Pare de fazer concessões para que eles fiquem

A vida está cheia de compromissos, isn’t it?

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don’t you think?

Sim, os encontros são confusos, tentar manter ligações neste mundo louco e rápido exige muita energia e, por vezes, há coisas que não são prioritárias e por isso desistimos delas. 

That’s okay. 

Deve-se desistir das coisas que não são importantes. 

But you have to be careful with what you’re giving up on. 

Please don’t ever put yourself in that basket. 

Don’t ever put yourself in the não prioritário cesto. 

A forma como se trata a si próprio abre um precedente para que os outros o tratem. Eles aprendem consigo.

You’re the one showing them what you’re willing to tolerate and what not. Don’t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. 

Don’t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. 

If you respond to their texts immediately and don’t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return.

Don’t treat their 3 horas depois reply as something normal. Don’t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It’s not enough. 

Se reorganizar os seus planos para os ver e eles cancelar no último minuto, don’t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time.

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it’s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It’s not enough. 

Tu és importante.

Os seus planos são importantes.

Os seus desejos e vontades são tão importantes como os deles. 

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don’t let them take that from you.

A única pessoa que deves manter na tua vida és tu. 

The only person you’re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. 

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can’t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. 

As pessoas vêm e vão. Os amantes separam-se. Os amigos escolhem caminhos diferentes e distanciam-se.

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it’s okay. It’s life.

É assim que acontece. Com o tempo, perdemos as pessoas. Mas, por favor, nunca te percas a ti próprio. 

You can’t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.

You must’ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they’ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them.

They hear you. They’re never going to be the people you want them to be because you’re not the one they want in their life.

As pessoas mudam por quem querem. Tão simples quanto isso. 

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. 

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you’re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you’re not compromising your happiness for their presence.

Estabeleça um equilíbrio entre comprometer os seus desejos e fazer de si uma prioridade. E faça-o apenas por pessoas que estejam dispostas a fazer o mesmo por si. 

Estar apaixonado nesta geração é assustador. A lealdade é tão rara, e as pessoas são rápidas a escolher um bom momento em vez de uma coisa boa.

So I’ll make you a deal. Hear me out.

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don’t want anything serious.

Stop checking up on them if they’re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can’t fit you in their schedule at all. 

Pára de te fazeres infeliz para os fazeres felizes. Pára de implorar pela sua presença. 

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don’t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. 

E o que é que vai acontecer? 

All those you were ‘begging’ to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life.

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what’s left? 

Serás tu, rodeado de poucas pessoas, mas poucas dignas do teu tempo. Será como se um elefante tivesse tirado uma das patas do teu peito.

There will be plenty of life’s battles to fight, but at least you’ll know who you can count on.