10 señales sutiles de que no le gustas a la gente tanto como te gustan a ti
Vibes don’t lie. When you get that intricate feeling that your feelings toward a person are not being reciprocated (even though you’re not 100% sure), never ignore them.
Your gut feeling is here to warn you about the red flags you’d normally brush off to help you not waste time by finally seeing the signs that some people don’t like you!
¿Le cuesta conectar con determinadas personas de su entorno, hasta el punto de que incluso las conversaciones triviales le resultan difíciles?
¿Has empezado a notar algunas señales del lenguaje corporal (en este caso, señales negativas del lenguaje corporal) de que los que te rodean te están evitando?
In order to be sure that it’s time to let go of a certain person (or even certain people), you need to first be sure that the telltale signs you’ve been noticing are in fact there. And that is where I come in.
Look, there’s no sugarcoating this. When someone doesn’t want to spend time with you, you’ll simply feel it and see it.
Even if this is someone you’ve known since high school and you were sure they were the kind of person who’d stay by your side.
People leave, feelings get hurt, and life goes on. Some people just don’t deserve to have a place in your heart and it’s better to realize this now and avoid staying around them for the wrong reasons.
Lo último que necesitas es un amigo falso que no deje de hacerte sentir indeseado.
Since some people don’t have the decency to have a conversation with you and explain how they feel in person, it’s up to you to figure out how they truly feel about you.
It really sucks being and feeling left out. I’ve been there and I’m sure so many people have been in the same boat.
But for your own sake, it’s time to let go of those unworthy people and focus on those who give your life meaning.
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How Do You Know When People Don’t Like You?
It sucks to admit this to yourself, but you’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Even your oldest friend might come with an expiration date.
A veces, las amistades llegan a su fin natural, y por duro y desgarrador que sea admitirlo, ¡la vida continúa!
Real friends remain with you even through your bad days – especially then!
They don’t have a hard time keeping eye contact when you’re going through a rough patch and they never shatter your self-esteem.
They don’t put you on blast on social media and they never let things feel awkward between you two.
Los verdaderos amigos siempre te invitan a la hora feliz y te llaman primero después de una pelea (los mensajes de texto también están bien) porque consideran que tu amistad es algo importante.
But if there are no positive signs and you haven’t really been successful in maintaining a healthy relationship with them for a while, it’s time to reevaluate their place in your world.
Dejar marchar a personas que han sido un componente vital de la historia de tu vida es desgarrador, chocante, más que triste y, como mínimo, extraño.
Tener que acostumbrarse a no estar cerca de alguien a quien solías acudir para todo es el peor golpe de realidad de la historia.
Human beings are complicated and flawed, but that doesn’t give them an excuse to ice you out and ghost you. Your feelings matter.
So the next time you start making excuses for someone who’s been very cold and aloof in your presence, think twice about who this person is.
In this article, I’ll point out to the biggest telltale signs of someone not liking you.
I’ll explain all the red flags behind someone’s sketchy behavior and help you understand whether it’s time to let go of someone who has already let go of you.
Chances are you’ve already picked up on some of the signs that things have taken a turn for the worse, otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article.
Lo que necesitas ahora mismo son dos cosas: seguridad y aceptación.
My advice is to always be alert. Observe their body language and pay attention to the vibes they’re sending out.
You’ll feel it all yourself. But to help you determine if this is, in fact, the case, here are some definite signs that someone doesn’t like you.
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10 Telltale Signs People Don’t Like You
Let’s start dissecting your relationships with those around you and help you weed out toxic individuals who have already decided that you’re not good enough for them but don’t have the balls to tell you in person.
If you have any qualms about who likes you and which people don’t (even though you’re fond of them), here’s your reassurance once and for all.
People who manifest these signs in your company, unfortunately, don’t like you:
1. Te desconectan con su lenguaje corporal negativo
A person’s body language will tell you a lot without them even realizing it.
When you’re drawn to a person, you’re more likely to stand in close proximity to them, lean in, and maintain eye contact because you’re intrigued by what they have to say.
That’s what experts call positive body language.
Por otro lado, si una persona ha decidido desconectarte, su lenguaje corporal negativo la delatará al instante.
It’s challenging and against one’s nature to act opposite of how they feel, so you can always count on body language to relay the message loud and clear. Here are some examples of negative body language:
– Their arms and legs are always crossed when they’re around you.
– They aren’t able to maintain eye contact with you for longer than two seconds.
– They physically turn away from you (perhaps even totally subconsciously).
