Señoras, es hora de intensificar su juego de flirteo
Accentuate your lips! Smile and say hi when you pass by the guy you like… Seriously? If you’ve ever dug deeper into flirting matters, you’ve probably stumbled upon these and similar consejos de citas que se centran principalmente en su aspecto.
En realidad, ¿qué significa ligar para ti? ¿Ve usted ligar como invertir en el tono de pintalabios más seductor, hacerse un selfie y colgarlo en las redes sociales?
Or you never even dared to flirt with a guy so that he doesn’t think you’re an easy target or, let alone, interested in him (because playing hard to get has been a thing for a while now).
Ladies, it’s time to re-learn the art of flirting because it’s so much more than just looking pretty or smiling.
Don’t get me wrong. Smiling is a huge part of your flirting game because positive vibes are what attract guys (and it even rhymes!). Triple rhyme.
I’m trying to say that flirting is a skill that needs to be mastered and updated accordingly. Not every flirting move works on every guy because each of them has different preferences.
But there are some attractive tricks that all men fall for, and today, we’ll focus on those things. Intensificar tu juego de ligar no sólo te ayudará a atraer a más hombres, sino que también te dará más seguridad en ti misma.
Wait, why should you master the art of flirting? Hmm…
If you’re still not sure why exactly you should master the art of flirting, I’ll say two things to you:
- Coquetear te hará parecer diez veces más atractiva.
- Coquetear te ayudará a parecer más accesible.
I’m sure you want to look attractive to the guy you like, right? Well, being attractive is not only a matter of wearing the right clothes (those that spark the imagination) or looking your best from head to toe.
¿Sabías que tu lenguaje corporal juega un papel enorme a la hora de ligar y atraer?
Yup. Allow me to elaborate. Let’s say that you cross your arms while you’re in a bar checking out the guy you like and secretly hoping that he will approach you.
Sorry to disappoint you, but no, he won’t do that. Why? Because your body language (crossed arms) tells him that you’re reserved, not that relaxed, aka a little bit worried or anxious.
Un chico puede saber todo eso sólo con una pista en tu lenguaje corporal. Sí, el lenguaje corporal es así de poderoso.
If you flirt the right way, you’ll appear more approachable. Note that not every guy has the courage to make the first move or even look at you. Some guys are so shy that they won’t approach you, not even in a thousand years, if you don’t give them some obvious signs that you’re interested in them.
Y ahí es donde entra en juego el flirteo. By exuding positive vibes, displaying positive body language, and teasing him, you will let him know that you’re a flirting queen!
You will let him know that you don’t take yourself too seriously (that’s really important to guys), that you know how to have fun, and that you’re interesting to be around.
Who doesn’t want to be in the company of a lady whose flirting game is so strong that it forces men to step up their own game? Such a woman is every man’s dream because flirting requires intelligence, creativity, and wittiness.
In other words, by flirting with him like a boss, you’re showing him that you’re one of those strong women who are not afraid to tease, provoke, or even joke at their own expense. Y es por eso, mi señora, que debe dominar el arte de coquetear.
Cuanto más flirtees con los demás, más confianza adquirirás en ti misma. Así que, en lugar de esperar a que un chico empiece primero el juego del flirteo, sé tú quien lo inicie antes que él. Si lo haces, se pegará a ti como el pegamento.
Nunca subestimes el poder de los mensajes de texto coquetos.
Dado que los mensajes de texto son uno de los aspectos más importantes del flirteo porque, obviamente, vivimos en la era moderna, donde las conversaciones en la vida real están sobrevaloradas. (Espero que hayas notado mi intento de sarcasmo).
Where were we? Yes, never underestimate the power of sending flirty texts to a guy because that’s the biggest ace up your sleeve. It’s true that men are visual creatures, but this doesn’t mean that you should only send them hot pics of yourself as a way of flirting with them.
Claro que tus fotos picantes captarán y mantendrán su atención durante algún tiempo, pero los mensajes de texto coquetos son diez veces más potentes a largo plazo.
