has done something that bothers you but you got past that because you’re a mature person.
El pasado ya le mordió una vez
Le han hecho daño antes, en el pasado. Tuvo una relación que fracasó y eso le afectó.
Probablemente amaba a esa chica, pero no estaban destinados a estar juntos. Probablemente se abrió a ella y ella le hizo daño.
Once you get hurt, it’s hard to start believing in love again. This is especially true when it comes to men.
Que les dejen es lo peor que le puede pasar a su ego. Si eso ocurre, se prometen a sí mismos no volver a pasar por algo así nunca más.
El resultado es que se encierran en sí mismos y nunca se vinculan emocionalmente, aunque lo deseen.
Tuvo una infancia difícil
Nuestra infancia determina nuestro futuro. Somos producto de cosas que ocurrieron en nuestro pasado.
If your childhood was a happy one, you won’t be traumatized, you won’t have miedos subconscientes irracionales.
But if you’ve been traumatized like he probably was, then you’ll struggle with that for the rest of your life.
Le hirieron emocionalmente, o le faltaron emociones cuando era niño y el resultado de esto es que se niega a vincularse emocionalmente o a dar a alguien la más mínima oportunidad de herirle.
Es inseguro
Él tratará de salirse de la relación en las primeras etapas sólo para ver si te importa lo suficiente como para perseguirlo y tratar de recuperarlo. Esto es lo que le hace su inseguridad.
His insecurity will make him test you how much you really like him and then he’ll start emotionally pulling back, leaving you to wonder if there was something you did wrong and if you chased him away.
But it was never you—from the beginning, it was always him and the fact that he doesn’t want to get emotionally attached.
