7 señales de que tu relación casi sentimental por fin empieza a ir en serio

It’s actually quite difficult pinpointing the exact one moment when things take a turn for the better in a relationship. That is because it’s rarely just one thing or one instance that is the deciding factor. 

It’s a multitude of things, feelings and habits that just make you realize that you have finally stepped into that serious stage where everything is so much more comfortable.

Right now, you may be stuck in an almost relationship, not sure when you are going to level up. And talking to him about it is a bit daunting. You feel like you’re in this gray area and you don’t see a way out.

But let me reassure you a little bit. Things might be better than you think—you’re just not aware of it because you keep expecting one thing to happen and determine that you’re serious now.

Lo que te pone serio es la sensación de que los muros se derrumban poco a poco entre vosotros dos. La sensación de poder hablar con él de cualquier cosa sin ningún juicio y sin reservas.

Un entorno cómodo donde el silencio es tranquilizador. La sensación de sentirse seguro a su alrededor y una conexión que trasciende cualquier otra cosa. Una sensación de serenidad, respeto y auténtica atracción.

Entre esas cosas bonitas e impalpables, aquí tienes las 7 señales más comunes de que por fin estás llegando a la etapa seria y puedes decir adiós a tu casi relación.

1. Discutís sincera y abiertamente vuestros sentimientos y opiniones.

You used to be apprehensive discussing your raw emotions with him but now, it’s like the wall has come down and you can just say anything.

The same goes for him. If you’re feeling mad or upset, you share it with one another instead of suppressing it.

If you’re uncertain about something he has done, you face him with it and vice versa.

Hay una nueva sensación de honestidad y transparencia que resulta muy cómoda y tranquilizadora. Es genuinamente tu mejor amigo y ya no hay necesidad de secretos.

2. Pasáis la mayor parte del tiempo juntos

You’re almost attached at the hip by now (but in a good way). There is no one else you’d rather spend your mornings, days and nights with but him! You enjoy doing the most mundane things together.

Puedes ir por la calle y empezar a reírte como un idiota de la cosa más aleatoria.

Le llamas para que te recoja en el trabajo y acabáis tomando un helado y paseando por el parque durante horas. Estar juntos se ha convertido en la parte más bonita del día de ambos.

3. You’ve met each other’s family and friends

You already know most of his family and his closest friends. You are familiar with his backstory and he’s up to speed on your past as well. Your lives are pretty much deeply intertwined at this point and it just feels so good.

It wasn’t rushed and it wasn’t dreaded. It felt like the most natural next stop and you are really happy about it. You even care dearly about all of the important people in his life and he cherishes yours as well. 

This means you are a legit part of his life now and the other way around. Guys never introduce random girls to their parents, so this is a big deal and it means he’s thinking about the future.

4. Sus temas de conversación incluyen el matrimonio, los hijos y los planes de futuro

You no longer shy away from the big stuff. Marriage, kids, a house in the suburbs… you discuss it all. And that’s a sign of a healthy, vida amorosa feliz con un futuro prometedor.

Couples who don’t share a future never discuss these things because it’s hard pretending to want it with someone you don’t really see yourself with anymore.

You used to talk only about music, movies and getting drunk. Don’t worry, that is perfectly normal when you start seeing someone.

You’ve got to start somewhere. But now, your topics are more adult and more serious.

Just like any real relationship, you’ve come to the grown-up side and you’re here to stay. Congrats, you seem to be in it for the long haul.

5. Siempre os consultáis antes de tomar decisiones importantes.

That’s the beauty of a serious relationship. You know you don’t HAVE to consult with him on every little thing but you genuinely want to hear his input.

His opinions mean a lot to you and it’s important that he is always in the loop with your ideas and plans.

The same goes for your man. He’ll never just say yes to a plan that includes the both of you before asking you if you’re okay with it first.

He’ll never agree on a job that will take him out of the country for a month before discussing it with you first. You make these decisions together, like a team. And a damn good one!

6. Sabes cuál es su plan quinquenal y viceversa

Let’s be real. We ALL have our five-year plans. Some are far-fetched and difficult to accomplish but hey, one can try!

Y ya no hay nada en él que te pille por sorpresa. Sabes exactamente lo que quiere de su vida y al revés.

Él te incluye en cada parte de su vida y lo mismo ocurre contigo. Ambos os veis reflejados en esos planes y, sabiéndolo, es mucho más fácil cumplirlos.

Wherever the future takes you and whether you make those plans a reality or not, one thing is for sure—it’s going to be by each other’s side.

7. Tus argumentos ya no te asustan, sólo te hacen más fuerte

Por fin has llegado a un punto en el que discutir ya no es algo que temes.

Ya no piensas he’s going to dump you over one silly disagreement and you’re totally fine with occasionally falling out.

It’s part of being a grown-up. People fight and disagree but those who want to stay together, work it out and move on with no resentment.

If you don’t fight every now and then, it would only mean you don’t care enough to express your discontent with each other. 

Y eso pronto llevaría a la falta de interés y a un final amargo. Así se arreglan las cosas, se besan, se reconcilian y siguen abrazados en las buenas y en las malas.