25 maneras de ser amable con uno mismo y por qué es importante

“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” ― Max Ehrmann

La gente dice que debemos tratar a los demás como queremos que nos traten, pero yo digo que debería ser al revés.

Debes tratarte a ti mismo como quieres que te traten los demás.

In other words, be gentle with yourself because that’s how you teach people how they should treat you.

Todos deberíamos hacernos la siguiente pregunta, ¿seguiríamos saliendo con nuestros amigos si nos trataran igual que nos tratamos a nosotros mismos?

¿Estás orgulloso de cómo te tratas a ti mismo? ¿Eres siempre tu prioridad?

If you aren’t, you should definitely change that because it is vital for your own well-being.

Estamos tan ocupados con nuestro trabajo, nuestras carreras y nuestro crecimiento personal que, de alguna manera, nos olvidamos de cuidar de nosotros mismos.

El hecho es que nos preocupamos más por los demás que por nosotros mismos.

To clarify, I don’t think that worrying about other people’s well-being is a bad thing, but we should make ourselves a priority.

Tienes que ser más amable contigo mismo. Te lo debes a ti mismo.

Busca algunos consejos en libros de autoayuda y empieza a tratarte con más delicadeza y amabilidad.

Cómo ser amable con uno mismo

Ahora que conoces la importancia de ser amable contigo mismo, podemos ver algunas formas muy fáciles de hacerlo.

Always be honest with yourself…

Por muy difícil que se ponga la vida (y seguro que lo hará), siempre hay que ser sincero con uno mismo.

Lying to yourself isn’t allowed – even white and consoling lies are forbidden.

Hay una solución para cada problema, hay una salida para cada situación, por difícil que sea.

Sólo tienes que ser sincero contigo mismo y empezar a buscar la mejor solución.

Acepta la vida tal y como es. Acepta la realidad. Si cometes un error o haces algo mal, admítelo, intenta arreglarlo y sigue adelante.

It’s the only recipe for living a fulfilled life.

…but also, always speak kindly to yourself

So what if you’ve made a mistake? So what if you gave someone another chance even if you knew they didn’t deserve it.

It’s not a reason for you to be angry or hard on yourself. Be gentle on yourself.

We all make mistakes and do things we aren’t proud of sometimes, you aren’t the only one, trust me.

We all have our inner critics but don’t allow them to be louder than you. If you do, it’s going to have a negative impact on your self-esteem.

Comparta sus sentimientos con sus seres queridos

Si algo te preocupa, no dudes en contárselo a tu mejor amigo o a tu pareja.

They’ll listen to you and give you the best advice.

You don’t have to manage all your emotions by yourself.

I know we all get overwhelmed sometimes and we start thinking about how we can’t take it anymore.

Well, in those moments, feel free to talk it over with your loved ones. It’ll help you feel better instantly.

Deja de anteponer a los demás a ti mismo

It’s nice to worry about your loved ones, take care of them, and help them whenever you can.

However, that shouldn’t be a reason for you to neglect your own needs.

Tienes que ponte tú primero and take care of your own needs. It’s not selfish, it’s normal. You’ll see how it benefits your self-image.

By putting yourself first, you’ll come to the conclusion that some people don’t even deserve to have any place in your life.

You’ll realize that after all, you are the most important character in your life.

Practicar el autocuidado

Listen to your body, it’ll always say what it needs.

Por muy apretada que sea tu agenda semanal, siempre tienes que encontrar tiempo para el autocuidado.

Both your body and your soul need it. It’s connected with your physical and mental health. And the best part is that it’s so easy.

Sólo hay que dedicarle tiempo. Tan fácil pero, al mismo tiempo, tan beneficioso.

Date un capricho de vez en cuando

You definitely deserve it. Go shopping or order something online for yourself. Go buy that bag you’ve had your eye on for two months now.

Después de tanto esfuerzo, hay que darse un capricho.

It doesn’t even have to be a piece of clothing or jewelry – you can travel somewhere or spend the day at a spa.

Trabaja tu autoestima

Tu autoestima está muy influida por tu imagen de ti mismo y viceversa.

Tienes que trabajar en ambas cosas si quieres tener más confianza en ti mismo y demostrar a la gente que estás contento contigo mismo.

It’s essential for your personal growth, success, and dating life. There are so many ways to raise your self-esteem.