When you send a flirty text to a guy, he is forced to use his imagination to understand what you are telling him. He can’t hear the tone of your voice, and he can’t see you or anything else. All he has is your text and his imagination, which is a killer combination (in every sense of its meaning).
Permíteme que te lo simplifique. Si le sirves todo en bandeja a un hombre, pronto perderá el interés. Pero si le permites servirse a sí mismo dándole unos bocados para masticar, se quedará con hambre de más.
Enviarle mensajes coquetos le obligará a usar su imaginación (para servirse a sí mismo), y hará que esté sediento de más mensajes coquetos en el futuro.
Si quieres darle un toque picante a tus conversaciones de texto (y sé que lo quieres), aquí tienes algunos textos coquetos para enviarle y hacer que te desee con locura:
There’s this new position I heard about today, and I can’t wait to try it out… When do you think you can come over?
I will invite you over on one condition: You shouldn’t keep your hands to yourself. In fact, I will tell you right where you should put them!
I am so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later!
Another powerful thing that every woman needs to master is flirty questions. Asking a guy the right questions at the right time is a surefire way to boost attraction and show him who’s a flirting goddess.
If you’re interested (and I know you are), here are some preguntas coquetas para enloquecer a un chico:
¿Prefiere ser rudo o sensual?
What underwear color do you think I’m wearing now?
What’s your biggest fantasy?
¿Con qué tipo de ropa te gustaría verme?
¿Crees en la lujuria a primera vista, o debo pasar por tu lado otra vez?
Don’t shy away from throwing in flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines either!
Sadly, the majority of women shy away from telling flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines because they don’t want to appear too cheesy or they’re a little bit insecure about it. Well, it’s high time we reclaim our feminine power and implement jokes and pick-up lines into our flirting repertoire.
Si sabes lanzar esas bromas y frases para ligar como la mujer segura de ti misma que eres, ningún hombre podrá desinteresarse. ¿Por qué?
Because this is not something every woman does out there, no man would expect you to throw flirty jokes or pick-up lines, and that’s the beauty of it. No man would expect a woman to try to make him laugh. Wait, is that even true? What a sad world we live in.
If you want to flirt like a boss, you need to do exactly what they don’t expect you to.
Since I’m feeling generous, here are the two biggest flirting lessons that I’ve learned so far:
- Don’t be predictable.
- Always keep a man wondering about what you’re going to say or do next.
Dicho esto, he aquí algunas chistes coquetos y frases divertidas para ligar que le atraiga y le haga reír demasiado:
You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.
I’ll be Burger King, and you be McDonald’s. I’ll have it my way, and you’ll be lovin’ it.
Parece que he perdido mi número de teléfono. ¿Me das el tuyo?
Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type!
Me llamo (tu nombre), pero puedes llamarme esta noche.
Míralo como la mujer segura de sí misma que eres.
If there’s one thing that needs to be changed in our (female) flirting game, it is this: Don’t be afraid to check that man out and let him know that you’re interested.
I understand. Checking someone out has also been a man’s job so far (well, predominantly theirs), but this shouldn’t be so. We live in the 21st century, where expressing ourselves in the weirdest ways possible is acceptable.
Forget that I mentioned the word “weirdest” because this has nothing to do with it. What I want you to do, my lady is feel free to check him out, give him a flirty smile and then continue doing what you were doing (chatting with your friend or similar).
If you do this, I can guarantee that he will be smitten with you. How couldn’t he? He will think to himself: Una mujer guapa y segura de sí misma acaba de mirarme. Maldita sea. Tengo que encontrarme con esta mujer y conocerla mejor (en todos los sentidos).
No tengas miedo. Sé audaz. Exprésate
When it comes to flirting, there is no space for gender stereotyping. Don’t be ashamed to step up your game and tell that corny joke or pick-up line. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper and find new unordinary ways of flirting.
Flirting is an art in itself, and you cannot go wrong with it (as long as you’re not overdoing it). As always, leave some space for him to show off his flirting game as well.
Flirt – wait for his response – flirt some more – retreat – repeat. ¡Lo tienes, chica!
