7 tipos de hombres indisponibles que deberías evitar

Todos soñamos con tener ese amor loco que nos hace sonreír sin motivo y reír como colegialas.

We all want that kind of love we read about in the books—the love that lasts a lifetime and that’s still there when we’re old and wrinkled.

Pero ese tipo de amor es imposible de tener con cierto tipo de hombres y, por mucho que lo intentemos, seguimos sintiendo que sólo los atraemos a ellos.

Para evitar otro desengaño y decepción amorosa, he aquí los tipos de no disponible hombres que debes evitar como la peste.

1. Jugador

Let’s be honest: at some point in our lives we fell for a player. He’s the type of man who is incapable of settling for just one woman and he often leaves emotional wreckage wherever he passes.

But we tend to fix people and once we fall for this type of man, we hope that our love will be strong enough to make him change. That maybe we’re different and he will want to settle with us.

But there’s no way you can fix a player—the need for change has to come from him. There’s no woman strong enough to change him; it has to be him.

2. Relación a distancia

Hay hombres que prefieren tener relaciones a distancia because they’re simply easier. He gets the best of both worlds.

He has a long-distance girlfriend that helps him with emotions and struggles and over there he can be a fulltime player. I’m not saying every long-distance relationship is this way—my best friend is proof that they do work out.

But if you feel like you’re the only one that makes the effort into fighting that distance, he’s just as unavailable as any other player.

3. Egoísta

Él es lo único que le importa. Su comportamiento roza el narcisismo, lo que significa que todo tiene que girar en torno a él. Tus necesidades siempre estarán en segundo lugar porque él es una prioridad.

Ten en cuenta que para el amor hacen falta dos, y si te encuentras siendo el único que ama y da, déjalo. Te mereces algo mejor.

4. El hombre casado

He doesn’t have to be married to fit this group. It’s any man that’s already committed to someone else. He could be saying that he’s not happy, that they’re getting a divorce and you will trust him because you have no reason not to.

But this type of man is a cheater. There’s no guarantee that he won’t do the same to you or that he won’t walk away once he gets bored.

5. Fobia al compromiso

Es un tipo de hombre que mantendrá cualquier tipo de relación en el estatus de casi-relación. Si va más allá y tenéis una relación de verdad, podrían pasar años antes de que le ponga un anillo.

He’s scared of commitment and he will try to avoid talking about the matter at all costs. You’ll find yourself asking questions that remain unanswered and trying to explain to yourself why you’re still stuck in the same places after all those months/years.

6. Hombre emocionalmente no disponible

Se trata de un tipo de hombre que constantemente pone excusas o nunca habla de sus sentimientos, apartándote de su vida. Estos hombres utilizan la crítica, la manipulación o la culpabilización para crear una distancia entre los dos.

He does these things because he’s either afraid of letting someone in due to past traumas in his life (that could’ve been caused by his parents or past girlfriends) or he’s shutting you out because he is emotionally immature and he doesn’t know how to cope with the commitment and love.

La indisponibilidad emocional puede ser crónica o temporal. La forma crónica está causada por una enfermedad mental, una infancia problemática o una adicción, mientras que la temporal se debe a que otra cosa es más prioritaria que tú.

This ‘something else’ could be a career, health, education or freedom. Sometimes it’s impossible to tell if it’s temporary or chronic unavailability, but either way, this type of hombre te llevará a sentirte rechazada or broken. And trust me, he’s not worth your tears or pain.

7. Adicto

Puede ser alcohólico, adicto al trabajo, a las drogas o a la pornografía. Estas actividades siempre serán lo primero para él. Puede reconocerlo fácilmente porque su vida pronto girará en torno a estas actividades.

And even your sex life will suffer, especially if he’s a drug or pornography addict. He will often try to make it up to you, being remorseful, buying you gifts and making promises that it will never happen again.

But, addiction is addiction after all. If there’s no professional help and serious commitment into getting rid of this addiction, there’s no point in hoping he will change. This is a type of man you should run from because no matter what, you will always come second after his addiction.