Esto es lo que realmente significa ser un amigo leal

When we get our hearts broken, when we feel like there’s no one in this world who understands us, when everything is going badly… we always think about that one person in our life, ese buen amigo que siempre está ahí para nosotros.

No matter how tough times may get, it’s always important to have a loyal friend on our side.

Ser un amigo leal es mucho más de lo que cabría esperar. It’s also much more than writing a carta de feliz cumpleaños a tu mejor amigo una vez al año. La gente suele preguntarme por qué es importante la lealtad en las amistades.

Well, let me tell you that it’s just as important to have a loyal friend as it is to have a loyal partner.

Ser un amigo leal significa tener prioridades. Whether we would like to admit it or not, we all have that one person in our life who’s always on our mind in a non-romantic way.

It’s that one friend we always think about—whether they are doing fine and if we can help them get through those tough times just a little bit more easily.

To prioritize friendships means to know when to go to your best friend, even when they haven’t asked you to.

Significa tener siempre tiempo libre para ellos, dejar que se acuesten en tu regazo y ayudarles a resolver cualquier problema que puedan tener en su vida.

It’s knowing that they will be on your side no matter what. ¿Qué es un amigo leal sino alguien que te defiende cuando alguien dice algo malo de ti?

When there are times that they find themselves in the company of someone who might not like you, and they don’t hesitate to shut them up, telling them how much of an awesome person you actually are—this is what it means to have a loyal friend!

Someone who won’t think twice about defending you.

When you have a boyfriend who doesn’t seem right, a amigo leal se te acercarán y te dirán lo que piensan.

I can’t even count the number of times that the people I thought to be my true friends lied to me, hiding the fact that they had seen my boyfriend cheating on me during high school and even gossiping around. Those aren’t real friends!

A amigo leal es alguien que hace de la relación que tiene contigo su prioridad. Nadie debería ser más importante.

Being a loyal friend means that they will run to you the moment they see something that’s not right.

It’s that friend who gives you an honest opinion that a guy might not be the right one for you for many reasons that they can see, but you don’t because you’re blinded by love.

It’s that friend who is not afraid to tell you when you buy something stupid that doesn’t look good on you. Yup. That is la definición de la verdadera amistad.

And when I say ‘amigo leal’, there is someone who pops up in your mind.

Alguien a quien quieres mucho, y ese amor platónico es suficiente para manteneros unidos el resto de vuestras vidas.

You know you have a loyal friend if you don’t have to talk to them every day, if you don’t have to spend every minute of every waking hour together, but rather when you spend days, weeks or months separated and when you finally meet, you feel that sensation of belonging—like you’ve never been separated.

Su amigo leal es esa persona en tu vida a la que primero acudes, para hablar de ese estúpido mensaje de texto o de un comentario que tu hombre te envió el redes sociales.

It’s that person in your life who ends up loving you, even though they know how crazy you are.

It’s that one friend que permanecerá fiel a tu relación en los malos tiempos, en los buenos, para siempre jamás.

And when you introduce them to a new friend you’ve just met, they are not jealous because they genuinely enjoy being in the company of all of your close friends.

They know that they will always be your bff no matter what, and you don’t have to reassure them of how important and special they are to you.

Amigos leales son aquellos amigos cuyo principal enfoque es mejorar vuestra amistad y no iros sólo cuando las cosas se ponen feas.

Uno de mis versículos bíblicos favoritos sobre la amistad de Proverbios 18:24 explains this one: “There are ‘friends’ who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.”

There are friends who are only interested in your company when things are going smoothly—which is the easiest part of any friendship.

Pero las personas leales de verdad saben que permanecer unidos en los momentos difíciles, en lugar de rendirse, es lo que hace que una amistad sea más fuerte y profunda. Los verdaderos amigos nunca renuncian a su amistad.

Encuentran la manera de hacer que las cosas funcionen y nunca se rinden hasta que todo vuelve a ser como antes.

A amigo leal nunca se olvida de recoger their phone when you’re in need of their help or advice.

They don’t make excuses like: I was busy doing this and that…porque saben que tú nunca les harías eso a ellos si estuvieran en la misma situación.

