5 excusas que deberías dejar de usar para seguir en una relación tóxica

Visto desde fuera, dejar una relación tóxica debería ser pan comido. Después de todo, todo parece estar bastante claro.

You’re unhappy being with your partner, it’s apparent that your romance isn’t going anywhere, and you are anything but compatible.

Entonces, ¿qué le impide marcharse, cuando las cosas parecen tan obvias?

Well, the point is that you’re probably using all kinds of excuses to stay in this toxic relationship.

It’s easier for you to hold on to these thoughts than to step out of your comfort zone and actually make a difference.

“He will become the man I need”

La razón número uno por la que las mujeres permanecen en malas relaciones es una esperanza sin trasfondo lógico.

Even though there’s absolutely no sign that your novio podría cambiarpor alguna razón realmente crees que esto sucederá.

Esperas que una mañana se despierte por arte de magia y se dé cuenta de que debe dejar de hacerte daño.

Piensas que tu amor acabará por hacerle cambiar de actitud y que vuestro romance cambiará a mejor.

Well, I hate to burst your bubble but people don’t change unless they have a desire to do it themselves.

Basically, you’re waiting for a miracle that is unlikely to happen.

“I will regret my decision”

What if you start to miss this man after you’ve found the courage to leave him? What if you regret your decision the moment you make it?

¿Y si te das cuenta de que, después de todo, deberías haberte quedado con él?

¿Y si resulta ser el amor de tu vida y nunca consigues superarlo?

Estas y otras preguntas similares pasan por tu cabeza cada vez que piensas en romper.

Let me tell you something – this is exactly what your toxic boyfriend wants you to think.

Él es quien instaló estas dudas en tu cerebro.

The one who is deliberately playing with you and manipulating you into thinking that you can’t make it without him.

Trust me on this one: if you do leave him, it will be the best choice you’ve ever made and you won’t regret it for a second.

“He is just emotionally broken”

Let’s get one thing straight: your boyfriend doesn’t treat you the way he does because he is emotionally unavailable and broken.

He is not hurting you because he doesn’t know any better.

No te está rompiendo el corazón sin ser consciente de ello.

No te da migajas de su amor y atención porque es incapaz de amar.

De hecho, está haciendo todo lo anterior simplemente porque puede. En pocas palabras, es un gilipollas.

With this in mind, I’m sure you’ll agree that he doesn’t deserve your sympathy, so it’s about time you stopped giving it to him.

You keep finding excuses for his behavior and trying to dig deeper under his cold exterior. No, you won’t find a vulnerable heart who loves you there.

You’ll find nothing. There is no other part of his personality – he is just like that and this needs to stop being the reason why you stay with him.

Conformarse con menos frente a morir solo

Para ti, sólo hay dos opciones en la vida. Puedes dejar a este tipo y morir sola o seguir conformándote con menos de lo que mereces.

So, you assume that it’s better to be with someone than to face loneliness.

This man has convinced you that you’re not meant to be loved and without him, you’ll be forever single.

First and foremost, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

In fact, I promise you that you’ll find a man who deserves you if you pluck up the courage to leave this one behind.

Sin embargo, aunque acabes soltero, no hay absolutamente nada malo en ello.

You don’t need a man to be happy and I’m sure you’ll rock your solitude.

“I will be his hero”

Otro de los errores comunes que tienen muchas mujeres a la hora de permanecer en una relación tóxica es creer que su hombre las necesita.

Let’s be honest: you would probably walk away from your boyfriend but you feel responsible for him.

You think that you’re the only one who can save him. The only one who can drag him out of his darkness and show him the light.

Hear me out on this one: it’s not your duty to arreglar hombres rotos. It’s not your responsibility to sort his life out, help him grow up, or fight his demons.

Deja de anteponer su felicidad a la tuya. Y lo más importante: deja de anteponer esta relación condenada al fracaso a tu paz.