En el amor, nunca te conformes con menos

No te conformes nunca con menos de lo que mereces.

Have you ever stopped and really thought about why you’re doing the complete opposite?

Es decir, nadie te obliga a hacerlo, nadie te prohíbe pedir lo que te mereces. Así que, de nuevo, ¿por qué te conformas?

When you exclude emotions from reason, it’s more than logical to abandon a relationship that is making you unhappy.

It’s perfectly normal to leave with no strings attached and find your happiness elsewhere. Sadly, nothing is that simple as long as emotions get the better of you.

Even if you don’t love the person you’re unhappy with, you’ve grown used to them and there is no way you could just leave without feeling something… anything.

That’s when emotions make a big deal and guilt you into staying unhappy. You feel sorry for the person; you feel sorry for the lost time and you keep hoping that something will gradually change.

You don’t want to just quit and let everything you’ve worked hard for go to waste.

Normalmente, esos sentimientos son los culpables, pero aún más común es que la gente que se conforma con menos es increíblemente insegura y lo hacen porque tienen poca o ninguna fe en sí mismos.

We all have that seed of doubt, the mistrust in ourselves, planted deep inside us, but the way we’re handling it is what counts.

Algunos mantienen sus inseguridades bajo control y otros dejan que sus dudas les coman vivos.

For as long as you don’t put an end to it, you aren’t going to be happy.

Change your attitude from “I’m not good enough to be with someone” to “I want someone who actually deserves me” and your unhappiness is going to come to an end.

That part of your life will turn into nothing more than a huge mistake from which you’ve learned the most important lesson.

The reason why you’re settling can be this, or it can be because you’re just miedo a la soltería.

I understand it’s scary, especially if you’ve spent most of your life as part of a duo and now you have to go back to the game, but you’re not sure if the rules have changed.

You’re not sure if you’re going to make it.   Let me tell you something, every change is scary, but you can never know for sure that it’s a bad thing.

Y todos somos así. Todos asumimos, en el acto, que si las cosas cambian y se convierten en algo con lo que no estamos familiarizados, eso es malo para nosotros.

That is a load of crap! That is the fear talking out of you – the fear that is your biggest enemy.

Something that is pulling you down and pulling you back, something that isn’t allowing you to grow.

Este miedo a la soltería está estrechamente relacionado con la miedo al abandono.

We are – and I’m using “we” because I’m talking about all of us, not just you – we are all putting an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves because of these abandonment issues.

Intentamos salvar una relación rota, aunque eso signifique encontrar excusas para un comportamiento tóxico.

To anyone else, leaving a loveless relationship seems the right road to take, but for you, it’s a dark path full of obstacles and challenges.

It’s the leap to the unknown; it’s a huge risk you aren’t willing to take just yet!

I bet you’ve thought exactly the same as what I’m I about to say: “It’s better to be in a crappy relationship than spend the rest of your life alone!”

This is when everything goes to hell. This one sentence craps all over your life. This one sentence defines you who you are and how you’re going to deal with love.

Adoptar este tipo de postura te mete en una situación de la que es muy difícil escapar. I have a story to share with you…

Estaba en una relación sin amor. Al principio, era como cualquier otra relación.

Estábamos en nuestra fase de luna de miel y éramos muy felices. Parecía que nada podría separarnos.

Sadly, as time passed by, I fell out of love. He wasn’t that interesting anymore because he didn’t try hard enough, which led me to believe he didn’t care.

However, there is something valuable I’ve learned from that relationship. Acting as if you’re in love with someone you’re not is even more painful than leaving him.

Having to say “I love you” was the hardest thing I had to do, not just because it wasn’t true, but because it once was.

Cuando desenamorarse, hazos un favor a los dos y deja marchar a esa persona.

Don’t lie to them and don’t make them a fool. Don’t lie to yourself and don’t be scared of what comes next.

Se supone que las relaciones te hacen crecer y te convierten en mejor persona.

The person you’re with is supposed to influence you positively and help you become the best version of yourself.

If neither of you got what you’re supposed to get, plus happiness, then there is really no point in staying together.

Tu destino está en tus manos. Aceptar menos de lo que mereces es una decisión que tú eliges tomar.

Cuando te conformas con menos en el amor, pero también en todos los aspectos de la vida, te conviertes en cómplice de tu propia decepción y disgusto.

By allowing yourself to settle for less than you desire, you are putting your life in your own hands, but rather than doing something that will impact you positively, you’re placing yourself in a negative place where you aren’t getting what you want or need.

Going out and getting what’s yours, sticking out for your own good and your happiness – these don’t make you a bitch; it makes you a strong woman who is in complete control of her own destiny.

When you begin to make decisions in your life that reflect what you truly want, this is when you will start to feel confident in yourself and your life will consequently mirror what you’d hoped for.

One of those big decisions is leaving the one you settle for. It’s going to hurt big time, but it’s not going to hurt forever.

No puedes quedarte en un sitio permanentemente y esperar un cambio en la vida. Tienes que iniciar el cambio para que algo suceda.

Te debes a ti mismo darlo todo durante esta única vida que tienes. Tienes que arriesgarte para ganar algo a cambio.

Hay que ser intrépido para ser imparable.