Deja de intentar ser perfecto para hombres imperfectos
Mires donde mires, verás más o menos el mismo mensaje.
You’ll see magazine covers, TV shows – the entire media – telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy.
Básicamente, desde el momento en que eres consciente de ti misma, el mundo te está diciendo cómo ser novia y material para esposas.
A uno se le perdonaría pensar que, con el tiempo, las cosas han cambiado y que el mensaje que recibimos ahora es diferente del que promovían los medios de comunicación hace unas décadas. .
However, if you dig a little deeper, you’ll see that we haven’t evolved as much as we think we have.
The advice may have a different wrapping paper but it’s actually almost the same as it was in the past.
Mires donde mires, existe una presión increíble sobre las mujeres.
We have to be good wives, amazing mothers, have a career while maintaining an immaculate household, and be innovative in the bedroom so our partner doesn’t get bored.
We also have to be great cooks and keep on top of our finances – all while wearing high heels, flawless makeup, and a fabulous hairdo.
Lo mismo ocurre cuando se trata de contactos and romantic relationships. In fact, this is where it’s most expected of women.
You can’t be too available, right? Otherwise, men will only want to sleep with you and dump you afterwards.
However, you can’t turn them down too often either. After all, nobody likes an unapproachable girl.
When you’re married or in a committed relationship, it’s pretty much your duty to make things work. It’s your job to save a broken marriage and to make sure your partner doesn’t walk away from you.
Despite only being a human being, it appears that you’re not allowed to make mistakes.
Cada movimiento suyo se pone bajo una lupa y es observado atentamente por el mundo entero.
Así que.., what the world is trying to tell you is that you have to be flawless – mentally, physically and emotionally.
You’re not allowed to have a bad day, to feel lousy, or to have cellulite, split ends, or be carrying a few extra pounds.
Si tienes algunas imperfecciones, debes hacer todo lo posible por ocultarlas. Eso si alguna vez quieres que un chico te vea, te escuche y te elija.
What about those men your world seems to revolve around, though? I don’t see any of them trying to reach perfection, do I now?
Parece que a las chicas se les ha enseñado a ser perfectas para los hombres imperfectos desde una edad muy temprana. ¿Dónde está la justicia en eso?
Most importantly – what’s the point?
Don’t get me wrong: no te estoy diciendo que no trabajes en ti mismo. No te estoy desaconsejando la superación personal.
On the contrary, I’m all for your individual empowerment. I’m rooting for you to become the best possible version of yourself.
Sin embargo, there is a big difference between making yourself better mentally, emotionally, and physically because you’re the one who wants it and making all of these modifications to be more likeable to the opposite sex.
There is a huge difference between changing some things YOU don’t like about yourself and doing it so you can fit in the box or fulfill society’s unrealistic standards and expectations.
If you’re doing all of this for yourself, good for you. Carry on with the good work!
Aunque, incluso si lo eres, I have to disappoint you and tell you that such a thing as perfection doesn’t exist. You can work on yourself but you’ll always have some flaws.
Así que.., it’s much better to accept and love those imperfections. After all, they’re all a part of the person you are.
On the other hand, if you’re doing all of this for the sake of one particular imperfect man or to please the entire opposite sex, stop it right there.
Déjame contarte un secreto: un chico que se centra en tus defectos y quiere cambiarlos no es el adecuado para ti. De hecho, el hombre adecuado nunca te pedirá que seas perfecto.
You know what the best part is? He’ll love you just the way you are and you two will be imperfectly perfect together!
