9 señales de que tienes un amigo de mierda
¿Cuántas veces te has sentido bien y luego tu amigo ha hecho algo que te ha aguado la fiesta?
How many times has it been when you needed someone and your friend wasn’t there for you?
How many times have you felt alone in the presence of your ‘friend’?
If the answer to all of these questions is too many then I’m afraid you’ve got yourself un amigo de mierda que no te sirve para nada.
They’re self-absorbed
It’s like every topic you talk about seems to always end up back on them.
No importa lo que pueda estar ocurriendo en tu vida o cuánta atención merezcan los acontecimientos de tu vida, tú eres el centro de atención sólo durante unos minutos y luego ellos necesitan que se les devuelva la atención.
They talk behind their other friends’ backs
Quejarse es una cosa pero empezar dramas innecesarios es otra.
Sharing is something mandatory in friendships but think about it, if they talk behind their other friends’ backs to you, what’s there to stop them from doing the same thing to you, too?
Nunca tienen la culpa de nada
I just don’t understand why it’s so hard to own up to a simple mistake.
At some point we’re all gonna grow up and start working on solutions instead of focusing on finding excuses but what do we do until then?
Actúan de forma diferente con otras personas
It might just be me but I don’t think bullying and friendship are words that should be used in the same sentence.
La forma en que te traten nunca debería depender de quién te rodea.
Treating you well when it’s just you and them and then constantly joking about your insecurities and whatnot when there are other people around you is just not right.
Te hacen sentir ansioso
Okay, there is nothing wrong with a little bit of teasing and fooling around but when they make you feel anxious or nervous when you’re around them, then it’s a clear red flag that they’re vampiros emocionales y amigos de mierda.
Te sientes excluido
La gente normalmente siente que importa cuando está con sus amigos, pero tú no.
When you’re around them you just feel left out. In most cases you’re a last-minute call or you’re there in case they’re bored.
Todo lo que hacen es una competición
You know that thought, “I’m just telling you something funny about my day, why are you trying to one-up me?”—whatever you did, they’ve already done it twice.
Whatever you do, they can do it better. Somehow they make you feel like they’re the one who’ll get on better in life and after a while it stops resembling a friendship and it starts looking like a goddamn competition.
Se enfadan contigo cuando haces algo sin contar con ellos
When they leave you behind that’s okay but once you do something fun without them, jealousy instantly kicks in and they make you feel bad for having a life and activities that don’t include them.
They don’t make you feel better when you’re down but expect differently from you
When you’re down all they say is I don’t know, man; It’s gonna be okay; Don’t stress about it; or they don’t even have the decency to respond and they immediately start talking about their problems.
This would be okay if they didn’t expect you to listen to them for hours and solve all of their problems.
It’s no longer hard to tell if you have a shitty friend. Sooner or later you’re gonna have to learn the art of letting go and you’ll come to realize that life is better without this kind of person.
There will be friends who’ll stuck by your side no matter what and who merecen el mundo. These are not the one so let them go. Trust me when I tell you, they need you, you don’t need them.
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