A la chica que nunca ha sido "la elegida"

For as long as you can remember, you’ve always been a man’s segunda opción.

You’ve had multiple relationships and different guys have called you their girlfriend but you know that not one of them ever saw you as his soulmate. 

Estabas ahí cuando necesitaban a alguien conveniente.

Allí cuando querían una novia por tener una relación, allí para ser una novia de rebote que les ayudara a curar su corazón roto, y allí cuando su miedo a estar solos les abrumaba. 

Desde que tienes uso de razón, you’ve always been a man’s second best. La chica simpática que teóricamente les da todo lo que necesitan, pero también la chica a la que nunca aman de verdad.

To put things simply, you’re a good girlfriend “on paper”. You are good looking, people consider you funny and interesting, and you’re definitely anything but stupid.

So, at the end of the day, you actually have no idea why your relationships end. You never get the closure you need and every guy who has broken up with you just tells you that you’re not the one. 

None of them have seen you as their forever person. You’ve never felt their unconditional love and undivided attention.

En cambio, cada uno de tus novios te ha amado con la mitad de sus corazones.

Eras lo suficientemente bueno para ellos hasta que encontraran a alguien más, o mientras esperaban pacientemente a alguna chica que los dejara en espera.

It’s like they used you as a passing station instead of a final destination. They needed you on their journey to finding true love instead of seeing you as their goal.

La verdad sea dicha, all of the loves you’ve had were temporary– you were someone who served the moment.

Ni un solo hombre en tu vida te ha visto como algo permanente o como una mujer con la que quieren envejecer.

En consecuencia, you can’t help but feel like a consolation prize. Como la chica a la que acuden los chicos cuando no hay nadie mejor a su alrededor y a la que recurren cuando todos los demás les abandonan.

The worst part is that you’ve tried your best in each one of your relationships. You’ve never held parts of yourself back and each time, you’ve hoped you’ve finally found your match made in heaven.

However, it’s always turned out to be different. You’ve always ended up feeling like a supporting role and you’ve never actually had the chance to be the star of your own love movie. 

Well, I’m here to ask you not to lose hope. Puede que ahora no lo parezca, pero créanme cuando les digo que ninguno de estos tipos ha sido el único para titampoco. 

Ninguno de ellos ha sido tu alma gemela y tu persona para siempre. ¿Sabes por qué? Porque ese hombre aún no se ha cruzado en tu camino.

As painful as this might be, the truth is that there are some things beyond your comprehension and some events you can’t impact, as much as you try.

What I’m trying to tell you is that none of your past relationships were meant to last. None of your exes were meant to be yours and there is nothing you can really do about it.

However, that doesn’t mean that your Prince Charming won’t come eventually. 

It doesn’t mean that you’re sentenced to a loveless life just because you’ve had a few bad experiences. It doesn’t mean that you’re not meant to be loved or that you should give up on relationships altogether. 

Créeme cuando te digo que uno de estos días, tu destino cambiará drásticamente.

There will come a man who will love you in all the ways you’ve never been loved and a man who will always treat you as the only woman in the world. 

A man who won’t see you as a rebound, as a girl to pick up his broken pieces, or as something temporary. Un hombre que está destinado a ser tuyo y que te verá como único. 

Sólo tienes que esperar el momento oportuno. Además, tienes que estar preparado para su llegada.

Porque when he comes, he’ll make you realize why it’s never worked with anyone before him.