Dejar de cometer los mismos errores y esperar un resultado diferente

Hay una dura verdad cuando se trata de dar segundas oportunidades: En la mayoría de los casos, es completamente inútil y en vano. ¿Sabe por qué?

Porque por mucho que lo intentes, al final las cosas acaban igual que la primera vez.

It happens with all relationships and it’s been happening to you since you can remember.

However, you’ve always been a believer. You had faith that your love can change the people you care for.

Creíste en sus falsas promesas y excusas vacías. Pensabas que dando oportunidades a la gente, les inspirabas a ser mejores.

Sin embargo, ninguna de tus expectativas se hizo realidad. Sobre todo en el caso de tu ex.

If you’re real with yourself, you’ll admit that you’ve given this man more chances than you can count.

Cada vez que mete la pata, ahí está a tu puerta, suplicando otra oportunidad.

He puts effort into convincing you that he’ll improve, start treating you differently, and finally become the man you deserve him to be.

Entonces, ¿qué pasa? Aunque en el fondo sabes que todo esto es mentira, de alguna manera consigues creerle porque eso es lo que quieres.

Inconscientemente, quieres oírle mentirte. Quieres volver a confiar en él.

Después de todo, ¿qué otra excusa tendrías para volver a tenerlo en tu vida?

At first, he acts like he’ll keep his promises. He pretends to be a changed man and you’re relieved by the fact that you haven’t made another mistake.

Sin embargo, al cabo de un tiempo, vuelve a las andadas y empieza a revelar su verdadera cara.

Los dos acabáis en un círculo sin fin en el que él es un gilipollas, tú rompes con él, él se disculpa y tú vuelves con él.

Sounds familiar, right? Well, if this is something you can relate to, it’s time to start worrying for your future.

Lo más importante, it’s time to make some crucial changes if you want to save yourself.

You see, every time you give this man another chance, you’re actually giving him an opportunity to keep on ruining your life.

You’re not giving him a shot to become better – you’re giving him permission to break your heart all over again.

Therefore, you can’t be mad at him for using it in his favor.

Yes, he’s a manipulative jerk, but you’re the one who is letting him be one.

You’re the one continuously giving him access to your life, even though you know very well it’s the worst mistake you can make. You’re the one allowing him to behave this way.

You’re sending him a message that this kind of treatment is acceptable. That you’re perfectly fine with him treating you like trash.

You’re signalling to him that there is nothing he could do to make you stop loving him.

That no matter how he behaves, you’ll be right there where he left you, the next time he tries coming back.

Yes, he is playing with you. But you’re the one who chooses to be his toy.  To be honest, I don’t know what you think that will happen.

After all, you’re making the same mistake over and over again and you’re expecting a different result.

Deja de esperar for a miracle. You won’t see it. Stop waiting for this man to start appreciating all of your sacrifices.

Deja de esperar que empiece a tener en cuenta tus emociones. Y lo que es más importante, deja de esperar a que cambie.

You see, people rarely change. And even when they do, they do it for themselves – not for the sake of someone’s love.

Por lo tanto, en lugar de perder más tiempo precioso, quítate las gafas de color de rosa y afronta la verdad. Por mucho que te duela, mira a la realidad a los ojos y acéptala de una vez.

A riesgo de sonar brutal, I’m here to tell you to pick up the pieces of your broken dignity and get the hell out. Walk away and never turn back. Do it before it’s too late!

Because if you don’t, ten years from now, you’ll catch yourself in the exact same situation, still trapped in this repetitive pattern with no sign of progress and no light at the end of the tunnel.