8 cosas que deberías saber antes de salir con una chica a la que le han roto el corazón

Nunca me di cuenta de lo mucho que me afectó. Cuando estaba pasando, supongo que estaba demasiado estresada para pensar en mí misma y en qué haría a partir de ahí. Sólo quería escapar de él a toda costa.

I didn’t realize how guarded I was and how I had built this bulletproof wall around me to make sure to not get hurt ever again. I was so traumatized saliendo con él y yo estaba atrapado en el pasado.

I didn’t want to move on because the pain took control of me. I felt sorry for myself and I spent so many nights crying over my past actions and him.

Culpé a Dios, culpé a todo el mundo pero, sobre todo, me culpé a mí mismo.

I didn’t want to forgive myself and I didn’t want to leave the past where it belonged. I was stuck in it and I couldn’t find a way out. It was a never-ending enchanted circle.

De vez en cuando, sentía que me había hecho más fuerte y que podía dejar todo eso atrás, pero entonces mi pasado volvía a absorberme.

Perdí mi autoestima y me odiaba. Ahora, cuando miro atrás, lo que más siento es rabia. No ira hacia él, sino hacia mí misma.

I’m furious because I let him make me think of myself as less worthy and of guilty of everything that happened to us.

I thought I didn’t deserve to be happyPensé que era un desastre hasta que dejé de compadecerme de mí mismo y desperté.

He didn’t have the power to rule over me. Too bad it took me that long to realize that. Too bad I put myself through hell and back because I was too blind to see how much I really deserved.

I’m ready now. He left a huge mark on my life. He changed me. I’m not saying that I’m a different person, it’s just that I don’t see the world like I used to see it.

But that’s okay because I’m not afraid anymore. I’ve felt things and I’m ready for whatever life throws at me because what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.

I’m ready to open my heart again and if destiny so decides, I’m ready to have my heart broken again. He was my lesson, he made me stronger, and he made me smarter.

Encontré esa parte de mí que me faltaba. Encontré ese gatillo que necesitaba apretar para volver a la vida.

Me llevó mucho tiempo llegar a donde estoy hoy. Si alguna vez conoces a una chica rota como yo, prométeme que intentarás comprenderla.

Promise me that you’re going to look after her. Promise me that she won’t just be temporary because she wouldn’t be able to take it. Not right now.

Promise me that you will be there for her because….

She won’t trust you right away

She will be suspicious of your actions and your feelings. She won’t believe the words you say to her because she has heard them a thousand times before.

Le prometieron el mundo, le dieron falsas esperanzas, pero nunca ocurrió nada. Ella no vio nada de eso.

She won’t show affection so easily

La primera vez que estuvo enamorada, se lo gritó al mundo y le salió el tiro por la culata. Le pisotearon el corazón y se lo rompieron.

You have to understand that she can’t just open up that easily and show how she feels about you, but never doubt her.

Puede que no lo diga y puede que lo oculte, pero ten paciencia porque una vez que se abra, vas a sentir un amor que no sabías que existía.

Será extremadamente crítica

She will think that it’s her fault for everything that has happened to her. He robbed her of her self-respect and self-love. She was left with nothing but the feeling of guilt.

Don’t let her treat herself poorly. Don’t let her abandon herself. Show her that there is hope and prove to her that you are not like everybody else.

Demuéstrale que de verdad te importa y estate a su lado cuando más te necesite.

Ella va a retroceder si usted trata de moverse demasiado rápido

You have to take it slowly, otherwise you’ll scare her off. She has just had a huge trauma and it took her awhile to heal and to bounce back from it.

She won’t be making the same mistake again and if you pressure her into doing something she isn’t yet comfortable doing, she will run away.

Probablemente tiene un plan B

No matter how much she loves you, she has a plan in case that the two of you don’t work out. She’s been to hell and back and she won’t risk going there again.

You don’t have to be angry about it; it’s just a consequence of her heartbreak and pain that she felt and will never forget.

Ella sobreanalizará todo

She will second-guess your every decision like she second-guesses hers, too. It’s nothing personal, it’s a defense mechanism she uses not to get hurt ever again.

Even when you treat her the way she deserves, she will be suspicious because she isn’t used to being treated that way. It will take her a while to realize that she was supposed to be treated like that from the beginning.

She will apologize to you all the time but isn’t her fault

The one before you made her that way. He gaslighted her and he turned her into an obedient puppet. She didn’t have a mind of her own and her voice was completely silent.

She always apologized to avoid fights he initiated. She apologized for things she did and didn’t do.

Le aterroriza compromiso

Le recuerda a cuando estaba atrapada en una relación que la estaba matando poco a poco. Le aterroriza que tú le hagas lo mismo.

Así que, tened paciencia con ella porque merece toda la espera del mundo.

Be patient with her. She is a girl who had her heart broken. Don’t you break it too…