9 segnali che indicano che hai un amico di merda

Quante volte vi è capitato di sentirvi bene e poi un amico ha fatto qualcosa per rovinarvi la festa?

How many times has it been when you needed someone and your friend wasn’t there for you?

How many times have you felt alone in the presence of your ‘friend’?

If the answer to all of these questions is too many then I’m afraid you’ve got yourself un amico di merda che non vi serve a nulla.

They’re self-absorbed

It’s like every topic you talk about seems to always end up back on them.

Non importa cosa stia succedendo nella vostra vita o quanta attenzione meritino gli eventi della vostra vita, voi ottenete i riflettori solo per pochi minuti e poi avete bisogno di nuovo dell'attenzione.

They talk behind their other friends’ backs

Lamentarsi è una cosa, ma scatenare drammi inutili è un'altra.

Sharing is something mandatory in friendships but think about it, if they talk behind their other friends’ backs to you, what’s there to stop them from doing the same thing to you, too?

Nulla è mai colpa loro

I just don’t understand why it’s so hard to own up to a simple mistake.

At some point we’re all gonna grow up and start working on solutions instead of focusing on finding excuses but what do we do until then?

Si comportano in modo diverso con le altre persone

It might just be me but I don’t think bullying and friendship are words that should be used in the same sentence.

Il modo in cui vi trattano non dovrebbe mai dipendere da chi vi circonda.

Treating you well when it’s just you and them and then constantly joking about your insecurities and whatnot when there are other people around you is just not right.

Vi fanno sentire ansiosi

Okay, there is nothing wrong with a little bit of teasing and fooling around but when they make you feel anxious or nervous when you’re around them, then it’s a clear red flag that they’re vampiri emotivi e amici di merda.

Vi sentite esclusi

Di solito le persone si sentono importanti quando sono circondate dai loro amici, ma non voi.

When you’re around them you just feel left out. In most cases you’re a last-minute call or you’re there in case they’re bored.

Tutto ciò che fanno è una competizione

You know that thought, “I’m just telling you something funny about my day, why are you trying to one-up me?”—whatever you did, they’ve already done it twice.

Whatever you do, they can do it better. Somehow they make you feel like they’re the one who’ll get on better in life and after a while it stops resembling a friendship and it starts looking like a goddamn competition.

Si arrabbiano quando si fa qualcosa senza di loro.

When they leave you behind that’s okay but once you do something fun without them, jealousy instantly kicks in and they make you feel bad for having a life and activities that don’t include them.

They don’t make you feel better when you’re down but expect differently from you

When you’re down all they say is I don’t know, man; It’s gonna be okay; Don’t stress about it; or they don’t even have the decency to respond and they immediately start talking about their problems.

This would be okay if they didn’t expect you to listen to them for hours and solve all of their problems.

It’s no longer hard to tell if you have a shitty friend. Sooner or later you’re gonna have to learn the art of letting go and you’ll come to realize that life is better without this kind of person.

There will be friends who’ll stuck by your side no matter what and who meritano il mondo. These are not the one so let them go. Trust me when I tell you, they need you, you don’t need them.

Prima di diagnosticarvi una depressione o una bassa autostima, assicuratevi che non vi stiate circondando di stronzi.