8 microesfuerzos que debería poner en tu relación si es el elegido
Una relación es cosa de dos, y las parejas deben esforzarse por igual el uno por el otro. A veces las mujeres lo olvidan y van más allá, mientras que los hombres dan por sentado todo lo que hacen.
Estos microesfuerzos están aquí para recordar a los hombres todas las cosas que deberían hacer por su media naranja sin pensárselo demasiado, para recordar a las mujeres que se merecen a alguien que sepa corresponder a todo lo que ellas dan, y que sólo un hombre que se esfuerza es el indicado.
If he is the one, he should…
1. Enviarte un mensaje de texto primero (al menos una vez al día)
Debería haber una regla que dijera que las parejas necesitan saber el uno del otro al menos dos veces al día. Aunque 3 mensajes al día serían perfectos: buenos días, buenas tardes y un texto de buenas noches para dormir mejor.
This is especially important for couples who don’t see each other often, so the texts are what gives them that feeling of togetherness.
If he is the one, he will text you first at least once a day because he won’t be able to stand not hearing from you for an entire day. A man who says that’s not true is a liar.
2. Mostrar afecto sin una agenda
Mimos, besos, abrazos often say ‘I love you’ more strongly than words ever will. They are there to show love, affection, warmth, and even comfort.
So if he hugs you a lot, kisses you every time he is saying goodbye, and cuddles with you often without trying to get into your pants every single time, it’s all a good sign that he is the one and that he has feelings that are stronger than anything he can say aloud.
3. Hacer tiempo
This is really a micro-effort even though most men today act like they should get a reward for finding time in their busy schedules. If you are making time for them, they should make time for you. It’s that simple.
So don’t buy into the “I am too busy.” BS excuse. When he is the one for you, he will make time—there is no doubt about it. No matter how busy he is or what he has going on, you will see that he is making an effort to be with you.
4. Enviar un mensaje al azar para recordarte que está pensando en ti y que te echa de menos
No digo que inunde tu bandeja de entrada de mensajes pero ese emoji de beso en mitad del día o texto plano de pocas frases tendrá Te echo de menos escrito por todas partes.
This text doesn’t have to arrive every day, but it’s nice if he sends one every now and then just to remind you how special you are. I bet you are doing the same for him.
5. Preocúpate por tus pensamientos y sentimientos
Most men are not in touch with their feelings like women are, and a lot of things can happen to a woman emotionally that they won’t even detect.
But if he takes the time to ask you how are you or notices that you are behaving differently, that’s exactly the micro-effort you need. It shows that he cares about your wellbeing and that he wants to contribute to making you feel better.
6. Hacer planes
It doesn’t have to be all the time, but it’s really nice when a man plans a date regardless if it’s going out or staying home.
It can be something as simple as making you lunch after a hard day’s work, making you a bubble bath or planning a night out full of fun things to do. The important thing is that he tries and that his efforts are visible.
7. Hacer pequeñas cosas significativas
Arroparte cuando te quedas dormido en el sofá, recordar algo que dijiste hace tiempo, hacerte el café por la mañana, incluso sacar la basura le llevará sólo unos minutos pero te alegrará el día entero.
Doing things that he knows will help you and make you feel good is what it is all about. If he is the one, he won’t waste his words in reassuring you that he loves you. He will do these little big things to show you he cares.
8. Satisfacerle
If he is selfish in bed, he will be selfish in every other aspect of the relationship, and that’s just wrong on so many levels.
That’s why the right one for you should show you the diferencia entre tener sexo y hacer amor anteponiendo tu placer.
