Lee esto si has estado en una relación fallida

Las rupturas son duras, de eso no hay duda. Pierdes a la persona que te importa profundamente y, de repente, tienes que aprender a vivir sin ella.

It doesn’t matter who initiated the end of your relationship – whenever it happens, it’s painful for both parties.

Even if you’re the one who happened to stop loving your romantic partner, you can’t help but feel sorry for the fact that you two had to say your final goodbyes.

However, if you’re honest, you’ll see that breakups happen all the time.

This might sound harsh, but the truth is that every couple who doesn’t end up married or as life partners, has to part ways sooner or later.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that statistically speaking, most of your romantic relationships will end up with breakups. Sadly, it’s all a part of life and something we all have to face.

Nevertheless, what can be even worse is when you end things with someone you weren’t even really a couple with.

Pasar por un fracaso situación es mucho más doloroso que una relación fallida.

Sé que muchos no estarán de acuerdo conmigo aquí, pero créanme cuando digo que it’s quite possible to miss someone you never actually had.

You don’t only miss this person, you suffer even more for the potential your romance might have had.

Lloras por todo lo que podrías y deberías haber hecho. Todas las cosas que imaginabas junto a este hombre, todos los planes de futuro que tenías, y el hecho de que nada de eso se hará realidad.

If you’ve ever been in a failed situationship, you’ll know that it leaves the most devastating consequences on your self-esteem.

Whether you like to admit it or not, you’re not only hurt by the fact that you have to go on without this man, but you’re also devastated that he never had the decency to choose you for real.

Después de todo el tiempo que pasasteis juntos, nunca te llamó novia. Nunca te cogió de la mano ni te presentó con orgullo a todos sus amigos y familiares.

Nunca quiso comprometerse y seguías negándote a poner una etiqueta a vuestra relación. Nunca fuisteis exclusivos y nunca supisteis a qué ateneros con él.

Así que.., you assume that you can’t expect anything more or better from any other man.

You’re clearly not meant to be loved, and you’ll never be enough for a guy to prioritize you and make you the only woman in his life.

Well, let me tell you that you can’t be more wrong. Just because you had one situationship like this, it doesn’t mean that you can’t form a real relationship.

I know that this sounds like I’m trying to comfort you, but believe me on this one: It’s not you, it’s him.

It was never your fault that this immature boy didn’t have the capacity to give you what you deserve.

You’re not to blame for the fact that he didn’t know what he wanted and couldn’t make up his mind about you.

I won’t lie to you. You’re guilty of allowing him to keep treating you like this, after realizing that he’ll never be the man you need. I get it.

Seguías esperando que cambiara, pero todo seguía igual.

Sin embargo, no tiene sentido pensar ahora en el pasado. Lo que pasó, pasó, y lo único que puedes hacer es aprender de ello.

En lugar de dejar que esta experiencia te arruine sin remedio, tómatela como una lección. Aprende a evitar el tipo de hombres que son claramente jugadores y que obviamente te aplastarán el corazón.

Lo más importante, enséñate a no conformarte nunca con menos de lo que mereces. Realize that it’s not acceptable to be someone’s last resort and don’t let another man ever treat you as such.

Sólo cuando alcances esta mentalidad verás que el final de esta situación es ciertamente no es el final de tu vida – it’s actually a chance for your new beginning.

Only then will you be ready to meet a man who won’t just treat you like his first choice, but his one and only choice.

A man who will always be sure about you, won’t have any doubts about his feelings and will make you feel safe and loved.