Después de demasiadas malas relaciones, he aprendido que ningún hombre vale mi cordura

Solía pensar que relaciones tóxicas son sólo relaciones apasionadas.

Back then I didn’t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, fights, and over-the-top expressions of love are what make a passionate relationship.

Vaya si me equivoqué. No sólo me equivoqué, sino que me costó mi tiempo, mi salud y todo lo que invertí en esas relaciones.

In some of them, I even questioned my sanity. After being blamed for things I didn’t do, criticized for my choices, and lied to regularly, it’s safe to say I started feeling like I was going crazy.

Por suerte, decidí hacer un punto y aparte.

Cuando me di cuenta de lo mal que me estaba tratando, decidí cambiar las cosas.

Ningún hombre vale mi cordura.

Esto me hizo decidirme a escribir mi propia lista de cosas que pondré en práctica en mi vida a partir de ahora:

Disfrutaré plenamente de la vida.

Life’s too short for unnecessary drama. I want to enjoy the beautiful things in life.

A bad relationship consumes your life. You don’t see anything else besides your partner and your relationship. The rest of the world ceases to exist and that’s just sad because life is beautiful.

That’s exactly why I remind myself to focus on all the good things in my life.

Me mantendré libre de dramas.

Sometimes I just can’t believe that some random guy clouded my vision so much. The whole drama I was involved in seems so stupid right now.

I lost so much of my energy trying to fix what couldn’t be fixed, I’ve had enough.

I won’t try to help people who don’t want to be helped.

The truth is you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want the same. The only thing that will do is drive usted loco.

Don’t stress over things you can’t control. That includes other people.

If someone genuinely wants to be with you, they won’t play games. They’ll be straight to the point.

I won’t tolerate someone else’s immaturity.

¿Estás familiarizada con esa situación en la que él hace cosas a propósito para hacerte perder la calma o simplemente te falta al respeto descaradamente?

I can’t even recall how many times I was left hanging while he went around having fun and acting like nothing happened.

Lo que me lleva a mi siguiente decisión:

I won’t let anyone make me feel crazy again.

If you’re still not aware of this, hear me out. It’s not normal to constantly fight with someone. It’s not passion – it’s just stupid and hurtful. That’s not a healthy relationship.

It’s not normal to tolerate things you wouldn’t tolerate from your friends.

Oh, and friends! They’ve heard so much of my BS instead of just enjoying my company and having a good time, that’s why I’ve decided:

Atesoraré a mis amigos y disfrutaré plenamente de nuestra relación.

Men come and go, but true friends are for life. Until you’re sure that you’ve met the one, make sure to care for your friends who’ve been there for you through the tough times.

I won’t lose my energy on unimportant things.

Preocuparme y estresarme por la relación me ha costado mucho. Causó estragos en mi salud mental y tuve que recorrer un largo camino para curarme.

I lost so much energy on unnecessary drama and feelings of anger and hurt when I could’ve just removed myself from the whole situation.

Las malas relaciones son las que me causaron tanto dolor, pero al final me hicieron apreciar más las cosas buenas de la vida.

What’s important is to always keep moving forward and not lose hope that better things are coming.

Aprendemos cometiendo errores. Y aprendiendo, crecemos.