Deja de ceder para que se queden

La vida está llena de compromisos, isn’t it?

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don’t you think?

Sí, las citas son un lío, intentar mantener las conexiones en este mundo loco y rápido requiere mucha energía, y a veces hay cosas que no son prioritarias, así que las abandonas. 

That’s okay. 

Debes renunciar a las cosas que no son importantes. 

But you have to be careful with what you’re giving up on. 

Please don’t ever put yourself in that basket. 

Don’t ever put yourself in the no prioritario cesta. 

Cómo te tratas a ti mismo sienta un precedente para los demás sobre cómo tratarte. Aprenden de ti.

You’re the one showing them what you’re willing to tolerate and what not. Don’t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. 

Don’t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. 

If you respond to their texts immediately and don’t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return.

Don’t treat their 3 horas después reply as something normal. Don’t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It’s not enough. 

Si reorganizas tus planes para verlos y ellos cancelar en el último minuto, don’t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time.

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it’s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It’s not enough. 

Tú importas.

Tus planes importan.

Tus deseos y anhelos son tan importantes como los suyos. 

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don’t let them take that from you.

La única persona que debes mantener en tu vida eres tú. 

The only person you’re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. 

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can’t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. 

La gente va y viene. Los amantes se separan. Los amigos eligen caminos diferentes y se distancian.

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it’s okay. It’s life.

Sucede así. Perderás gente con el tiempo. Pero, por favor, nunca te pierdas a ti mismo. 

You can’t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.

You must’ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they’ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them.

They hear you. They’re never going to be the people you want them to be because you’re not the one they want in their life.

La gente cambia por quien quiere. Tan sencillo como eso. 

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. 

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you’re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you’re not compromising your happiness for their presence.

Haz un balance entre comprometer tus deseos y convertirte en una prioridad. Y hazlo solo por personas que estén dispuestas a hacer lo mismo por ti. 

Estar enamorado en esta generación es aterrador. La lealtad es tan rara, y la gente se apresura a elegir un buen momento antes que algo bueno.

So I’ll make you a deal. Hear me out.

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don’t want anything serious.

Stop checking up on them if they’re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can’t fit you in their schedule at all. 

Deja de hacerte desgraciado para hacerlos felices. Deja de mendigar su presencia. 

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don’t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. 

¿Y qué ocurrirá? 

All those you were ‘begging’ to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life.

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what’s left? 

Serás tú, rodeado de pocas personas, pero pocas dignas de tu tiempo. Será como si un elefante te quitara una pata del pecho.

There will be plenty of life’s battles to fight, but at least you’ll know who you can count on.