La forma en que ves a una persona no siempre es como es en realidad
Sí, sé lo que está pasando por tu mente en este momento: ''Por supuesto, la gente no siempre es quien creemos que es. Todo el mundo tiene una percepción limitada''.
Sin embargo, ten paciencia conmigo. ¿Te ha ocurrido alguna vez perder a un amigo por algo que hizo y que creías que era imposible que hiciera?
Have you ever spent a bunch of precious time of your life in a relationship that deep down you knew wasn’t going right? You create a certain image of a person in your head and refuse to change it.
People show us who they are, we just don’t want to believe it. We don’t want to accept the harsh truth about someone we hold dear.
We don’t want to know our loved one or our friend isn’t as good of a person as we imagine them to be.
Todos somos víctimas de nuestra propia mente y del ego que juega con nosotros, haciéndonos creer que todo lo que percibimos como cierto es absolutamente cierto.
Lleva años, muchos, conocer de verdad a alguien.
A veces, nos encontramos en un momento de nuestra vida en el que necesitamos bondad. Conocemos a una persona y necesitamos que sea buena y de repente lo es.
Necesitamos que un chico sea nuestra alma gemela y nos hacemos creer que lo es. Necesitamos tener un amigo de verdad y la persona más conveniente de nuestra vida se convierte en eso en nuestra mente.
We recognize in people the things we’re desperately searching for.
Sometimes, we see people as we are, not as they are, because that’s the only way we know.
People don’t have to persuade us to see them a certain way. We choose how we see them anyway.
That’s why those among us who are the best possible people they can be get easily deceived. They get hurt by people because they suppose everyone is as good as they are.
Por desgracia, no todo el mundo te tratará como tú les trates a ellos. There are some times when there’s so much more to know that isn’t tied to our direct experiences with them.
Some people are so much more or so much less than we give them credit for. We create our image of a person based on the experiences we’ve had with them.
Luckily, or sadly, depending on your point of view, the experiences they share with us aren’t their only experiences in life. This is why it takes so much time to know someone.
Tenemos que pasar mucho tiempo con ellos para repasar todas nuestras historias y tener la oportunidad de vivir muchas experiencias diferentes juntos.
It’s the only way to truly get to know someone.
Don’t trust your opinion of someone if you have just met them. Yes, there are instincts and there is intuition but before you follow them, ask yourself if your ‘intuition’ is telling you what you want to hear. Because our mind works in wondrous ways.
A veces, vemos a una persona como algo que puede ser y no como algo que realmente es.
A menudo en la vida, vemos a las personas a través de este prisma de su potencial y sus posibilidades. Para ser brutales, muy pocas personas alcanzan todo su potencial.
Let’s say you’re in a relationship. Your boyfriend has some wonderful traits but also many flaws which, in the future, he can correct if he’d only try to.
You just know he has it in him to be the most gentle, loving guy there is. The truth is, you’re looking at him through your ‘unachieved potential’ goggles and chances are he’s never ever going to change.
Lo más maravilloso de todo es que, a veces, las personas pueden sorprendernos con lo increíbles que son.
You might have met those people when they were at their lowest or maybe you were at your lowest and didn’t see things clearly.
Yes, some people in your life are going to prove themselves to be so amazing that you won’t believe it. You’ll wonder how you didn’t see them as those lovely persons before.
That’s just it, we’re not always able to create a completely true image of someone in our mind.
Rodéate de gente que te haga sentir bien, gente honesta y amable y espera lo mejor.
The truth is, we’re all on this crazy ride together and the best we can do is love each other and hope things work out for us.