– They use their bag or any other accessory to hide away from you.
– Looking anywhere but in your direction (oftentimes looking down).
These are some of the most common red flags their body language will showcase that clearly let you know that something’s not right.
If this is the case, more often than not, it’s time to either ask them openly about it or simply accept that things are never going to be the way they used to be.
2. Fingen una sonrisa a tu alrededor
A smile is the body’s natural and genuine reaction to someone who makes you feel welcome and pleasant.
Una sonrisa honesta incluye los músculos alrededor de los ojos (llamados orbicular de los ojos) and you can tell when it’s genuine because their eyes will be engaged too.
But a fake smile is a completely different thing. You can tell it’s not genuine simply by looking them in the eye.
If the muscles around their eyes are disengaged and their mouth is the only thing moving, they’re fake smiling at you.
This is a telltale sign of a person who doesn’t like you. And yes, it is a big deal. If someone you consider a friend cannot offer you a genuine smile, who will?
We all have our bad days that make us fake a smile when we’re not able to offer a real one (due to our own personal issues) but if this isn’t a one-off, then you know you have a problem.
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3. Las cosas se sienten incómodas y no hay buen ambiente.
El ambiente ya no es el mismo. Estar cerca de esta persona se siente forzado, desagradable y simplemente equivocado.
No solía sentirme así, pero ahora, las cosas se sienten incómodas en todos los sentidos.
When you’re around genuine people who enjoy your company and encourage you to be open around them, you feel it in your gut.
Hay muchas señales positivas sobre ellos y nunca te cuesta mantener la conversación.
But when people don’t like you, they’ll make the environment feel like real torture. Just being in their presence won’t feel right.
Small talk will be short and forced and a lot of time you’ll be the only one initiating the conversation.
Awkwardness and unpleasantness are never signs of a healthy relationship – quite the opposite.
If you’re no longer feeling the vibe, there’s something shady going on and for whatever reason, this person doesn’t like you anymore.
4. Tus conversaciones son cortas y carentes de emoción
Cuando le caes bien a la gente, la conversación parece una brisa que podría durar siglos.
But when they don’t, they are short with you and the conversation is quick and devoid of any sentiment.
You’ll ask them about how their weekend went and they’ll say ”It was fun.” You’ll ask if everything’s okay and they’ll reply with ”Yeah, it’s all good.” You get the gist.
Nothing’s really okay and things are clearly not how they used to be, but you’ll have to be happy with their short, clipped replies.
When people don’t like you, they are short with you and make the conversation end as quickly as possible.
Siempre tienen algún sitio donde estar u otra llamada que atender (pero no realmente).
They just don’t have time for you, so they offer a one-syllable answer at best and they’re on their way.
5. Falta de contacto físico
When people don’t like you, they hold off on all touchy-feely stuff.
They don’t ever get physically close enough to tap your shoulder, give you a fist bump or a high five. They try to minimize physical touch as much as they can.
It doesn’t matter if this is a romantic partner or a close friend. In all cases, these telltale signs are valid.
Las personas que disfrutan de tu compañía y se sienten cómodas a tu alrededor te tocarán en algún momento. Así es como se mantiene la estabilidad social.
But when there’s a palpable lack of physical touch from a person who used to be very touchy-feely with you, that’s a sign that they’re not interested in nurturing any type of healthy relationship with you.
Pay attention to this when you’re around certain people and you’ll notice what I’m talking about.
No tocarse en absoluto apunta a una relación caduca carente de cualquier tipo de conexión.
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6. Ya no hacen planes contigo
¿Eres el único que les envía mensajes de texto para hacer planes? ¿Recuerdas la última vez que esta persona (o personas) hicieron planes y te invitaron?
If this is all vague and you can’t seem to remember the last time they were the ones to initiate plans, that’s a red flag.
Sure, you’ll have a good time when you’re all out together (or just the two of you), but if it always has to be initiated by you, start thinking if you’d ever see them unless you asked first.
This will tell you everything you need to know. When they don’t make any type of effort to maintain your friendship (or whichever type of relationship), that’s a bad and not-so-subtle sign.
Las amistades y las relaciones necesitan de dos personas para mantenerse vivas.
If one person keeps giving and the other one keeps staying passive, you know what the deal is, you’re just too scared to admit it to yourself.
7. Su comunicación está bajo mínimos
Texting and calling used to be a regular thing for you two, but now, it’s come down to a bare minimum.
They don’t really text you anymore unless they need something from you.
