8 cosas que pasan cuando conoces a un buen chico después de una relación tóxica

The biggest problem in a toxic relationship is that you aren’t necessarily aware you are in one. You get used to mistreatment because it gradually becomes a part of your life.

There can be happy moments (when your abuser is in the ‘mood’) which make you forget those bad ones that happened and are about to happen.

Las relaciones tóxicas crean adicción . You can’t burn that bridge because you have some kind of security. You have someone who supposedly cares for you—someone who should care for you.

But, you don’t know any better, so you stick to him.

Las relaciones tóxicas son un reto . You think it’s up to you to make your own happiness in this kind of a relationship.

You think things don’t fall from the sky and you think it’s your obligation to make your relationship work.

There’s no harm in trying to make things work out, but bear in mind—you have to fight for someone who is worth fighting for.

Abusers don’t deserve to be fought for.

Las relaciones tóxicas tienen que ver con el miedo . Most women keep thinking that being in a dysfunctional relationship is better than being single. They don’t have the courage to break free from their abusers.

Véase también: 10 señales de que estás en una relación tóxica

Pero, algunos de ellos do encuentran el valor para romper las cadenas de su relación abusiva sólo para tropezar con otro obstáculo.

Conocen a alguien nuevo y todo lo que se supone que es normal en una relación se sale de su zona de confort. Están acostumbrados a que se les trate mal.

Estas son algunas cosas que te pueden pasar cuando conoces a un buen chico después del que te hizo sentir como una mierda:

Tendrás espacio y apoyo para aprender a quererte a ti mismo

Lo primero que tienes que hacer es aprende a quererte a ti mismo. Tienes que confiar en ti mismo porque nadie puede saber lo que es bueno para ti.

Tú eres la única persona que conoce y controla esa parte de tu vida.

Estar con un buen chico te dará las condiciones adecuadas para crecer y convertirte en la mujer que sabes que necesitas ser.

Una vez que lo haya conseguido, estará listo para pasar al siguiente paso.

You’ll experience unknown ‘strange’ feelings

You’ve suffered enough and now when you’ve met a good guy, grab the bull by the horns and don’t let go.

En lugar de tener miedo a los nuevos sentimientos, abraza tu relación positiva y saludable.

All of them are supposed to be like that and that is something you aren’t ready to understand, yet.

Don’t be afraid to let yourself go because this guy will understand that you walked through hell and back.

You’ll expect the same story all over again

You’ve lost faith in people. After being treated like s**t, you are afraid you’ll be treated like that again.

When you start a new relationship you can’t shake off the feeling he is the same as the one before.

For you, it’s impossible to imagine there is someone there for you who won’t treat you badly.

You settled for a guy who doesn’t deserve you and now that you’ve experienced the opposite treatment (love that you deserve), you can’t imagine what kept you going in your toxic relationship.

You’ll overanalyze everything

Te trata como te mereces pero hay algo que te molesta.

You can’t accept the fact he is behaving like that because he cares about you. You are overanalyzing stuff, looking for hidden motives.

However, there aren’t any.

Most probably, you will keep your distance and look at things from a different perspective just to reassure yourself he doesn’t want to do you any harm.

Hopefully, then, you will realize there aren’t any hidden motives and his love for you is pure and long-term.

You’ll think he’s too good to be true

You can’t get rid of the feeling something will go wrong in your relationship any moment.

You expect he will lose it. Maybe he will get rid of that ‘goodie-goodie’ mask and show his real face.

But, he stays the same—full of understanding, patience and ready to love you. There is absolutely no reason not to trust him, but your wounds haven’t healed yet. It will take time and he is aware of that.

You are waiting for the ‘perfect storm’

In toxic relationships, fights come out of nowhere. Even now, you can’t relax because you have the constant feeling that fighting is about to begin.

Las peleas y los malos tratos formaban parte de tu vida cotidiana, y estás tan acostumbrado a ellos que esperas que ocurran.

You can’t understand he is not like that. He is different and you are confused because you are used to a completely different scenario.

You’ll apologize a lot

Debido a los constantes conflictos en tu relación anterior, estabas acostumbrado a pedir disculpas a la gente todo el tiempo.

You used to apologize to your partner just to calm him down and avoid conflict. You apologized for the things you did and didn’t do wrong.

Aprenderás a confiar en él

Over time, you will get used to good treatment—the treatment you deserve—and you will start to trust your guy completely.

You will realize he doesn’t want to hurt you and he never will.

Slowly, you will start showing him your vulnerable side because you’ve finally made sure he will never hurt you.

Aprenderás qué es el verdadero amor. Tu experiencia tóxica te hará más fuerte pero después vuelve a confiar en las personas.

Por fin verás lo que significa amar a alguien que te corresponde, que te merece y te respeta.

Don’t give up!