Don’t let anyone define you.
Once you had a clear vision of yourself. But then, he came along. Now, after he’s done with you, you are lost. You’ve lost that vision you once had—you lost the definition of yourself.
But don’t stress about it. It will come back. The only thing is that you need to let it come back. You need to open up and own up to your mistakes. You need to clear your mind and remember where you did wrong, so you don’t do those mistakes ever again.
You need to learn from your mistakes, and you definitely mustn’t blame or hate yourself for getting some things wrong.
No one is perfect. We all have flaws. They are here to serve us as a constant reminder that we are humans—we are not machines. We must have ups and downs, heartbreak, and love. That is what makes us unique—our humanity, our ability to feel, to touch.
Although you think you’ve hit rock bottom now, there is a happy ending to your story. You just can’t see it yet because you didn’t read through the next few chapters that are leading to the grand finale.
Don’t whine, don’t feel sorry for yourself. If you treat yourself this way, others will, too. If you pity yourself, others will, too. You don’t want that—NO!
You want people to treat you with the respect you deserve. You want them to look at you as a strong and independent person.
A person who is fearless—ready to take down anything or anyone that comes her way.
You need to let yourself go.
It’s important for you to realize that everything happens for a reason. God or whichever higher force you believe in has put you on this Earth for a reason and with a purpose. Each and every human being has its task. Only some don’t figure it out right from the start.
Every new slap in the face makes you stronger. You recover, and you forget!
You need to stop living in the past.
Nothing you do now is going to change what has already happened. There is no point in moaning about it because there is no way to change the past.
The only thing you can do is to never do it again—think about your future, and spare your future self what you’re going through now.
You need to finally make peace.
You need to be a bigger person. You need to make peace with him and with everyone who did you wrong. Only then you will find the strength to move on and just forget.
Only then you will be able to heal.
You need to embrace yourself.
Loving yourself is the most important thing you need to do.
Remember: that is not selfish or narcissistic. It’s about respecting yourself and not letting everyone walk all over you.