Deberías centrarte en las cosas que te gustan de ti mismo y en algunas de las habilidades de las que te sientes orgulloso.

Nobody’s perfect and you should always remember this.

Cuida tu salud mental

If you’re too hard on yourself, you’ll feel depressed and uncertain.

If you set some high expectations for yourself and you’re unable to fulfill them, you’ll feel like you’ve failed and it’ll leave some consequences on your mental health.

Tu salud mental es más importante que tu trabajo, tu carrera o cualquier otra cosa.

The connection between your mind and your body is so strong and that’s why you should take equal care of both.

Practicar la autocompasión

Esto está relacionado con el autocuidado y con hablarte con amabilidad.

Necesitas comprenderte a ti mismo, tus acciones y tus sentimientos.

You can do something you later realize was wrong for you, but still, you shouldn’t judge yourself. Accept it as your mistake and move on.

Of course, you should always work on yourself to be a better person, but you have to accept that you’ll make some mistakes on the way.

Escucha más tu voz interior

If all the people around you say that something is wrong for you and that you shouldn’t do it but your gut doesn’t really agree with it, you should listen to that inner voice.

Maybe sometimes it’ll lead you in the wrong direction but at least you’ll know that it was your own mistake and it’ll be easier for you to accept it.

I’m sure you’ve heard a million times that debes seguir a tu corazón.

Well, that’s not just some ordinary saying. It’s a truth and you should believe in it and déjate guiar por tu corazón.

Sea siempre optimista y piense en positivo

My personal motto is “think positive and positive things will happen.”

It’s really helped me a lot because I know how important hope is and hope is actually something that helps me get through all of life’s misfortunes.

Surround yourself with people who also have an optimistic perspective of life. Don’t allow anyone’s mood to affect yours.

Worrying about the future won’t do you any good because you can’t change it. You can affect it but you certainly can’t change it.

It’s okay to feel tired sometimes

Realmente es así. Todos estamos cansados a veces y necesitamos descansar. Tómate unos días libres en el trabajo y vete a algún sitio.

Visit a place you’ve always wanted to. Recarga las pilas antes de volver a tu vida cotidiana.

Haz cosas que normalmente te ayudan a relajarte. Duerma lo suficiente. Duerme tantas siestas como creas que necesitas.

Apaga el teléfono y lee algunos libros. Por mucho que necesidad de descansar tu cuerpo, necesitas descansar también tu mente y tu alma.

Don’t take work stress home

Deja tu trabajo en la oficina.

You have your working hours and that’s the only time you should be working and thinking about things from work.

Si llevas el estrés del trabajo a casa, también puede afectar a los que te rodean.

You’ll be nervous and tense and it can so easily provoke a fight between you and your partner or a family member.

Tómate tiempo para hacer las cosas que más te gustan

¿Qué es lo que más te gusta hacer? Pues deberías hacer más a menudo esas cosas que te hacen feliz.

Haz una lista. Escribe todas las cosas que te hacen feliz. Luego anótalas en tu agenda. Haz al menos una al día.

Things or people who make your heartbeat a little faster are all that’s important.

Start with some simple things and you’ll soon feel the benefits.

Don’t be your own worst critic

It’s good to set some goals and dreams for yourself but you don’t have to criticize yourself if you aren’t able to achieve every one of them.

Don’t be too hard on yourself because you’re only a human being. You aren’t perfect just as I’m not, just as no one is.

Learn from your mistakes and motivate yourself to be better the next time. Be proud of yourself and everything you’ve achieved so far in your life.

Aprenda a perdonarse a sí mismo

Esté siempre dispuesto a perdonarse a sí mismo.

You fell in love with the wrong person, you trusted someone easily and they betrayed you, you gave another chance to someone who didn’t deserve it and they didn’t know how to appreciate it…

Sí, todo eso son errores, pero son tuyos y deberías ser capaz de perdonarte a ti mismo. Haz de esos errores tus lecciones.

Learn something from them and don’t allow yourself to repeat any of them.

Desconecta de toda la negatividad que te rodea

Don’t hang out with people who only share negative vibes. I mean, I know you can’t stop hanging out with them, but try to avoid them.

Por desgracia, hay mucha gente tóxica que tiene envidia de la gente que le rodea.

