5 maneras en las que te haces daño a ti mismo volviendo con tu ex tóxico

Have you ever felt like you’re trapped in an endless circle of love and hate with the guy you know isn’t right for you?

¿Cuando intentas salir de esa relación tóxica pero, de algún modo, siempre acabas arrastrado de nuevo a ella?

Well, it’s time for a reality check. It’s time you finally put a stop to these games and to stop going back to the man you have no future with.

And what is a better way of doing so then by coming to terms with all the ways you’re hurting yourself by going back to your toxic ex.

1. El pasado te persigue

Let’s face it—we can’t run away from our past, as much as we’d want to.

Everything we’ve been through up till this date has shaped us into becoming the people we are today and there is nothing you can do to forever erase your past traumas.

Sin embargo, es mucho más fácil curarse cuando te alejas física y mentalmente de la fuente de tu dolor.

It is one thing if you’re recovering from the damage someone you’ve cut off caused you and it is something completely different if that person is still a part of your life.

This is exactly what you’ve been trying to do—you’re trying to cura tu corazón junto al que la rompió en primer lugar.

Permítame que le diga que eso es imposible.

2. Empiezas a pensar que esto es lo que te mereces

Después de pasarte años al lado de alguien que te trata como a una mierda, con el tiempo, empiezas a aceptar este comportamiento como algo normal y corriente.

After a while, you stop seeing the truth: that you’re actually settling for less and you start thinking this is what you deserve.

Somehow, your toxic boyfriend managed to convince you that every other guy will be just like him because you’re the one who’s causing him to be this way.

Your miserable love life and bad mental health are exclusively your fault and you’re the one to blame for everything, right?

3. Le das permiso para que te rompa el corazón una vez más

Cuando sigues dando sin parar segundas oportunidades to someone who clearly doesn’t deserve them and to someone who has hurt you more than once, you’re also giving him an opportunity to do so again.

Y cuando se trata de tu novio tóxico, no hay duda de una cosa: es una oportunidad que sin duda aprovechará.

However, this shouldn’t surprise you, as you were the one who gave him the green light, the permission to keep on breaking your heart.

That is exactly what he’ll continue on doing because by forgiving him, you are indirectly telling him that there is nothing wrong with his behavior and that it is perfectly acceptable.

4. Tu autoestima ha desaparecido

Pasar años en un círculo interminable de romper con alguien tóxico y volver con él sacude toda tu personalidad.

Todo esto arruina tu salud emocional y mental y daña tu autoestima.

This is when the person you love puts all of his efforts into diminishing your worth, into putting you down, holding you back and convincing you that you’re good for nothing.

It doesn’t matter whether this guy emotionally, verbally or even physically abuses you, if he cheats on you or doesn’t give you enough attention—the point is the same.

This guy obviously isn’t aware of your true value and after a while, you start believing that you’re not good enough.

En consecuencia, tus inseguridades crecen y dices adiós a la confianza en ti mismo.

5. Te privas del verdadero amor

One of the saddest things you’re doing to yourself by constantly getting back together with your toxic ex is the fact that you’re depriving yourself of an opportunity to find true love.

Cada día que permaneces junto a este tipo es un día menos que tienes para conocer al hombre que está destinado a ser tuyo.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that you have to be in a relationship in order to be happy.

Sin embargo, puedo asegurarle que en algún lugar existe un hombre que le dará toda la el amor que mereces.

Even though you don’t have to actively seek this man, as long as you’re stuck in this unhealthy relationship you aren’t giving your forever person a chance to enter your life.

This way, you’re allowing your toxic boyfriend to ruin your future as well, after doing the same with your past and present.