7 señales de que te está utilizando (y ni siquiera te das cuenta)

Cuando conoces a un chico y empiezas algo serio con él, no eres consciente de las cosas malas que pueden pasar en el camino.

Tal vez el hombre que acabas de conocer es un narcisista disfrazado o incluso un mentiroso compulsivo y tal vez sea realmente bueno para conseguir lo que quiere sin esforzarse mucho.

Hay diferentes cosas que los chicos quieren de las chicas, como sexo, dinero, estatus o algo más. Depende de cada chico. Pero si no estás segura de si tu hombre está contigo sólo porque te quiere, comprueba estas señales y averigua si lo que siente es amor de verdad o algo más.

1. He won’t commit to you

If you have been dating a man for a long time and he still doesn’t want to commit to you, it is a sign that he doesn’t respect you and that he is just using you in the cruelest way.

He is with you because of the girlfriend benefits that you give him, while he is quite selfish about his boyfriend benefits. If you don’t feel good about the relationship you are involved in, you should talk to your partner about that.

Tell him about your needs and wishes. If he loves you enough it won’t be a big problem for him to put a label on your relationship.

2. Siempre te pide dinero

Do you sometimes feel that you are the only one paying for everything? It is understandable if your man doesn’t have a job so you need to support him financially for some time but if he is too lazy to go out and find a way to pay the bills and buy food, sólo te está utilizando.

Probablemente sientes pena por él y le das el dinero pensando que sólo ha tenido mala suerte y que las cosas cambiarán a mejor. Escúchame, si ve que siempre estarás ahí para apoyarle económicamente, nunca encontrará trabajo.

Por eso, si ves algo así en tu relación, debes reaccionar antes de que sea demasiado tarde.

3. He doesn’t talk about the future

For a man like this, you are good for him whenever he needs your help but that doesn’t mean that he plans anything serious with you. You are just his backup plan and you are good until another one comes into his life.

Si quieres saber en qué punto estáis los dos pero él se niega a hablar de ello, es señal de que sólo te está utilizando y finge que te quiere, pero el tiempo demostrará si estáis hechos el uno para el otro.

Please, don’t buy into this shit and move away from a man like that because he is nothing but a manipulator who is damn good at what he does. He will never be hubby material and he just pretends that he loves you and cares about you just to get what he wants.

4. Es amable contigo sólo cuando necesita algo

Have you caught your partner being all sweet to you only when he needs something? If your answer is ‘yes’ that means that he is just using you and that he will never commit to you.

This is a characteristic of a manipulator and a liar who gets what he wants in an easy way and doesn’t feel any remorse about it. If he talks to you only when it is convenient for him, it is a sign that he doesn’t care about you como él dice y que seguirá haciéndolo mientras tú se lo permitas.

5. He hasn’t introduced you to his family

When you love someone and when you want something serious with that person, it is quite normal that you introduce them to your parents, right? But if your man has never spoken about anything like that and if he doesn’t want to talk about it even if you insist, you should think twice about why you are still with him.

Sólo te está utilizando, pero es muy bueno en lo que hace para que no te des cuenta. Debes saber que un hombre así nunca será alguien en quien puedas apoyarte y siempre encontrará la manera de escapar de cualquier cosa seria.

6. He shows his ‘love’ for you only in bed

Un tipo así te dirá lo que quieras oír con tal de llevarte a la cama. Te dirá que eres la mujer más guapa que ha visto nunca y que tiene mucha suerte de tenerte en su vida. Usará el mismo método cuando necesita que le des dinero también.

He knows that he will get things easily if he is kind, so that is what he will do. Also, if you see that he just tends to satisfy his needs in bed and doesn’t care about yours, it is a big, red flag that he doesn’t love you enough.

He is just using you for the things that you can help him with and doesn’t feel any remorse about it.

7. Tiene muy mala reputación

Tal vez tu hombre tenía mala reputación antes de ti pero crees que por alguna razón puedes cambiarlo. Siento romper tu burbuja pero el nunca va a cambiar. Siempre será el mismo manipulador y mentiroso que siempre conseguirá lo que quiere utilizando sus métodos enfermizos.

He will go from girl to girl and use all the methods on them until it works on one of them. So, whatever you do, don’t let him treat you like shit and fight for your rights. If he doesn’t want to have an official relationship with you, don’t let him have anything with you.

Respect yourself because it is obvious that he doesn’t know what that means.