Esas personas agotan la energía de los demás y deberías intentar salir con ellas lo menos posible.

Si algunas de esas personas son tus seres queridos, deberías hablarlo con ellos.

Warn them about the negative and bad vibes that they’re sending out to the rest of the world and tell them how they could end up alone if they don’t change.

Disfrute de su tiempo a solas

Estar solo doesn’t have to mean that you’re lonely.

Significa simplemente que tiene tiempo para usted y que ha encontrado la forma de disfrutarlo y pasarlo de la mejor manera posible.

Date un baño o monta una fiesta de baile privada en tu salón. Haz lo que te haga feliz y lo que te divierta.

When you have more obligations in life, you’ll miss those times, trust me. Being alone is also a great way to practice self-love.

Toma un desintoxicación de las redes sociales

Sometimes, social media is so toxic for us that we aren’t even aware of it. We should all take a social media detox from time to time.

Vuelve a tu vida real y dedícate más a ella.

You don’t always have to compete with your friends about who has posted a better photo or who has more likes and comments.

Real-life is something completely different. Go hang out with your friends, walk more, enjoy nature – camping is also a great idea.

Whatever, just don’t be obsessed with your virtual life anymore.

Don’t allow other people to control your life

You should never – NEVER – allow anyone to control you and your life. You’re the only one who has the right to do that.

Todos los consejos son bienvenidos.

If a dear friend of yours wants to tell you something or give you advice about something, you should listen to them but you don’t have to take their advice if you don’t agree with it.

Understand that you can’t always please everyone

Please, don’t ever be a people pleaser. I think that’s the most irritating trait a person can have.

Además, por mucho que lo intentes, nunca podrás complacer a todo el mundo.

People are so strange. They set some unrealistic expectations for you and then they get disappointed when you don’t meet them.

You shouldn’t worry about this, nor should you worry about the opinions that other people have of you.

Lo único importante es lo que tú quieres y debes intentar complacerte siempre.

You don’t have control over some things and you should stop worrying about it

Hay cosas que simplemente no puedes controlar y debes dejarlas pasar. Acéptalas como son y espera siempre lo mejor.

If you can’t affect something, if you can’t change it, then why should you worry about it?

It’s not worth sacrificing your mood and mental health over.

Relájate y déjate llevar. Prepárate para aceptar las consecuencias por muy malas que sean.

What’s meant to happen will always happen no matter how much you try to stop it.

Salir con niños pequeños siempre ayuda

Their giggles, the way they pronounce some words… It’s all so cute and it’s something that really can make everyone smile.

Small children are so naive, pure, kind, and well-meaning. You feel like you just don’t have to think about anything when you hang out with them.

Even though most of us aren’t aware of it, we can learn so many things from them.

Por ejemplo, podemos aprender que ser honesto siempre merece la pena y que nuestra sonrisa también puede hacer felices a los demás.

Deberías probar la meditación

Why not? Give me one good reason why you think that meditation won’t help you?

Everyone that’s tried it will tell you how it made them more relaxed.

Try to learn how to do it properly and if the Internet can’t help you, you can always find a group of people and meditate with them.

Take a deep breath and begin. I’m sure it will help you to feel more relaxed and to understand yourself better.

Enamórate de tu vida

Life is really beautiful, but it’s also short and you should enjoy every moment of it.

Tienes que encontrar cosas y personas que te hagan feliz y quedarte con ellas.

También hay que dedicar algo de tiempo a la superación personal.

You should always try to see the best in people but you should never expect them to be the same with you as you’re with them.

Por el camino, si tienes la oportunidad de amar de verdad, deberías aprovecharla. Lo más hermoso de este mundo es el amor verdadero.

All in all…

I hope you’ve understood the importance of being gentle with yourself. It’s very sad and strange that most of us still aren’t aware of it.

It’s no wonder that many people feel burned out and emotionally drained these days.

Most of us aren’t even aware of it and therefore don’t look for advice on how to help ourselves.

Start changing the way you treat yourself and you’ll see how your whole life will change for the better immediately.

When you do that, you’ll realize how badly you’ve been treating yourself and that you need to apologize to yourself right away.

Remember and always keep in mind the quote from Paulo Coelho that goes like this: “Sé amable contigo mismo. Lo estás haciendo lo mejor que puedes.”