¿Cansado de ser soltero? 10 consejos para disfrutar de la soltería

Las bonitas fotos de parejas felices en las redes sociales, las películas románticas y la presión de tus amigos íntimos y familiares con respecto a tu situación de soltero contribuyen a que te sientas cansado de ser soltero.

Hagas lo que hagas o vayas donde vayas, cada pequeña cosa empieza a recordarte tu soltería. Y te cansas de ello.

Te cansas de todos esos recordatorios de mierda de que las únicas personas que son verdaderamente felices son las que tienen relaciones románticas.

And even though you know that’s not true, you still get irritated about your single life and you wish things were different.

But I’ll tell you one thing: El estado civil no es una medida de la felicidad.

Just because you’re not in a relationship (yet), it doesn’t mean you should feel tired or lonely or excluded from society.

The only reason why you’re still single at the moment is that you’re ought to be. Each person has their own unique path and being single is a part of your journey!

Whenever you’re feeling tired of being single, here are 10 things to help you understand and embrace your single life:

1. Don’t lose hope

Toneladas de helado, sesiones de celos imaginarios hacia las parejas, sentirte solo y cansado de tu soltería. This is probably how you’ve been feeling lately, right?

And that’s more than okay! It’s totally fine to feel shitty from time to time, even when you have no valid reason for that.

It’s totally okay to lose hope from time to time because you’re surrounded by all those happy couples and worried that you’ll never find the One.

However, it’s not okay to feel like that every single day of your life. You shouldn’t lose hope no matter how shitty you feel about being single.

Instead, you should open your eyes and realize that this is not a curse and you’re not missing anything in your life. Everything that happens in our life is in tune with time.

Every single one of us has our own unique timeline and you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be at the moment!

2. There’s probably a reason why you’re single at the moment

We’re often unaware of this one but you know what they say: Todo sucede por una razón. Puedes negarlo, ignorarlo y no creer en ello, pero seguirá siendo cierto.

There’s probably a reason why you’re single at the moment and those reasons vary from working on yourself to focusing on your career.

Perhaps you’ve neglected your passions, which made you feel like you’re missing something in your life.

All these things can make you feel unfulfilled to the extent of thinking that the only reason why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling is because you’re still single.

Estás convencido de que, cuando conozcas a tu media naranja, por fin te sentirás libre y completo.

Sí, lo harás, pero sólo cuando tú mismo ya estés completo sin ellos.

Being single is the right time to address all your issues and work on yourself because the only time you’ll be able to love others and be in a happy relationship is when you learn to love yourself first!

3. It’s better to be single than with the wrong person

One of my good friends recently complained to me that she’ll never meet a buen chico porque todos los chicos buenos probablemente ya están cogidos.

Por eso, está convencida de que acabará teniendo una relación con una persona de mierda.

Y mi respuesta fue: Why do you even worry about that? Remember that it’s better to be single than with the wrong person!

Las personas que están cansadas de estar solteras a menudo olvidan el hecho de que estar soltero es diez veces mejor que estar con la persona equivocada.

¿Y qué si todo el mundo a tu alrededor tiene a alguien? ¿Y qué si todos tus amigos y familiares tienen una relación feliz o están casados?

This doesn’t mean that you won’t meet your special one someday and this doesn’t mean you should enter a relationship with just anyone just for the title of being in a relationship.

It’s better to be single and happy than miserable in a relationship.

4. En lugar de estresarte por salir con otros, empieza a salir contigo mismo

If you’re tired of being single but also tired of dating, you shouldn’t force yourself. Instead, you should start dating yourself!

Now, you’re probably wondering how one can date themselves when dating is a concept that includes two people. Well, it’s not (I mean, not necessarily).

Puedes salir contigo mismo igual que sales con los demás, pero lo haces solo.

Este es también un aspecto importante de tu salud mental, porque salir contigo mismo significa aprender a amar el tiempo que pasas contigo mismo.

Puedes ir a un restaurante, al cine, a tomar algo, de paseo o de picnic contigo mismo. En lugar de estresarte por salir con otros, deberías hacer cosas contigo mismo.

Pasar tiempo a solas y hacer cosas a solas también son partes importantes del autocuidado.

Once you learn to enjoy spending time with yourself, you’ll never even think about dating others (at least, for the time being).

5. Don’t lower your standards when meeting new people

Even if you’re not feeling stressed out about dating, you still need to remember one thing and that is: Nunca bajes el listón, pase lo que pase.

