7 señales sutiles de que tu hombre esconde su corazón roto

No salgas con un hombre con el corazón roto si no estás preparada para manejarlo. 

Because only one thing can happen. After the struggle of trying to understand him and the reasons why he’s acting cold and distant, you will be in serious danger of ending up with a broken heart, too. 

Cuando una persona fracasa en el amor, necesita un tiempo a solas. Necesita reorganizar sus prioridades y dejar pasar un tiempo para poder curarse en paz. Necesita recomponer sus piezas rotas.

That is the act of self-love. For as long as a person doesn’t respect or love themselves, they are unable of loving anyone else. 

So, if you’ve met a great guy and something about him doesn’t seem quite right, hit the brakes and really observe what is going on. It’s for your own good. 

I’ll tell you right away. Don’t rush into a relationship with the naive thought that you could change someone.

No one has the power to do that unless that person has already come to the point in their life when they realize it’s time to move on. 

In his case, it’s dealing with a broken heart, healing and finding someone else to continue his life with. 

To avoid becoming someone’s rebound, read these signs to make sure if your guy is hiding something from you. Read it to see for yourself that he’s hiding a broken heart. 

1. Habla mal de su ex

Okay, it’s normal to mention your ex a couple of times, especially if you just came out of that relationship, but your man doesn’t only mention his ex.

Habla de ella en exceso como si hubiera matado a su gato o le hubiera encerrado en un sótano. 

That right there should be your first red alert that he still has some strong feelings toward her. Actually, better said, that he is wounded and he still hasn’t let go. 

2. Tiene miedo de cometer

Aunque muchos hombres miedo al compromiso en general y sin ninguna razón válida más que son mujeriegos y playboys, tu hombre actúa como si tuviera una razón para tener miedo.

On the one hand, you have a feeling that he wants to be close to you, that he doesn’t want to lose or let go of you.

Pero, por otro lado, cada vez que se menciona el futuro, se apaga inmediatamente. 

He doesn’t want to make any plans and he distances himself from you whenever you try to talk about the future. This is his fear talking, his fear of getting his heart broken once again. 

The thing is, you can’t count on a hurt man. Even though he wants to be with you, he will never fully be all in as long as he has ghosts from the past haunting him. You don’t want to face his ghosts. You’ll get hurt. 

3. Es sarcástico con el amor

Siempre que habla de amor, está lleno de negatividad. Simplemente cree que no hay final feliz.

Sus comentarios están llenos de amargura y resentimiento. Por supuesto, la razón de ello es su corazón roto. 

You can’t change how he feels, nor can you help him. That’s the process he needs to go through by himself. So, if you don’t want to end up just like him, don’t get involved. 

4. He’s mysterious as hell

It’s absolutely impossible to figure him out. You keep trying to pull some information out of him but you fail every time.

Te dirá exactamente cuánto quiere. Cualquier cosa fuera de eso, puedes olvidarla.

Men who’ve been hurt or who are still hurting keep a lot to themselves. They don’t want to open up because naturally, they are risking getting hurt again.

Who in their right mind would do that? Especially if they still haven’t healed from the last heartbreak. 

5. Es indeciso cuando se trata de disponibilidad emocional

Su comportamiento puede ser muy frustrante. La cosa es que nunca sabes a qué atenerte con él.

There are times when he is very available, times when he even lets you into his life. He suddenly shows vulnerability and he isn’t afraid of sharing his feelings. 

Podrías acostumbrarte fácilmente a ese comportamiento pero, de repente, todo cambia.

Se repliega sobre sí mismo y vuelve a levantar los muros que le servían para protegerse, llevándote de nuevo al punto de partida. 

One moment he is emotionally available and the next one he is not. Do you want to live like that? Never knowing what’s going on?

6. He doesn’t trust anyone

No lo oculta. De hecho, es muy abierto al respecto. No puede confiar en ti porque su confianza fue violada la última vez que tuvo una relación.

But no matter whether he’s hiding it or not, the point is, you won’t be able to have a functional relationship with someone who doesn’t trust you. 

Un hombre con problemas de confianza cuestionará cada decisión que tomes.

Nunca aceptará nada de lo que le digas y, más tarde, se disculpará por su comportamiento. Ten en cuenta que esto nunca cambiará. 

7. Te compara con su ex

Esto no es malo para tu relación, ya que esa mujer claramente lo ha hecho todo mal, mientras que tú no.

But there is something you probably haven’t put much thought into.

¿Te has parado a pensar cómo afectará a tu autoestima esta comparación constante entre tú y la otra mujer? 

Te presionan mucho para que no metas la pata como ella.

After constant mentioning of his ex and how she did this and that, you’ll start thinking carefully about not making the same mistakes. 

Esto puede llegar a ser bastante desordenado y destructivo para ti.