7 discusiones que señalan el principio del fin

En cualquier relación habrá pruebas y tribulaciones, y las sanas son capaces de soportarlas todas. Pelear forma parte de la vida, y una dosis normal es perfectamente normal y esperable.

God knows that I’ve had my fair share of arguments with mi hombre, but I actually believe that it only brings us closer. Because if we didn’t fight, ever… how would I even know he cared enough about me to fight for me?

It is general knowledge that when a person is indifferent, they don’t feel like fighting and just let the other person win. But the opposite means that you actually care deeply for one another.

Discutir de vez en cuando está bien. Pero ciertos tipos de discusiones y su volumen y frecuencia podrían ser una señal de que el final está cerca.

There are some things that are worth fighting over, and some that are beyond any argument. And if you and your man engage in any of the following 7 types of arguments, I’m sorry to say this, but it is possible that it is the beginning of your end.

Averígüelo y, si es posible, haga algunos cambios antes de que le cueste caro. tu relación.

Aquí tienes 7 tipos de discusiones que son serias señales de alarma para tu relación.

Argumentos sobre los objetivos y aspiraciones vitales

If you and your man simply aren’t in sync when it comes to this serious issue, you’ve got a problem on your hands.

Las relaciones duraderas se basan en el respeto mutuo y la capacidad de compromiso.

But if you two just can’t see eye-to-eye on things such as where you’re going to live, what you’re going to do with your life, and where you see yourselves in 5 years time, perhaps you’re only postponing the inevitable.

De cara al futuro, los dos deberíais coincidir en estas cuestiones, y vuestro futuro debería incluiros el uno al otro sin ninguna duda.

But if you’re unsure about what that is and what it means for the both of you, it’s not looking good.

Discusiones sobre su vida sexual

Lo que ocurre entre las sábanas es asunto exclusivamente tuyo. Nadie puede decirte lo que debe gustarte o disgustarte y lo que debes aguantar.

Esa es tu prerrogativa, y nunca debe ser algo que sacrifiques por nadie.

If your man likes to have sex in a way that doesn’t suit you, that’s a problem.

If your man pressures you into having sex when you’re not into it, that’s also problematic.

If you can’t enjoy being intimate with him due to all of these issues, you shouldn’t put up with it.

You have to be able to be open and honest when it comes to sex. If you are unhappy and can’t really work it out no matter how hard you try, maybe you’re not with the right person after all.

Argumentos sobre la necesidad de que un miembro de la pareja cambie por el otro

¿Cuántas veces has intentado cambiar algo de otra persona y cuántas veces lo has conseguido?

I think I already know the answer. People are who they are, period. If you want to change them, you don’t really deserve them.

If you can’t accept your man for who he is and vice versa, why don’t you just find someone who actually works for you?

Instead of changing the person you’re with, leave them be, and find somebody you won’t want to change. It’s that simple!

Argumentos donde siempre tienes que tener la última palabra

Pelear en una relación nunca debe ser ganar. Nunca debe tratarse de tener razón o no.

It should be a way to find a common ground that you’re BOTH okay with.

If you’re using these arguments simply to have the last word and you keep tabs on who’s right or wrong, you’re in it for all the wrong reasons.

Piense en ello. El bienestar de tu relación debería SIEMPRE sea su prioridad – no tener razón o reír el último.

Argumentos sobre sus finanzas

You should have a system where you both contribute and nobody feels like they’re being used or taken advantage of.

If you’re not okay with how much money is spent on certain things, you need to speak up.

If you keep fighting about money and how you spend it, it’s not going to change unless you have a mature conversation about it and make adjustments that work for the both of you.

If you can’t find a way that makes you happy, it’s a problem.

Las finanzas son una parte importante de las relaciones, y tus hábitos de gasto deben ser consensuados. Cualquier otra cosa es el principio de un final muy turbio.

Argumentos sobre lo mismo en un bucle

When you keep fighting about the very same thing over and over again, I think you already know it’s a red flag.

Not being able to find a compromise you’re both fine with is a problem. Right now it might be a minor argument that doesn’t seem so serious.

But over time and as your relationship progresses, it’s only going to get worse.

Either get your affairs in order or accept that it’s just not worth it being with someone you can’t find middle ground with.

It’s hurting you both, and it’s unfair to the both of you.

Argumentos de que la otra persona no se esfuerce

If your spark is dying and you feel your partner can’t be bothered, it doesn’t seem like the fairy-tale ending you always wished for.

Y si tu pareja tiene algún problema con el esfuerzo que pones para que funcione, también es una mala señal.

You should never feel like your partner doesn’t care enough to make you feel special, and vice versa.

Por supuesto que habrá zonas difícilespero las relaciones que merecen la pena siempre recuperan la chispa. Piensa en ello.

¿Realmente estáis intentando que esto siga adelante, o ambos os habéis rendido en secreto y tenéis miedo de admitirlo?

The sooner you accept reality, the sooner you’re going to feel like the weight of the world has fallen off your shoulders.