Lee esto si estás cansada de intentar arreglar a hombres rotos

Desde que tienes memoria, has estado atrapado en los mismos patrones tóxicos de relación.

You don’t even know why, but somehow it’s always ended the same with all the men you ever dated.

Conoces a un chico y, al principio, todo parece ir genial.

Sin embargo, pronto te das cuenta de que, por alguna razón, no está emocionalmente disponible.

Ves que su corazón está herido, que está rotoy que necesita curación.

Maybe he’s had a painful experience from his last relationships, maybe he’s had a traumatic childhood.

O quizá sólo le gusta fingir ser ese tipo duro que se niega a abrirse y mostrar emociones.

Maybe he is dealing with an addiction. Perhaps he’s stuck in a rough patch and can’t seem to move his life from a dead spot.

De cualquier manera, siempre quedas atrapada con hombres que necesitan tu ayuda con algo.

Por supuesto, la mayoría de las chicas correrían por sus vidas en el momento en que se dan cuenta de esto.

Or they’d give these men some time to get their shit together but would stay away from their healing process.

Pero tú no. You wouldn’t leave a man in trouble, would you now?

Así que, en lugar de perder el interés, te enamoras aún más de este tipo.

Lo ves como tu gran proyecto y decides poner todas tus fuerzas en ayudarle a ser mejor.

Al mismo tiempo, te ves como una especie de supermujer.

Te convences de que eres el único que tiene lo necesario para salvarlo.

After all, you can’t leave this guy hanging, can you? He is a lost soul and has no one to give him a hand but you.

Así que te encargas de sacarle de sus tinieblas. Tu misión es llevarle a la luz y poner su vida en orden.

Ever since you can remember, it’s been like this.

It’s like you’re a magnet for broken men who need repairing.

However, what’s in it for you? You constantly give and give without receiving anything in return.

Por supuesto, todo esto te agota. Afecta a tu salud mental y te deja cansado y agotado.

Además, no hay posibilidad de tener una relación sana en este tipo de condiciones.

You can’t focus on building a romance since you’re too busy trying to cure your partner.

Instead of being this dude’s girlfriend, you become everything else: his counselor, guide, parent, advisor, therapist…

Bueno, déjame decirte una cosa: it’s not your job to repair broken men.

It’s not your job to raise them, heal their traumas, or turn them into better people.

It’s not your duty to carry the weight of their emotional baggage on your shoulders.

It’s not your mission to save them o guiarles por la vida.

You’re not the one responsible for their problems, so you shouldn’t be the one solving them either.

Besides, you couldn’t do it even if you wanted to. Remember: You can’t save a man who doesn’t want to be saved.

You can’t show him the way if he doesn’t want to see it. You can’t open his heart to love if he’s the one who decided to shut it off.

You can’t glue his broken pieces back together nor can you change the essence of who he is.

Most importantly, you can’t make anyone happy if they don’t feel that way with or without you.

After all, most of these guys are not even emotionally damaged – they’re just gilipollas que se aprovechan de tu corazón bondadoso.

Así que, por favor, deja de hacer todo esto. Realize that you’re only hurting yourself while you’re actually not helping them in any way.

Remember: It’s not selfish to put yourself first. It’s not selfish to walk away from the ones who can’t give you what you need and deserve.

Instead of wasting all of your time on parenting immature boys who don’t have a clue what they want from life, focus on making yourself feel better.

En lugar de poner toda tu energía en curarlas, céntrate en encontrar un hombre de verdad que pueda ir contigo hombro con hombro por la vida.

Espera a un hombre que won’t magically solve your problems but who won’t expect you to fix his either.

A man who will reciprocate the effort you’re giving him and who won’t just use you until he doesn’t need you anymore.