Si crees que la única forma de conocer a gente con la que tener una relación es bajando el listón, piénsatelo otra vez.

Maybe this will help you to enter a relationship but will you be truly happy once you lower your standards? I don’t think so.

You’re probably familiar with the existing and new dating apps like Tinder that have made online dating a must if you’re single (but have also increased the chances of meeting toxic people).

When going on a date for the first time with someone you just met, keep in mind to preserve your standard levels. Don’t find excuses for their shitty behavior or personality.

Por muy molestas que sean las primeras citas, bajar el listón es una receta segura para el desastre. Algunos de los mejores consejos sobre citas para todos los solteros son los siguientes:

Stay consistent with yourself and maintain your standards because that’s the only sure path to true happiness!

Véase también: Quédate soltero hasta que consigas estos 10 objetivos vitales

6. Aprender a disfrutar de tu propia compañía es la receta para no sentirte solo

Being alone and feeling lonely have become two interconnected terms lately but they don’t really have to be. Being alone has nothing to do with sentirse solo ¡y todo está en tu cabeza!

Just because you’re a single woman or man, this doesn’t mean you should feel lonely.

As a matter of fact, the reason why you’re feeling lonely is that you haven’t learned to enjoy spending time with yourself.

That’s why you’re convinced that the only way to not feel lonely is to be with someone in a relationship. But the truth is otherwise.

El amor propio es la fuerza más poderosa del universo y un asesino de la soledad.

Once you learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company, you’ll see that all this time, the key to happiness was buried within you.

You will no longer feel this void in your soul and you’ll understand that it is possible to be alone and not to feel lonely. After all, every single one of us came into the world alone.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t need any other human being but it means that we’re perfectly capable of doing things on our own and enjoying our own company.

Significa que tenemos la capacidad de ser felices mientras esperamos lo correcto.

7. Expresa tus pasiones y pasa tiempo con las personas adecuadas

Otro asesino de la soledad es la pasión. Aprender a expresar tus pasiones te ayudará a sintonizar contigo mismo y a olvidarte de tu soltería.

Instead of only watching Netflix, now is the time to work on expressing yourself. It’s time to ask yourself what it is that makes you feel alive and happy.

¿Cuáles son las actividades que llenan tu corazón de calor e inspiración? ¿Le gusta dibujar, cantar, cocinar, bailar o crear arte?

Whatever it is, if it’s something that makes you happy while doing it, then it’s your passion and you should focus on doing it as much as you can.

Además, debes pasar tiempo con las personas adecuadas; con las que te quieren y te comprenden.

Instead of only focusing on what’s missing in your life, focus on embracing what you already have!

8. Encuentra el lado positivo de tu vida

Cada vez que pienso en el positivismo, recuerdo inmediatamente esta poderosa cita de The Silver Linings Playbook de Matthew Quick:

“You know what? EXCELSIOR, EXCELSIOR! It means you know what I’m gonna do, I’m gonna take all this negativity and use it as fuel and I’m gonna find a silver lining, that’s what I’m gonna do. And that’s no bullshit. That’s no bullshit. That takes work and that’s the truth.”

Encontrar un resquicio de esperanza significa encontrar un aspecto positivo en cada situación. Así que utiliza todo ese cansancio de la soltería como combustible para encontrar un lado positivo.

I also suggest watching this amazing movie or reading the book (if you haven’t yet).

9. En lugar de centrarse en encontrar al Elegidocentrarse en vivir el momento

Vivir el momento es una de las cosas más inspiradoras que puedes hacer por ti mismo y por los demás.

Instead of focusing on chasing what you don’t have (yet), focus on living in the moment and appreciating what’s in front of you.

Life is a miracle. Just because you’re still single, this doesn’t mean you should feel less worthy or you should be persistent in finding the One at any cost.

La vida es un verdadero milagro y vivir el momento es la única manera de vivir la vida al máximo.

After a year or more, you’ll laugh to yourself at all the things that bothered you now.

You’ll realize that being single and disfrutar de la vida es uno de los mayores regalos, ¡si lo aceptas como tal!

10. Ten paciencia

And the most important tip: Stay patient! Remember what we said about the timeline and that everything happens for a reason? Keep that one in mind because it’s the only truth.

No matter how much you’re tired of being single, you need to stay patient!

If you do things on impulse, you’ll risk being unhappy. But if you stay patient, time will reward you.

Recuerda que lo bueno se hace esperar.