Así es como reconocerás a un hombre roto con carga emocional

Cuando oyes hablar de hombres rotos, asumes que serías capaz de reconocerlos enseguida, a primera vista. Supones que este tipo de hombre nunca podría engañarte y que al menos tu intuición te diría que algo va mal.

But trust me—that couldn’t be further from the truth.

When you first meet a damaged guy who carries a lot of emotional baggage within himself, you will have no idea about everything he’s been through. Instead, he will act like any other guy.

Actually, he even might act better than any man you’ve met before him. You might think you’ve finally found the man of your dreams and that he is everything you’ve been waiting for.

But as time goes by, you’ll see some signos de que está roto. You’ll see that there is something bothering him, deeply hidden inside of him. And you’ll try to figure out what this is.

Aunque cada individuo es diferente, todos los hombres rotos tienen algunas cosas en común.

En primer lugar, este chico probablemente será misterioso contigo. Será reservado sobre su pasado y sobre sus emociones.

At first, you’ll assume he is just pretending to be this tough guy and that he might not be in touch with his feelings. You’ll think that he is afraid of looking too desperate and less of a man in front of you and that is why he pretends to be cold.

But you’ll try very hard to get to the bottom of this. You’ll want to know what is hiding behind this mask and you’ll want to meet the man who is hidden deep inside of this guy. You’ll want to meet the real him.

Y aunque su lado misterioso debería ahuyentarte, en realidad te acercará aún más a él.

You’ll see that this guy is cold toward everyone and you’ll have the urge to change that. You’ll have the urge to prove to him and to yourself that you can become special to him—that you can be the only person in this world he trusts and can open up to.

You’ll think he is special and his love is special, because he apparently isn’t giving it away to just anyone who comes into his life.

Incluso cuando aceptas que está emocionalmente dañado, you’ll want to prove that you are the only one worthy of his love and trust. You’ll want to prove to yourself that you have a special place in his life, that you are different from everyone else and that you’ll manage to do some things nobody before you has.

You’ll never know much about this guy’s dating history, about his traumas from the past, about his trust issues, his insecurities or his anxiety and depression.

Whenever this guy feels bad, he’ll want you to stay away. He might simply disappear on you, wanting some time for himself because he feels like he can’t trust anyone and that he can solve his problems on his own.

Aunque al principio este chico pretenda tener mucha confianza, la verdad es que en el fondo siente que no es lo suficientemente bueno para ti. La verdad es que es emocionalmente inseguro y que se compara con cualquier otro hombre, pero intenta disimularlo.

You’ll never know his weaknesses and you’ll rarely see his vulnerable side. Puede que pienses que le da vergüenza mostrarte esta faceta suya, pero lo cierto es que tiene miedo.

This guy is terrified to give you his heart and to open up to you, because he is certain you’ll use all of this against him, despite the fact that you’ve never done anything that could make him think or feel this way.

Sé que esto es lo último que quiere que sepas, pero la verdad es que este hombre sufre un trauma por abandono. La verdad es que fue herido y dañado en el pasado y perdió la confianza en las personas, especialmente en las mujeres.

It’s simple—he assumes that every woman who comes into his life will break him even more and will hurt him the same way someone toxic from his past did.

Así que creó un escudo, una fachada para protegerse de todo el mundo, lo que le hizo emocionalmente inaccesible.

And you’ll have to be pretty damn special to change that.