Hasta que no demuestres que vales, no me acostaré contigo

I am sick of this hookup culture; whatever happened to good old dating? I don’t want my relationship finishing before it even had a chance to start. I don’t want to feel broken after someone who just started warming to me disappears.

Enough is enough. I am setting some new rules. Until you prove you are worthy, I won’t sleep with you.

If you are not a player, you will stay by my side even without boyfriend benefits. I don’t want to waste my time on someone who is solely interested in getting to know my body, not my soul.

If you are like that, I will let you leave and I won’t shed a tear. I value myself too much to sell myself short.

Claro que quiero acostarme contigo, pero no de inmediato.

Hay un placer oculto en esperar, en anhelar a otra persona, en saber que le gustas a alguien en más de un sentido.

Quiero saber que eres diferente al resto.

Que te interese conocerme y todo lo que ello conlleva. Quiero sentirme valorada y respetada.

I am not a saint and I don’t wear a chastity belt but I need to feel all the right feelings before jumping into bed with someone.

Necesito intimidad emocional por encima de la sexual. Me atraes tanto como tú a mí, si no más pero estoy dispuesta a esperar.

I don’t want to be just a checkmark on the list of women you slept with. I want to know that I matter.

I felt like that a few times in the past and I don’t want to feel like that ever again. I don’t want to confuse sexual desire with a genuine emotional connection.

That’s why I need time. Time to get to know you. Time for you to get to know me. And with that time, the tensión sexual between us won’t disappear. The chemistry will turn into an emotional bond if we are the real deal.

If we are not… if we are fleeting… then it’s better we don’t get into bed together.

Sólo pagaré esos momentos de placer con lágrimas y decepción. Tendré alegría instantánea y largas noches de soledad después, echando de menos tus besos y tu tacto.

Si realmente me quieres, gánate un lugar en mi vida.

I need reciprocity. I need to know that investments go both ways. I need to see efforts, that’s what sexy is all about.

Quiero ver en tus acciones que te preocupas. Te dejaré entrar si me demuestras que se puede confiar en ti. Quiero sentirme segura y querida, ni más ni menos.

I know that you won’t mind the wait if you are the right man for me.

It won’t be easy on either of us but we can hold on until the timing is right. Until we know the sounds of each other’s laughter and what keeps us up at night.

Hasta que sepamos que esta conexión que sentimos es algo más que atracción física.  

Otra buena razón para esperar es el hecho de que hacer el amor es mucho mejor que tener sexo.

It’s more intense. It’s intimacy at its highest. It’s sharing your body, mind and soul with one person. It’s the closeness you feel after the act.

It’s everything you can’t have when it’s just sex without emotions.

I hope you get where I’m coming from after reading this. I know it might all sound complicated to you but I know I am worth the wait.