14 señales tempranas de que no es el adecuado para ti
Nunca inicia nada
A diferencia de un verdadero caballero, te deja hacer todo el trabajo pesado. Tú tienes que esforzarte mientras que él ni siquiera mueve el dedo meñique.
Tú inicias la conversación nueve de cada diez veces. Tú organizas las citas. Planificas los fines de semana. ¿Te has dado cuenta de que hacéis muchas cosas y acabáis de empezar?
Of course, it’s OK to initiate a conversation and plan things but if you are the only one doing it and he just goes with the flow, he is just playing the field and not so into you.
Si lo fuera, se esforzaría, pondría de su parte.
He has, “A lot on his plate,” right now
The famous, “I am so freaking busy,” excuses. They probably make you want to roll your eyes every time you hear them but you play along, you let it slide, even though deep down you know nobody is that busy.
Look at it from your own perspective—you are never too busy for the people you care about. You make time, no matter how little it may seem, you do your best. That’s why it shouldn’t be a problem for him to make time for you if he cares.
If he is, “Super busy,” all the time in the beginning, just imagine how “Busy,” he will be in the future.
Evita encontrarse contigo en público
If your encounters have limitations like only at night, in the middle of the night, only his place or yours, only some remote places (where there’s only a small risk of bumping into somebody either of you knows), he is up to no good.
Hay varias posibilidades. La primera es que él sólo está en ella por el sexo, la segunda es que eres su plan de respaldo y la última es que eres una chica de lado sin saberlo.
Ignora todas las cosas importantes sobre ti
He doesn’t respect your religious views or any of your other beliefs. He doesn’t respect your heritage or what you stand for.
He doesn’t have to be the same as you but he has to respect who you are and where you come from, that’s not something that should be ignored.
No está dispuesto a ceder un poco para hacerte feliz
He sees no place for compromise and adjustment, he only cares about his well-being. So, he would never go out to lunch with your relatives, stay home when you are feeling down, watch a movie he doesn’t like and so on.
Those ‘little big’ things that show that he is willing to do something that is unlike him are the ones that show real affection and emotions and he is lacking them.
Evita reunirse con tus amigos
O presentarte a los suyos. Conocer a los amigos es importante, sus opiniones cuentan, sobre todo al principio de la relación. Son parte integrante de tu vida.
Pero de alguna manera se salta las oportunidades de conocer a tus amigos, y ni siquiera se le pasa por la cabeza presentarte a los suyos.
He is not in it for the long haul so he isn’t concerned with you guys making spots in each other’s life.
Está tratando de cambiarte
He hasn’t even made an effort to get to know you properly but he already sees some faults in your behavior.
He stresses the things you should be doing differently and nothing you do ever seems right. He shouldn’t be making you this self-conscious.
Esta es una importante señal de alarma de un psicópata emocional que nunca debes ignorar. No tiene derecho a hacerlo y que quiera cambiarte tiene más que ver con él que contigo.
When you are in love you don’t see flaws that early on, you only concentrate on the good stuff. On the other hand, he is not perfect either and you are probably looking at him as though he is. If he is making you feel like you have to change right at the beginning, imagine how much worse things will get as the relationship progresses.
Su comportamiento es inmaduro
Juega al frío y al calor. Te presta toda la atención y luego se aleja. Un minuto está ahí y al siguiente no se le encuentra por ninguna parte.
Espera mucho antes de responderte. Tiene la mirada perdida cuando hay otras chicas cerca y disfruta viéndote celosa.
He is not ready for a relationship or any sort of commitment and he isn’t going to change any time soon.
Suele exagerar
He always makes a mountain out of a molehill. He has this urge to always be right and prove you wrong, like it’s some kind of competition he needs to win.
He forgets it’s not the problems, arguments and small fights that matter.
It’s never about winning or losing, it’s about the two of you working together to solve some problem or agreeing to disagree. If he puts these petty wins above you, he is not the one for you.
It’s still the honeymoon phase of a relationship and you are more sad than happy
Estos deberían ser tus días más felices. Es el momento en el que deberías estar en las nubes y soñando despierta y, en cambio, te pasas el día esperando a que te responda, a que encuentre el momento, y estás preocupada, disgustada y triste.
You don’t know where you stand with him and it’s driving you crazy. Is this really the honeymoon phase or warning signs telling you to get out?
No eres tú cuando estás con él
Dices cosas que no vienen a cuento. Te sientes nervioso todo el tiempo. De repente, finges que te gustan cosas que odias de corazón.
Las relaciones traen inevitablemente cambios, quieres ser mejor, hacerlo mejor y te inspiran y motivan, pero deben nunca cambies tu esencia.
When you are with the right man, you are relaxed, comfortable and the best version of yourself and not somebody you yourself don’t recognize.
Tiene problemas con su ex
His ex is very much a part of your relationship. He might not be over her yet so he keeps comparing you with her, bringing her up in random conversations or he’s still in touch with her.
Her presence influences your relationship in a negative way and you don’t know if he really is ready to move on.
Be careful about this one, and remember you deserve so much more than being somebody’s rebound.
Haces excusas por su mal comportamiento tan pronto
“He doesn’t care much about labels but he cares about me,” or, “He is not into texting so we rarely talk,” or, “He is too busy with work to spend time with me,” or, “He needs more time, that’s all.”
Y sigues repitiendo frases parecidas a estas, sabiendo perfectamente que no haces más que poner excusas.
He is not living up to your expectations, he isn’t putting in any effort, he has one foot out of the door, él no es para ti y probablemente estés demasiado enamorado para ver las cosas con claridad.
He only wants you when it’s all rosy
You can’t always be at your best. You are going to have bad days and that’s inevitable. Life happens, things go badly. But he doesn’t want to be around you when you are sad, upset or tired.
He wants to be around you only when everything is rosy and you are smiling. This just tells you that he doesn’t care about your feelings, that he is incapable of empathy or providing comfort.
No está ahí cuando más lo necesitas. No es la persona que estará ahí en las buenas y en las malas. No es tu persona para siempre.