And even if they were really prevented from answering the phone, true friends don’t forget to call you after that.

Su prioridad es tu bienestar y tu felicidad, y nunca te hacen esperar porque son amigos leales hasta la médula.

They don’t only think about themselves and they don’t only call you when they need something.

Siempre están ahí para ti, dispuestos a echarte una mano y ayudarte a luchar contra las fuerzas y las personas malvadas.

Amigos leales entierran tus secretos en lo más profundo de sus corazones, y nunca, bajo ninguna circunstancia, traicionan tu confianza.

Puedes contarles lo que quieras sin miedo a que mañana media ciudad se entere de alguna manera.

Tus secretos están a salvo con ellos porque sus corazones e intenciones son puros.

They don’t pretend to be your true friends only for the sake of collecting your “personal data” and sharing it with other people.

Los verdaderos amigos son aquellos que nunca te dan motivos para desconfiar.

When you have something important to share with them, you don’t think twice about it.

You just call them or go to them and tell everything that’s on your mind, knowing that your secrets will be safe with them because their beautiful hearts are the safest places on the planet.

La amistad leal es la que te inspira a ser mejor persona.

Loyal friends don’t judge you (for any reason), and they don’t make you feel less important.

Por el contrario, te inspiran para convertirte en mejor persona y en la mejor versión de ti mismo.

If you’re doing something wrong, they don’t just stay silent, watching you falling down.

They let you know about your wrong decisions, and they don’t give up until you’ve understood what they are trying to tell you.

Loyal friends don’t force you to do something you’re not comfortable with just because they are doing it.

Entienden que cada uno tiene sus propias opciones, y respetan las suyas.

They respect you and love you for who you really are—not for who they want you to be.

Les encantan tus rarezas and flaws because that’s what makes you special in their eyes.

Saben que esas son sus señas de identidad y dan lo mejor de sí mismos para alimentar su autenticidad.

Ser leal a los amigos significa ser leal a algo en lo que crees, no porque debas, sino porque quieres.

It means hugging, cursing, yelling, crying and bleeding together because you believe in your special friendship, and you wouldn’t want to go through all those things with anyone else.

Significa hacer estupideces por el mero hecho de hacerlas, reírse después juntos de lo estúpidos que sois en realidad y abrazar ese momento con orgullo y más risas.

Being loyal to friends means rising up, falling down and rising up again, no matter how many times you’ve fallen.

It means always supporting and understanding each other no matter what because if you won’t, you know that no one else will.

Significa estar juntos en la estupidez, en los buenos momentos, en los malos, en los momentos fríos y en los momentos sangrantes.

It means wiping tears from each other’s faces and plotting revenge together because that’s what amigos leales Hazlo. Loyal friends feel each other’s pain and share their tears.

No temen llorar el uno delante del otro y mostrarse vulnerables porque saben que son más fuertes cuando están juntos.

Saben que rememorar tus viejos recuerdos es lo que te hará sentir mejor, y saben cómo convertir tus lágrimas en una sonrisa.

And they are ready to plot revenge with you against the whole world if needed because that’s what loyal friends do.

They don’t give a shit about what other (irrelevant) people think. Hacen lo que tienen que hacer, y lo hacen porque realmente quieren hacerlo.

Tu felicidad es un reflejo de la suya, y vuestros cuerpos y almas están juntos en ello.

Yes, that’s what being a amigo leal se trata. So don’t forget to treat your friends like they treat you—with respect, love and protection.

You might not find someone as amazing as they are ever again in your life, so don’t make the mistake of thinking that they won’t hold it against you for not being there for them (especially in hard times).

Ve y demuéstrales lo mucho que les aprecias. Ve y demuestra al mundo que les quieres y que vuestra amistad es realmente algo especial.

Now, let’s summarize all of this with one of the most beautiful quotes about loyal friends by Maurice R. Franks:

“Loyalty cannot be blueprinted. It cannot be produced on an assembly line. In fact, it cannot be manufactured at all, for its origin is the human heart – the center of self-respect and human dignity.”