8 formas de perder el interés de un chico sin darte cuenta

¿Te has preguntado alguna vez por qué algunos chicos se esfuerzan tanto al principio y luego, de repente, dejan de intentarlo?

Aunque en la mayoría de los casos la razón es que son gilipollas, también hay algunas situaciones en las que TÚ puedes ser el culpable de ese comportamiento.

Verás, los hombres están prácticamente conectados de la misma manera, y todos se apegan al mismo viejo patrón: PERSEGUIR-GANAR. Y si interrumpes ese patrón, matarás su interés sin darte cuenta.

So, if you’ve noticed that your guy has been acting distant and different lately, there’s a chance that you’ve killed his interest in chasing you by doing one or more of the following 8 things unwittingly.

8 ways you’re killing a guy’s interest without even realizing it

Empezaste a perseguirle

If you chase him, he will no longer chase you. It’s that simple.

If you’re constantly texting him, initiating date nights, complimenting him and doing everything to make him feel special, it means you’ve started persiguiéndoloy debería ser al revés.

You should be the one enjoying all of these privileges without any pressure and the need to prove to him that you’re worthy.

Has accedido a Netflix y a relajarte demasiado pronto

It’s every guy’s dream to manage the transition from “going to the restaurant dates” to “Netflix and chill dates at his place”.

If he suggests this to you, it is because he likes more casual date options where he will not feel that much pressure to impress you and because it is easier to convince you to sleep with him (if you haven’t already).

Whatever the reasons be, you shouldn’t agree to come to his place too early because once you’re into casual dating, he will think that his job here is done, and he will slowly stop chasing you.

Te acostaste con él demasiado pronto

Yup. If you sleep with them too soon, men have this tendency to think that you’re an easy catch, and they didn’t have to try hard to win you because you are satisfied with much less.

Quieren una mujer que eleve sus exigencias, se atenga a ellas y les haga trabajar duro para conquistarla.

You’ve been an open book

There’s nothing wrong with being honest about your whereabouts and life in general, but you need to find the balance.

If he knows everything about your life from A-Z, your habits, every pet you’ve ever had, family, friends and even your plans for the next ten years, he will stop being interested in you.

Tienes que mantener el misterio y dejar que se pregunte de vez en cuando dónde estás y qué haces.

That way, he’ll see that he has so much to learn about you yet, and he will not stop chasing you until he knows every single detail about you (and you’ll give him everything bit by bit).

You’re too available

If you jump the same second he calls you out and start dressing, you’re being too available.

If you discard your plans only because he wants to see you, you’re being too available.

Y esa es la razón por la que él también empezó a perder interés. Disfruta de tu propia vida y hazle saber que a veces tendrá que esperar un poco para pasar tiempo contigo.

You don’t have boundaries

If you’re accepting everything he gives you, if you’re absorbing all of his words without ever contradicting him, it means you don’t have boundaries.

Y cuando un chico sabe que puede decirte cualquier cosa y hacer cualquier cosa sin que protestes o te enfades con él, te perderá el respeto, lo que va unido a la pérdida de interés.

Set strict boundaries, stick to them, and you’ll be in control of the game.

You don’t ask for what you want

Pedir lo que quieres es algo por lo que toda mujer debería esforzarse hoy en día.

If you’re not satisfied with something but you’re having problems telling him that, you’re deliberately denying yourself happiness only to make him feel good which is totally unsexy.

Pide siempre lo que quieras y exige que te lo dé. Es la única forma de mantener su interés.

You don’t give him ultimatums

Has it ever happened that he’s disappointed you somehow by not arriving on time or something else more serious, and you didn’t say a word?

Seguiste siendo amable aunque por dentro te morías de ganas de contárselo todo.

If you don’t give him ultimatums and make him think about what he’s done, he will darte por sentadoy ya no estará interesado en perseguirte.

Así que lo mejor es reconocer sus esfuerzos o castigar su comportamiento cuando sea necesario, y te aseguro que seguirá persiguiéndote.