Cómo encontrar la pareja perfecta conociendo tu auténtico yo

Para entrar en relación duradera...primero tienes que comprender tu auténtico yo. Not the self that you project to the world – the public persona you want everyone to see you as. The self that is often front and center only when you’re alone with your thoughts. Connect with this person in order to understand what you truly want in a partnership.

Aunque creas que hay ciertos aspectos de tu ser interior que proyectas hacia el exterior, tu yo social y aquel al que vuelves en momentos de tranquilidad nunca serán cien por cien iguales. Esto se debe a que la versión social valora la aportación de los demás e interactúa con ellos para autovalidarse. Tus seres queridos siempre sentirán como si te conocieran mejor y tuvieran en mente tus mejores intenciones cuando intenten emparejarte con la pareja de tus sueños.

However, if you don’t know what kind of person will complete you on a soul level and you rush into a relationship with someone that’s not a great fit simply to appease others, there will be an unavoidable truth that something is amiss. Maybe you can easily put your finger on what this is; maybe not. But either way, you will feel it inside.

When others play matchmaker, they tend to set you up with someone that they’ve known for a while, who they believe is a good person and will make you happy. This is because they only see one version of this person, just as they see one version of you.

If you accept, there’s a chance that you might not feel the proverbial spark. Even if the person on the other end of the match-making game is indeed everything your family or friends said he was, this doesn’t mean he is right for you. And, it’s always tough having to put an end to something when it will be disappointing to those we care about.

Por eso es importante comprender qué te hará feliz desde el principio, antes de que nadie salga herido, ¡incluido tú! Si tienes un conocimiento sólido de lo que te hace vibrar y de lo que necesitas de un compañero a nivel anímico, es más probable que empieces a conectar con alguien que te llene y se adapte a tu energía.

¿Qué significa esto?

It means you should take your time. It means taking the time to go inward and reflect on the person you are genuinely, maybe for the first time ever. It may seem foreign and uncomfortable at first because most of the time you’re rushing around, trying to meet the needs of everyone else, while ignoring those of your own. You may feel like you don’t even have five minutes to spare, but you do.

When your head hits the pillow at night or when you pull up at your next appointment, before getting out of the car, you’ll have a few precious moments to spare to go inward and ensure you’re on the right track. There is always time to check in, even if it is just briefly.

The bottom line is, no one else knows what’s best for you. Only you have all the answers. But you won’t be able to crack the code until you work on summoning your authentic self in quiet moments of self-reflection. When this becomes more natural, you may feel like a whole new person at first. That’s okay. It’s still you. It’s the authentic you that’s been waiting to be heard. Eventually, this person will become so familiar, she will shine through to the outside, too.

Cuando conecta contigo mismo a nivel del alma, esto no sólo será perceptible para ti, sino para todos los que te rodean. Puede que te sientas un poco más animado y que desarrolles una actitud más positiva. Entonces, y sólo entonces, estará listo para extender esta positividad a otra persona en una nueva conexión romántica. Y la persona adecuada se sentirá atraída por ti porque estás presentando al mundo quién eres realmente.
Cuando encuentras el amor como tu auténtico yo, tiende a durar toda la vida.  Así que, ¡dale una oportunidad al amor y pruébalo!