8 maneras de hacer que se dé cuenta de que te importa de verdad aunque no puedas decirlo

Three-words-eight-letters—¡menudo reto! For some reason, it’s one of the hardest phrases to say. This doesn’t mean you don’t love or don’t care about that guy you have been crazy about for the last few months, but something makes you think you are too bashful to say it out loud, or you are too afraid to be seen as a vulnerable person, o te convences de que no estás en condiciones de decir nada sobre tus sentimientos.

Nadie puede obligarte a usar estas tres palabras, pero, afortunadamente, hay muchas otras formas de demostrarle que te preocupas por él.

Una palabra es una palabra, un sonido es un sonido, pero lo que realmente importa son las diferentes cosas que dices y cosas que haces que muestren tu intención y atención a ese hombre que adoras sinceramente.

1. Sé tú mismo

Don’t ask yourself if you give enough to him or not. You should never try comparing what you give versus what you get. This is obvious as it has to be a fair game. But if it sounds natural for you to be there for the one you are attached to, anytime he needs you, anytime he asks for you—¿por qué actuar de otra manera?

2. Dedícale algo de tu tiempo

Dedícale tiempo, sobre todo si es lo que quieres. Tómate el tiempo para quedar con él cuando no le estés escribiendo en ese momento; cuando no estés pensando en él en ese momento.

Is it dependence if you feel the need to see him just to brighten your days – si no sus días – and if you can barely spend a day without seeing him in person?

Well, it’s called having a deep, deep, deep affection. It’s all good if you and him are on the same wavelength and have similar expectations from this relationship that is yours.

3. Sé atento y comparte tus mejores consejos

Listen to him when he needs to vent to you and don’t mind giving him tips when he asks for your help. Always make sure to explain things carefully and completely. Thus, there is no misunderstanding, and nobody ends up being hurt.

Go out of your way when you know he really needs you at a specific moment. It’s fair to do so because he would probably do the same for you.

4. Agradézcale y hágale saber

Thank him—for what he does, for what he gives you, for what he says to you, and for who he is. Why? Throughout your life you meet a wide range of different people. Some treat you like kings and queens, others treat you like—nothing. So, when you recognize that that guy does respect you and the person you are, it sounds logical to thank him.

5. Habla con los ojos

Like you probably heard before, eyes are windows to the soul. Thus, look at him in the most genuine way you would ever do. Look at him in awe if you feel like it, but don’t be afraid if he sees it in your eyes. De todos modos, ¿por qué deberías tener miedo de amar o de demostrar tu amor? It’s a bit like making things complicated when they can actually be way more simple.

6. Su comunicación es su mejor herramienta

Your words regarding your feelings for him should be naturally nice, kind, supportive, positive, and overall, honest when it comes the time to interact with him. Yes, most of your deeds (like your messages) should be wonderfully sweet, but don’t remain silent if you need to let him know something. Don’t shut it up just for his sake.

Caring about him means also being real with him, so dare to say something when something needs to be said. However, do pay attention to the way you articulate your thoughts. You need to scrupulously pick the good words because you don’t want to hurt him on purpose.

Esfuérzate siempre más si sientes que la relación atraviesa una zona de turbulencias. ¿Cómo? Habla; ábrelo de forma inteligente y calmada; pero intenta no gritar. La paciencia es algo difícil de mantener, pero cuando la usas, en realidad ahorras mucho. Te ahorras tu energía, salvas tu mente y salvas tu relación.

7. Mantener conversaciones profundas sobre los dos

You care about that relationship, thus you care about its terms and its future. That’s when you need to play it fair by preventing him from the eventual reactions or situations that could happen—the harsh ones, the ones that could hurt your bonds, the ones nobody likes to talk about but are still a part of the real world.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t trust him, that you don’t believe in the relationship you share with him, it means you know what it is and what it takes to handle a sincere relationship.

¿Por qué harías eso? To make sure you’re not going to be a part of all these people who cut a relationship off because they couldn’t go through some various crises. A relationship lasts if both parts work together, because yes, it’s teamwork. Thus you need to talk about you two.

8. Pídele ese único favor

You need to ask him to stop you if you go too far, if you ever hurt him, if you ever offend him—because chances are, you never meant to do so. Because you are a person, you make mistakes and it’s alright. It’s human nature. Everybody does it, and he may do it as well, but if you don’t want to mess anything with him, you should ask him that favor.

In the end, you may not be the only one to be scared to pronounce the Three-words-eight-letters sentence or to use the specific words to share your feelings with him. This especially during the first months. It is worthwhile to try to make any relationship last, and depending on the way you will invest yourself in it, you can make it work—puedes hacer que funcione.

por Mathilde Clemence Personne