They have completely stopped calling. If you’re being honest, your communication is virtually non-existent.
If you didn’t text them every now and again to check up on them or make plans (as stated above) you’d never hear from them.
You used to have the best and longest conversations about anything and everything, but now… They don’t even ask how you are.
I don’t know who this person is, but I do know one thing. People make time for who they want to make time for.
Incluso las personas más ocupadas se aseguran de ver a alguien que les importa durante 5 minutos.
If they don’t, it’s because they don’t care. But you don’t need people who don’t make time for you.
For me, it’s better to know now than to keep faking a relationship whose flame has withered a long time ago.
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8. A menudo te decepcionan
They don’t seem to care about your feelings. They often bail on your last-minute and don’t even have a convincing excuse.
They don’t give a shit how it makes you feel and you end up disappointed on a regular basis.
La gente a la que le gustas siempre se asegurará de respetarte a ti y a tu tiempo.
They’ll avoid bailing on you to the best of their ability and if something comes up, they’ll always make up for it later.
But people who don’t like you won’t even try to sound like they’re sorry.
They’ll just be ”Sorry, something unexpected came up so I won’t be able to come.” and that’s it! No explanation and no promise to reschedule.
People who disappoint you more often than they make you happy aren’t good people to be around.
As painful as it is, it’s time to stand your ground and tell them how shitty they’ve been and end it once and for all.
It’ll hurt for a second but then it’ll feel like so much weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
9. Nunca te escuchan
How do you know that someone doesn’t like you? When they don’t even pretend to listen when you’re talking.
Be it in a group of people or one-on-one, they just don’t listen. When you care for someone, you’ll be engaged in the conversation even if the topic doesn’t interest you one bit.
Heck, people who love you will remember the smallest, seemingly irrelevant details about you simply because it’s in their nature to listen to you and ask for your thoughts and opinions. You listen to people you care about!
Una persona que te quiere y valora tu aportación nunca te dará la espalda, pase lo que pase.
But those people who can’t even pretend to be fazed by what you’re saying are huge red flags all by themselves.
Nurture relationships with people who make it easy to keep a conversation going. When you feel like you’re constantly talking to the walls, stop talking.
They don’t deserve your effort, anyway. Save it for people who enjoy what you have to offer.
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10. Your gut feeling tells you that something’s wrong
What’s your most trustworthy sign of how things really are when all else fails? Your gut! It will always tell you how it is.
Even if sometimes it’s a little painful and heartbreaking, your gut feeling always knows what’s up.
You know those moments when you really want to be wrong about someone, but you just feel it in your gut that something’s wrong? Yeah, never ignore it.
It’s your only voice of truth when the reality becomes too difficult to accept.
When someone doesn’t like you and is faking niceness toward you, your gut feeling will point it out. Listen to it.
Don’t bet against yourself. If you feel something in your bones, act accordingly. Life is too short to waste time on bullshitters and fakers.
Choose happiness over people who don’t like you. You don’t really need them in your life anyway.
It might feel weird and uncomfortable now, but when the dust settles, you’ll see how much better your life is going to become.
Whether this is a romantic partner who’s slowly slipping away from you or a close friend who feels so far out of reach, the truth is always better than faking something that’s no longer there.
Sí, duele y sí, apesta profundamente.
But when someone stops liking you, there’s not much you can do other than accept it and find ways to move on.
People will hurt you and leave like it’s nothing. But how you choose to deal with that is how your life will ultimately turn out.
¿Y ahora qué?
After finally coming to terms with the fact that certain people simply don’t like you anymore, how the hell are you supposed to accept this new, heartbreaking reality and move on seamlessly?
¿Se supone que la vida debe seguir igual y que debes fingir que esa persona nunca fue importante para ti?
Of course not. You are entitled to your feelings and nobody has the right to tell you how you’re supposed to feel now.
That’s up to you. But the sooner you learn that some people will never be good for you, no matter how much you cherish them, the sooner it’ll become easier to deal with heartbreak.
So some people don’t like you. What can you do anyway? You can’t tell a person how to feel. Sad but true!
Una opción aceptable es intentar mantener una conversación sincera sobre lo que ha ido mal. Sin otro objetivo que el de cerrar el asunto.
When you hear their side of the story, it’ll provide you with the peace of mind you need to accept it and move on.
Puede que sea brutal o puede que sea triste, pero en última instancia te liberará de algo que terminó hace mucho tiempo y hará que sea más fácil abrazarlo sin resentimiento.
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