Demuéstrale que eres un buen partido

¿Eres consciente de que puedes estar saboteando tus propias posibilidades de encontrar el amor verdadero sin ni siquiera saberlo?

If you were unlucky in love so far, it’s probably time to change some things.

No, you aren’t doing anything wrong per se, you’re probably being too good. And you know what they say: it’s possible to have too much of a good thing.

Verás, las cosas que haces dictan la forma en que un hombre te percibe.

For instance, if you’re always at his beck and call, investing too much of your time and effort in him, he’ll start taking you for granted.

Instead of meeting you halfway, he’ll let you do all the work.

And sure it will work for a while, but he’ll lack a challenge and sooner or later get bored. He won’t be able to appreciate your affection or goodness.

That’s why it’s time to turn the tables. No, you don’t need mind games. All you need to do is show him what you are made of. Show him how lucky he is to have someone like you in his life.

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Sea accesible

If you are playing hard to get, distant, and cold, it’s only natural for a man to think he has no chance with you, so he won’t even bother approaching you.

On the other hand, if you give him a hint – a simple cocky smile – it will be a sign for him to make his move.

Pero hay un truco. Construye primero una relación contigo mismo. Ten confianza en ti mismo y sé consciente de lo que vales.

Las cosas son mucho más fáciles para una mujer segura de sí misma a la que le gusta su propia compañía, y cualquier hombre salta ante la oportunidad de disfrutarla también. Conviértete en esa mujer.

Don’t fall into the availability trap

Lo que la mayoría de las mujeres hacemos mal cuando nos enamoramos es que nos volvemos demasiado disponibles. Aprovechamos cualquier oportunidad para estar con él y nos olvidamos de todo lo demás.

We adjust our lives to accommodate a man. And that’s exactly where everything goes wrong. We send a message that we don’t have a life of our own to live.

Don’t fall into that trap. If you have a girl’s night planned and he calls you out of the blue, say, “Sorry, I have something else planned. See you in a couple days?”

If he doesn’t text you back right away, don’t jump to answer as soon as your phone lights up.

You don’t want him to perceive you as someone who sits and waits for his messages, but as a woman who has a lot going on.

Tiene que saber que tiene que hacer un esfuerzo para verte y saber de ti.

Don’t be a gift, be an investment

Cuando nos enamoramos, tenemos la necesidad instintiva de dar lo mejor de nosotros mismos a nuestra amada. Así que hacemos todo lo posible por complacerla. Llamamos, enviamos mensajes, hacemos planes, nos esforzamos y mucho más.

Así nos servimos a nosotros mismos en bandeja de plata. Estamos regalando nuestro corazón y nuestra alma como si fuera un obsequio.

Essentially, that leads us nowhere. That’s why you should let him invest in you as much as you invest in him, if not more.

Allow him to meet you halfway and learn to receive from him everything you so selflessly give. Trust me, it’ll make him appreciate you more.

Resista las llamadas nocturnas

No matter how much you like him, and how intoxicatingly attractive you find him, don’t answer his late-night calls.

Don’t settle for hangouts in his place or yours because the only thing you will become is a number on his hookup list.

Si exiges respeto, recibirás respeto de su parte.

I’m not saying you should wait until you get married to sleep with him, just don’t give him boyfriend benefits until he actually is your boyfriend.

There is an unwritten rule that men don’t appreciate things they can easily get. So, whatever you do, don’t be easy.

Don’t forget about the feel-good factor

A lot of us come with a lot of emotional baggage and issues from the relationships past, but that doesn’t mean we should drop them on a new guy we just started seeing.

Sé la luz que le atrae, no la oscuridad que le aleja. Vive el momento y deja a un lado el pasado.

Keep the topics of your conversation light and fun. Make him feel good about himself when he’s around you.

Be the person he wants to get to know better because you’re so positive and laid back. There will be plenty of time to talk about the big and deep stuff when the time is right.

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Deja de precipitarte y alcanzarás antes tu objetivo

 

Love is not a race. You don’t need to have all the answers right away. You can’t know if he is your forever person based on the few first dates.

Good things take time. Take it one step at a time and get to know each other. Don’t take things too seriously right from the start.

Quizá quieras salir con alguien durante un tiempo y conoceros mejor antes de iniciar una relación.

O nce you’re there, there’s plenty of time for bonding and building a world together before the next relationship level. You’ll get there naturally.

So don’t force it. Avoid topics of moving in together, marriage, and kids early on. Let him initiate those topics when he’s ready.

Permítele ser un hombre manteniendo tu independencia

 

Ser un mujer independiente es algo estupendo, pero a veces llevamos esa independencia demasiado lejos.

Lo que tenemos que hacer es establecer un equilibrio entre nuestra independencia y la asociación con un hombre.

You see, what every man wants is to feel needed. If he doesn’t, then he sees no reason for staying by your side. So what’s wrong with him carrying your grocery bags? Absolutely nothing.

Sure, you can do it yourself, but it’s also great when he’s able to do something nice for you. The same applies to everything else in life.

You don’t need to depend on him for every little thing, but it’s important you let him know you want him in your life. Also, it’s important to motivarle a perseguirte.

Si te pierdes a ti misma, lo perderás a él

 

La razón por la que muchas relaciones potencialmente buenas fracasan es porque las mujeres empiezan a dar prioridad al hombre que aman y en el proceso se descuidan a sí mismas.

Se olvidan de todos sus objetivos, aspiraciones, amigos y de la vida en general, y hacen de él todo su universo.

En ese proceso, su hombre pierde interés porque una mujer que antes era interesante y tenía una vida propia que llevar ahora no tiene nada que mostrar.

Fight the instinct. You’ll want nothing more than to spend every waking moment with him, but resist the urge. Find the right balance.

Encuentra siempre tiempo para ti y para las personas que formaban parte de tu vida mucho antes de que él apareciera. Sueña, crea y construye una vida de la que te sientas orgulloso.

Haz que tu vida sea tan increíble que cualquier hombre quiera formar parte de ella.