Smettere di cercare di essere perfette per uomini imperfetti

Ovunque si guardi, si vedrà più o meno lo stesso messaggio.

You’ll see magazine covers, TV shows – the entire media – telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy.

In pratica, dal momento in cui si diventa coscienti di sé, il mondo ci dice come essere fidanzata e materiale per mogli.

Si potrebbe pensare che, nel corso del tempo, le cose siano cambiate e che il messaggio che riceviamo oggi sia diverso da quello promosso dai media qualche decennio fa".

However, if you dig a little deeper, you’ll see that we haven’t evolved as much as we think we have.

The advice may have a different wrapping paper but it’s actually almost the same as it was in the past.

Ovunque si guardi, esiste un'incredibile pressione sulle donne.

We have to be good wives, amazing mothers, have a career while maintaining an immaculate household, and be innovative in the bedroom so our partner doesn’t get bored.

We also have to be great cooks and keep on top of our finances – all while wearing high heels, flawless makeup, and a fabulous hairdo.

Lo stesso vale quando si tratta di incontri and romantic relationships. In fact, this is where it’s most expected of women.

You can’t be too available, right? Otherwise, men will only want to sleep with you and dump you afterwards.

However, you can’t turn them down too often either. After all, nobody likes an unapproachable girl.

When you’re married or in a committed relationship, it’s pretty much your duty to make things work. It’s your job to save a broken marriage and to make sure your partner doesn’t walk away from you.

Despite only being a human being, it appears that you’re not allowed to make mistakes.

Ogni vostra mossa viene messa sotto la lente d'ingrandimento e osservata attentamente da tutto il mondo.

Quindi, what the world is trying to tell you is that you have to be flawless – mentally, physically and emotionally.

You’re not allowed to have a bad day, to feel lousy, or to have cellulite, split ends, or be carrying a few extra pounds.

Se avete delle imperfezioni, dovreste fare del vostro meglio per nasconderle. Questo se volete essere viste, ascoltate e scelte da un ragazzo.

What about those men your world seems to revolve around, though? I don’t see any of them trying to reach perfection, do I now?

Sembra che alle ragazze sia stato insegnato a essere perfette per uomini imperfetti fin dalla più tenera età. Dov'è la giustizia in questo?

Most importantly – what’s the point?

Don’t get me wrong: non vi sto dicendo di non lavorare su voi stessi. Non vi sto sconsigliando di migliorare voi stessi.

On the contrary, I’m all for your individual empowerment. I’m rooting for you to become the best possible version of yourself.

Tuttavia, there is a big difference between making yourself better mentally, emotionally, and physically because you’re the one who wants it and making all of these modifications to be more likeable to the opposite sex.

There is a huge difference between changing some things YOU don’t like about yourself and doing it so you can fit in the box or fulfill society’s unrealistic standards and expectations.

If you’re doing all of this for yourself, good for you. Carry on with the good work!

Tuttavia, anche se lo siete, I have to disappoint you and tell you that such a thing as perfection doesn’t exist. You can work on yourself but you’ll always have some flaws.

Quindi, it’s much better to accept and love those imperfections. After all, they’re all a part of the person you are.

On the other hand, if you’re doing all of this for the sake of one particular imperfect man or to please the entire opposite sex, stop it right there.

Vi svelo un segreto: un ragazzo che si concentra sui vostri difetti e vuole cambiarli non è quello giusto per voi. Anzi, il uomo giusto per voi non vi chiederà mai di essere perfetti.

You know what the best part is? He’ll love you just the way you are and you two will be imperfectly perfect together!