Carta a la chica que necesita volver a apreciarse a sí misma

No dejes que nadie te defina.

Once you had a clear vision of yourself. But then, he came along. Now, after he’s done with you, you are lost. You’ve lost that vision you once had—perdiste la definición de ti mismo.

But don’t stress about it. It will come back. The only thing is that you need to let it come back. You need to open up and own up to your mistakes. You need to clear your mind and remember where you did wrong, so you don’t do those mistakes ever again.

You need to learn from your mistakes, and you definitely mustn’t blame or hate yourself for getting some things wrong.

No one is perfect. We all have flaws. They are here to serve us as a constant reminder that we are humans—we are not machines. We must have ups and downs, heartbreak, and love. That is what makes us unique—nuestra humanidad, nuestra capacidad de sentir, de tocar.

Although you think you’ve hit rock bottom now, there is a happy ending to your story. You just can’t see it yet because you didn’t read through the next few chapters that are leading to the grand finale.

Don’t whine, don’t feel sorry for yourself. If you treat yourself this way, others will, too. If you pity yourself, others will, too. You don’t want that—¡NO!

Quieres que la gente te trate con el respeto que mereces. Quieres que te vean como una persona fuerte e independiente.

A person who is fearless—ready to take down anything or anyone that comes her way.

Tienes que dejarte llevar.

It’s important for you to realize that todo sucede por una razón. God or whichever higher force you believe in has put you on this Earth for a reason and with a purpose. Each and every human being has its task. Only some don’t figure it out right from the start.

Cada nueva bofetada te hace más fuerte. Te recuperas y olvidas.

Tienes que dejar de vivir en el pasado.

Nada de lo que hagas ahora cambiará lo que ya ha ocurrido. No tiene sentido lamentarse porque no hay forma de cambiar el pasado.

The only thing you can do is to never do it again—think about your future, and spare your future self what you’re going through now.

Tienes que hacer las paces de una vez.

Tienes que ser una persona más grande. Tienes que hacer las paces con él y con todos los que te hicieron daño. Sólo entonces encontrarás la fuerza para seguir adelante y olvidar.

Sólo entonces podrás curarte.    

Tienes que abrazarte a ti mismo.

Quererte a ti mismo es lo más importante que debes hacer.

Remember: that is not selfish or narcissistic. It’s about respecting yourself and not letting everyone walk all over you.