Cuando ignoras a una mujer de verdad, le enseñas a vivir sin ti

Desde que tienes uso de razón, te han enseñado que necesitas hazte el duro si quieres tener cualquier chica que elijas. You assumed that this was the only way to truly win a girl’s heart, to get in her pants and finally under her skin.

At the end of the day, we all want what and who we can’t have, right? And she is no exception; at least, she shouldn’t be one.

You’ve done this trick like a million times; you acted like you couldn’t care less about the girl you were seeing until she was all yours. And each one of them fell for it.

So, here is the drill: The more you run from her, the more she’ll chase you. If you make her doubt your feelings every day, she’ll give her best to enter your heart.

When you treat her coldly, she’ll put an effort into making you love her. When you send her mixed signals, she will spend hours or days thinking about you and trying to decode them.

Si te haces el misterioso, su prioridad será descifrarte y descubrir todas las capas de tu personalidad. Si juegas a juegos mentales fríos y calientes, hará todo lo que esté en su mano para llegar al fondo de tus intenciones.

When you leave her on read, she will double-text you to see what went wrong. When you don’t return her calls, she will panically start stalking you, just to find out where you are and what you’ve been up to.

If you are seeing other girls, she’ll compete with them until she has you all to herself. If you give her breadcrumbs of your attention, she won’t settle until she gets your wholehearted love.

When a girl doesn’t know where she stands with you, you automatically become more interesting. You become her prey and she doesn’t give up until she catches you.

And by then, it is usually too late—she is already head over heels for you. After all the effort she put into you, she is ready to do whatever it takes to keep you around.

En realidad, las cosas son bastante sencillas: Cuanto más ignorar a una mujer, the more effort she’ll put into chasing you. The more indifference you show, the bigger her fight will be to win your heart.

Bueno, déjame decirte una cosa: All of this is nothing but a load of crap. Yes, it might be true when it comes to immature girls who don’t know what they want.

Este enfoque funciona para las chicas que tienen un problema de inseguridad y que necesitan tu aprobación para ver su autoestima. Para chicas a las que les va el drama sin sentido y que necesitan un subidón de ego en forma de hombre.

Sin embargo, todo es diferente cuando se trata de un  mujer de verdad because where she is concerned, you’ll only get the opposite effect—you’ll end up chasing her away with this behavior.

You see, this woman isn’t into games. She is not turned on by men who are not sure about her and who have trouble making up their mind about her.

This girl knows what and who she wants and won’t settle for a man who treats her like one of his options. Besides, she doesn’t have the time or the energy for the chase you so desperately crave.

En su lugar, a ella le gustan las cosas pasadas de moda; ya sabes, como el amor, el respeto, la honestidad y la atención incondicional.

Así que when you ignore this girl, you’re only helping her get used to a life without you. You are giving her a chance to learn how to get by on her own and an opportunity to kick you out of her system.

You’re only distancing yourself from her and you’re helping her get over you while you’re still there. You’re showing her that she is only wasting her time with you and you’re giving yourself a one-way ticket out of her life.

This woman needs someone who will be a consistent figure in her life. A man she can rely on, without having to constantly worry if he’ll turn his back on her the very next morning after he promised her the world.

She needs someone to be her life companion and someone who will make her existence more beautiful. However, what she doesn’t need is a guy who will drain her energy and turn her life into a nightmare.

Una mujer de verdad necesita hombre de verdad. Lo último que quiere es un chico con problemas de autoestima muy arraigados que necesita que ella vaya detrás de él para sentirse más hombre de lo que en realidad es.

Además, she is very well aware of her self-worth so she definitely won’t allow you to humiliate her and treat her like your puppy. Yes, she loves you deeply but that doesn’t mean she is ready to lose her dignity just to heal your insecurities.

Por mucho que esta mujer se preocupe por ti, she won’t beg you to give her what she deserves even if her life depends on it. Most importantly—she won’t sit there patiently waiting for you to come to your senses and realize it’s about time to change your ways.

Así que, por favor, don’t be surprised when se aleja de ti y recuerda que fuiste tú quien provocó su marcha. Cuando te deje, recuerda que no le dejaste otra opción y que la alejaste con tu comportamiento infantil.

Most importantly—don’t expect her to come back and understand that this is her final goodbye.

After all, she warned you that this day would come and that you’re testing both her limits and her patience. She kept telling you to cut the crap, to start treating her with respect and to make up your mind.

Sin embargo, seguiste con tus patrones tóxicos. Pensabas que todo era una farsa y estabas seguro de que ella se quedaría siempre a tu lado, perdiendo el tiempo en esta situación a la que la habías arrastrado.

Well, guess what? She won’t. Le enseñaste a vivir sin ti, ¡así que atente a las consecuencias!