6 cosas que deberías saber sobre los narcisistas introvertidos encubiertos
Seguro que has oído hablar de los narcisistas que nos rodean.
Not only that – you’re also familiar with their manipulation techniques, the things they tend to do in order to destroy their victim’s lives, and the emotional scars they leave on anyone they get their hands on.
However, if you’ve ever dealt with covert introvert narcissists, you know that this is an especially dangerous subtype of this personality disorder, which in some cases, at first glance bear no similarities to “basic” narcissists.
Por eso, aquí tienes las 6 cosas más importantes que debes saber sobre este subtipo, que pueden ayudarte a reconocerlos a tiempo y a manejarlos con más éxito.
1. No tienen empatía
Una de las primeras (y a la vez peores) características de este subtipo de narcisistas es su total falta de empatía.
No es que estas personas sean sólo egoísta, egocentric, and look after their own needs, they are also completely indifferent to anyone else’s emotions, suffering, or troubles, unless they affect them personally.
Whatever doesn’t directly influence a covert introvert narcissist is of no importance whatsoever for them.
En cambio, sólo se centran en sí mismos, en satisfacer sus propios deseos y en que las cosas estén en perfecto orden en su microcosmos.
A pesar de lo que pueda estar ocurriendo en tu vida, sus problemas son siempre los peores y los que hay que tratar de inmediato.
They’re the centre of their own universe and expect everyone else to treat them that way.
2. Pero son extremadamente sensibles
Irónicamente, aunque los narcisistas introvertidos encubiertos no sienten compasión por los demás, se ofenden en cuanto prueban de su propia medicina y en el momento en que alguien empieza a tratarles de la misma manera que ellos le tratan a él o ella.
Aunque hacen todo lo posible por ocultarlo, lo cierto es que estas personas son extremadamente sensibles y sus sentimientos pueden resultar heridos en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.
Therefore, if you ever find yourself in any type of relationship with this kind of person, you’ll be expected to walk on eggshells around them, while they’re allowed to treat you the way they want.
You see, narcissists don’t see these double standards they’re trying to set as something troubling.
Al fin y al cabo, ellos son así y si alguien quiere un lugar en su vida, sólo tiene que aceptarlo.
3. They’re passive aggressive
According to many, the worst problem with handling a narcissist is the fact that they refuse to tell you when they’re offended and hurt (despite these being the emotions they feel most of the time).
If a covert introvert narcissist is bothered by something, they’ll never put effort into resolving the problem the mature way, nor tell you what is wrong directly.
En lugar de eso, esta persona te dará la callada por respuesta, te fantasmeará y aplicará otras pasivo agresivo tácticas sin darte nunca una explicación adecuada o un cierre.
Naturalmente, este comportamiento hace que su víctima se sienta culpable y se pregunte cuál ha sido su error.
You see, a covert introvert narcissist thinks it is beneath them to face you and tell you that something you did got to them, because they’re scared that if someone knows they can be influenced, it’d give this person power over them.
Instead, they prefer holding grudges, acting like they’re above the situation and completely unharmed.
4. They’re indirectly superior
Los más comunes rasgo de todos los narcisistas is their superiority over others – or at least, their belief that they’re the most important people in the world.
Without any concrete reason, these people tend to think they’re better than anyone else and are convinced that they’re entitled to more than their victims.
In fact, many narcissists don’t hide the way they feel.
They’re completely open about the fact that, according to them, you’re beneath them and that no one could ever reach their level.
On the other hand, a covert introvert narcissist is different. This is a person who’ll never directly insult you or tell you that you’re not good enough.
Sin embargo, hará todo lo posible para que te sientas así.
He’ll use every opportunity to humiliate you and make you feel bad about yourself in different sneaky ways, which makes you, as his victim, feel that much worse.
5. They’re paranoid
Otra característica de todos los narcisistas encubiertos es su paranoia.
¿Sabe que todos miramos las cosas desde nuestro punto de vista, esperando que los demás se comporten de la misma manera que nosotros?
Well, this is exactly what narcissists do as well. They don’t trust anyone because they in turn know they’re not trustworthy.
They expect the worst from the people around them because they’re aware of all the evil things they’re capable of doing.
Según un narcisista introvertido encubierto, todo el mundo va a por él.
Esta persona está siempre alerta porque está convencida de que incluso sus más allegados pueden herirle inesperadamente y apuñalarle por la espalda.
His paranoja doesn’t allow him to believe in anyone’s honesty or good intentions.
Even if you treat him in the best way possible, he’ll always second guess you and assume that there’s some hidden agenda deeply rooted behind your behavior.
6. Necesitan admiración y atención
Contrariamente a su forma de actuar, la verdad que todos los narcisistas introvertidos encubiertos intentan ocultar al resto del mundo (incluidos ellos mismos) es que necesitan la aprobación, la admiración y la atención de sus víctimas.
Básicamente, este hombre permanecerá a tu lado mientras sepa que es grande a tus ojos y tú caigas rendida a sus manipulaciones.
Even though they’re introverts by nature, ignoring them is what spiritually kills them.
They can’t stand noticing that their actions have no impact whatsoever on their victims, and as soon as this happens, they move on in search for new prey.
So, it appears that a narcissist has no real control over his victim – things just appear that way.
Instead, his victim is in charge of him because he’s the one who is emotionally dependent on her reaction.
