7 sinais de que a sua quase relação está finalmente a começar a ficar séria

It’s actually quite difficult pinpointing the exact one moment when things take a turn for the better in a relationship. That is because it’s rarely just one thing or one instance that is the deciding factor. 

It’s a multitude of things, feelings and habits that just make you realize that you have finally stepped into that serious stage where everything is so much more comfortable.

Right now, you may be stuck in an almost relationship, not sure when you are going to level up. And talking to him about it is a bit daunting. You feel like you’re in this gray area and you don’t see a way out.

But let me reassure you a little bit. Things might be better than you think—you’re just not aware of it because you keep expecting one thing to happen and determine that you’re serious now.

O que a torna séria é a sensação de que as paredes estão a cair lentamente entre vocês os dois. A sensação de ser capaz de falar com ele sobre qualquer coisa sem qualquer julgamento e sem reservas.

Um ambiente confortável onde o silêncio é calmante. A sensação de estar seguro ao pé dele e uma ligação que transcende tudo o resto. Uma sensação de serenidade, respeito e uma atração genuína.

Entre essas coisas bonitas e impalpáveis, eis os 7 sinais mais comuns de que está finalmente a chegar à fase séria e pode dizer adeus à sua quase relação!

1. Discutem os vossos sentimentos e opiniões de forma honesta e aberta uns com os outros

You used to be apprehensive discussing your raw emotions with him but now, it’s like the wall has come down and you can just say anything.

The same goes for him. If you’re feeling mad or upset, you share it with one another instead of suppressing it.

If you’re uncertain about something he has done, you face him with it and vice versa.

Há um novo sentimento de honestidade e transparência que é muito confortável e tranquilizador. Ele é genuinamente o teu melhor amigo e não há mais necessidade de segredos.

2. Passam a maior parte do vosso tempo um com o outro

You’re almost attached at the hip by now (but in a good way). There is no one else you’d rather spend your mornings, days and nights with but him! You enjoy doing the most mundane things together.

Podemos andar na rua e começar a rir como idiotas das coisas mais aleatórias.

Telefona-lhe para ele a ir buscar ao trabalho e acabam por ir comer um gelado e passear no parque durante horas. Estar juntos tornou-se a parte mais bonita dos vossos dias.

3. You’ve met each other’s family and friends

You already know most of his family and his closest friends. You are familiar with his backstory and he’s up to speed on your past as well. Your lives are pretty much deeply intertwined at this point and it just feels so good.

It wasn’t rushed and it wasn’t dreaded. It felt like the most natural next stop and you are really happy about it. You even care dearly about all of the important people in his life and he cherishes yours as well. 

This means you are a legit part of his life now and the other way around. Guys never introduce random girls to their parents, so this is a big deal and it means he’s thinking about the future.

4. Os vossos temas de conversa incluem casamento, filhos e planos para o futuro

You no longer shy away from the big stuff. Marriage, kids, a house in the suburbs… you discuss it all. And that’s a sign of a healthy, vida amorosa feliz com um futuro prometedor.

Couples who don’t share a future never discuss these things because it’s hard pretending to want it with someone you don’t really see yourself with anymore.

You used to talk only about music, movies and getting drunk. Don’t worry, that is perfectly normal when you start seeing someone.

You’ve got to start somewhere. But now, your topics are more adult and more serious.

Just like any real relationship, you’ve come to the grown-up side and you’re here to stay. Congrats, you seem to be in it for the long haul.

5. Falam sempre um com o outro antes de tomarem decisões importantes

That’s the beauty of a serious relationship. You know you don’t HAVE to consult with him on every little thing but you genuinely want to hear his input.

His opinions mean a lot to you and it’s important that he is always in the loop with your ideas and plans.

The same goes for your man. He’ll never just say yes to a plan that includes the both of you before asking you if you’re okay with it first.

He’ll never agree on a job that will take him out of the country for a month before discussing it with you first. You make these decisions together, like a team. And a damn good one!

6. Sabe qual é o seu plano a cinco anos e vice-versa

Let’s be real. We ALL have our five-year plans. Some are far-fetched and difficult to accomplish but hey, one can try!

E já não há nada nele que a apanhe de surpresa. Sabe-se exatamente o que ele quer da vida dele e o contrário também.

Ele inclui-a em todas as partes da sua vida e o mesmo se aplica a si. Ambos se revêem nesses planos e, sabendo isso, é muito mais fácil concretizá-los.

Wherever the future takes you and whether you make those plans a reality or not, one thing is for sure—it’s going to be by each other’s side.

7. Os seus argumentos já não o assustam, apenas o tornam mais forte

Chegaram finalmente a um ponto em que ter uma discussão já não é algo que temam.

Já não pensa he’s going to dump you over one silly disagreement and you’re totally fine with occasionally falling out.

It’s part of being a grown-up. People fight and disagree but those who want to stay together, work it out and move on with no resentment.

If you don’t fight every now and then, it would only mean you don’t care enough to express your discontent with each other. 

E isso conduziria rapidamente a uma falta de interesse e a um fim amargo. Desta forma, resolvem as vossas merdas, beijam-se e fazem as pazes e continuam a abraçar-se com força, no bom e no mau sentido!