5 señales de que sigues un mal patrón de pareja

¿Qué son los patrones de relación? Son las cosas que sigues repitiendo en cada relación sentimental en la que te involucras y los comportamientos que muestras, independientemente del novio con el que estés.

In most cases, you’re not even aware that you repeat these toxic, unhealthy templates with every guy who enters your life. That is why we’re here—to open your eyes and help you stop with these behaviors and to escape this endless circle in time.

1. Te culpas por todo

The first sign that you’re trapped in bad relationship patterns is the fact that somehow, you always think of yourself as guilty for everything wrong in your relationship. No matter what, you end up being the one taking all the responsibility and you end up blaming yourself.

Well, let me tell you one thing—in a healthy relationship, things don’t work out that way. Instead, both partners are equally responsible for everything that happens between them.

Una cosa es que tengas suficiente autoconciencia y madurez para aceptar y admitir tus errores. Sin embargo, otra cosa es que te resulte más fácil cúlpate a ti mismo than to open your eyes and see your partner’s real face.

2. Tiene dificultades de comunicación

Communication is one of the bases of every successful relationship and not knowing how to express yourself leads to many problems between couples. However, before you learn how to verbalize your desires, doubts and fears, you have to do some introspection and be certain about what you want. The next step is to be brave enough to talk to your partner honestly about everything that’s bothering you without hesitation and without holding yourself back.

Remember that you won’t achieve anything by holding grudges or giving him the silent treatment. Instead, act like the grown-ass woman you are and speak your mind. Otherwise, you can’t expect things to ever change for the better.

3. Das más de lo que recibes

Cuando te pones a pensarlo, estabas el que más amaba en cada relación romántica que tuviste. Y ésta no es una excepción.

Whether you’d like to admit it or not, you’ve always been the one who puts more effort in and who gives way more love than she receives. The one who makes sacrifices and the one who struggles for the relationship, while the other person couldn’t care less.

It’s time you think about why things are like this. Do you think of yourself as less worthy than your partner?

4. Dependes emocionalmente de tu pareja

One of the most alarming signs that you’re stuck in bad relationship patterns is that you feel like you can’t live without your significant other. You don’t feel complete without him by your side, which makes it impossible for you to leave him, despite the way he treats you. Your romantic partner becomes the center of your world and you don’t feel like yourself without him.

If this is something you can relate to, one thing is clear—you’re emotionally co-dependent on your partner and that is nothing more than a toxic relationship pattern. Instead of expecting a man to make you happy, put your own life in your hands and make something out of it, without anyone’s help.

5. You don’t know how to call it quits

¿Cuántas veces te has encontrado dando interminables segundas oportunidades a hombres que nunca las merecieron? ¿Poniendo excusas, justificando su comportamiento de mierda y esperando desesperadamente un cambio que en el fondo sabías que nunca llegaría? ¿Cuántas veces te has reconciliado con un hombre con el que no tenías futuro?

It is more than obvious you don’t know when it’s time to break things off with someone you care for. You don’t know when to give up on a relationship when it is not worth fighting for.

En lugar de eso, sigues arrastrándote en círculos interminables de amor y odio, felicidad y desesperación, reconciliaciones y rupturas. Lo peor es que así es exactamente como acabas atrapado en estos malos patrones de relación una y otra vez.