Dopo troppe relazioni sbagliate, ho imparato che nessun uomo vale la mia sanità mentale

Ero solito pensare che relazioni tossiche sono solo relazioni passionali.

Back then I didn’t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, fights, and over-the-top expressions of love are what make a passionate relationship.

Mi sbagliavo. Non solo mi sbagliavo, ma mi è costato il mio tempo, la mia salute e tutto ciò che avevo investito in quelle relazioni.

In some of them, I even questioned my sanity. After being blamed for things I didn’t do, criticized for my choices, and lied to regularly, it’s safe to say I started feeling like I was going crazy.

Per fortuna ho deciso di fare una sosta completa.

Quando ho capito quanto mi stavo trattando male, ho deciso di cambiare le cose.

Nessun uomo vale la mia sanità mentale.

Questo mi ha fatto decidere di scrivere il mio personale elenco di cose che metterò in pratica nella mia vita d'ora in poi:

Mi godrò la vita appieno.

Life’s too short for unnecessary drama. I want to enjoy the beautiful things in life.

A bad relationship consumes your life. You don’t see anything else besides your partner and your relationship. The rest of the world ceases to exist and that’s just sad because life is beautiful.

That’s exactly why I remind myself to focus on all the good things in my life.

Rimarrò senza drammi.

Sometimes I just can’t believe that some random guy clouded my vision so much. The whole drama I was involved in seems so stupid right now.

I lost so much of my energy trying to fix what couldn’t be fixed, I’ve had enough.

I won’t try to help people who don’t want to be helped.

The truth is you can’t change anyone who doesn’t want the same. The only thing that will do is drive voi pazzesco.

Don’t stress over things you can’t control. That includes other people.

If someone genuinely wants to be with you, they won’t play games. They’ll be straight to the point.

I won’t tolerate someone else’s immaturity.

Avete presente la situazione in cui lui fa di proposito cose per farvi perdere la calma o semplicemente vi manca palesemente di rispetto?

I can’t even recall how many times I was left hanging while he went around having fun and acting like nothing happened.

Il che mi porta alla mia prossima decisione:

I won’t let anyone make me feel crazy again.

If you’re still not aware of this, hear me out. It’s not normal to constantly fight with someone. It’s not passion – it’s just stupid and hurtful. That’s not a healthy relationship.

It’s not normal to tolerate things you wouldn’t tolerate from your friends.

Oh, and friends! They’ve heard so much of my BS instead of just enjoying my company and having a good time, that’s why I’ve decided:

Farò tesoro dei miei amici e godrò appieno della nostra relazione.

Men come and go, but true friends are for life. Until you’re sure that you’ve met the one, make sure to care for your friends who’ve been there for you through the tough times.

I won’t lose my energy on unimportant things.

Preoccuparmi e stressarmi per la relazione mi è costato molto. Ha distrutto il mio salute mentale e ho dovuto percorrere un lungo cammino per guarire.

I lost so much energy on unnecessary drama and feelings of anger and hurt when I could’ve just removed myself from the whole situation.

Le relazioni sbagliate mi hanno causato tanto dolore, ma alla fine mi hanno fatto apprezzare di più le cose belle della vita.

What’s important is to always keep moving forward and not lose hope that better things are coming.

Impariamo sbagliando. E imparando si cresce.