Cómo ligar en Instagram y conseguir una cita

Okay, let’s get real. We often use Instagram as a dating app. There, I said it! I am sorry, Mark Zuckerberg, it is what it is.

You sometimes find yourself stalking someone’s profile, analyzing their pictures and stories while trying to figure out how to talk to them. Well, you’re not alone.

This is a reality for many people, but don’t worry, I got your back! Just listen to me and dominarás tus formas de deslizarte en sus DMs y permanecer allí. 

Sé que todo el concepto de Instagram puede ser un poco complicado porque un paso en falso puede llevarte a “seen land” o peor aún, una lista de bloqueo. 

Sin embargo...mis tácticas de coqueteo en Instagram me aseguraron un hombre... so I think I know what I’m talking about! But before we start, I have a question! What does your IG profile look like?

1. Tu perfil es una ventana a tu vida

Try to look at your profile from someone else’s perspective and see if you would accept your request in their place. 

La primera impresión siempre importa y esta podría ser tu única oportunidad de llamar su atención or a reply back. If you don’t have a profile picture of yourself, your bio is empty, and your profile is locked, don’t expect them to accept your request. 

Personally, when I get a request from someone with a profile like that, I don’t even think twice but decline it immediately. So make sure your profile looks attractive, and if they do accept your request, don’t like all of their pictures immediately just because you’re excited, take it slow.

2. Relájate con likes

Calm down, I get you, you don’t know how to get their attention. Trust me, there are better ways to do it than attacking the like button. 

Don’t get me wrong. Liking a few of their recent photos is a great way to get noticed at first but También puede resultar molesto o incluso extraño.. 

He tenido situaciones en las que a los chicos les gustaban todas mis fotos en un lapso de un par de minutos, y eso que siempre tenía una colección bastante grande de publicaciones. Peor aún sería que les gustaran en mitad de la noche, eligiendo solo las que había publicado mientras estaba en la playa.

Honestly, it’s giving Joe Goldberg energy. Don’t be that guy that will end up in a girls’ group chat as a “espeluznante acosador de medianoche”. Instead, play it cool, and if you wouldn’t bother someone like that when you meet them in person, then why do it online?

3. Actúa como lo harías en la vida real

If you saw someone you like in public, would you approach them and start harassing them, saying inappropriate things? Well, let’s hope not! 

People can get weird on social media because they get too comfortable and give themselves more freedom. Don’t hide behind your profile and think you suddenly became someone else and then give completely different energy in person.

Recuerde siempre que just because it’s an online world, it doesn’t mean it’s not real. Being genuine and respectful will take you further than pretending you are something you’re not.

I once went on a date with someone who seemed perfect over messages. However, when we finally met in person he was a weirdo and even attacked the waiter just because he didn’t put ice in his drink! Safe to say I was shocked and never went out with him again.

4. Don’t force things

The best flow is the natural flow and honestly, this goes for everything in your life. My friends and I would often try to figure out what is the logic behind someone who repeatedly sends you a follow request and just doesn’t give up.

Si lo negué ayer y 10 veces antes, ¿por qué crees que he cambiado de opinión? Esto sólo puede hacerte más repulsivoy no al revés. 

Lo mismo ocurre con la mensajería. ¿Te metes en sus DMs pero te dejan en visto o sólo te dan respuestas sin salida? Por favor, coge el cartel. 

5. Las palabras amables pueden abrir una puerta de hierro

Este es sin duda el lema de mi vida. Según mi experiencia, y esto vale para todos los aspectos de la vida, las palabras cuidadosamente elegidas a menudo consiguen lo que uno quiere. Sólo hay que saber elaborarlas de la manera adecuada.

Así es como me reservé una cita con quien quisiera, ¡y al final hasta me casé con un chico que conocí en IG!

I wouldn’t just react with a fire emoji on his selfie, I took it to the next level. I would wait for him to post something about things he did or loved and then take it as a chance to start a conversation.

“Omg! I didn’t know you also loved that TV show. It’s my favorite!” Something like this would always keep a conversation going for quite a while. It’s also proven that la gente está más dispuesta a responderle cuando usted hágales una pregunta.

So instead of only congratulating them for their achievement, ask them to tell you more about that experience. You can even ask for advice on something they’re good at. If people like something, then it must be talking about themselves.

Recuerde siempre keep it casual and don’t be too pushy. Los pequeños errores pueden costarte muy caros. Puede parecer que hay que vigilar muchas cosas, pero la práctica hace al maestro.