Cuando una mujer calla, es por estas 13 razones

Just like you can’t hear an earthquake on its way to make the ground shake, the same goes for when a woman is silent.

Just because she’s done talking, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t have anything to say. Quite the contrary. A woman’s silence debe nunca percibirse como una debilidad.

In a way, the quietness holds more power than her words ever could. Her silence means that she has a message for you but it’s on you to decipher the meaning.

There are many possible interpretations of her silent treatment but is it a good idea to intervene? That’s entirely up to you to decide.

Just remember; when a woman is silent, all bets are off and there’s no telling what might happen next. Tune into the static and listen closely.

Below, I share some of the most common meanings behind a woman’s silence and 6 things to avoid at all costs if you want to come out the other end.

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She’s going through some heavy stuff

If she’s giving you the cold shoulder, don’t automatically take it personally. She might simply be going through the wringer.

Women are warriors and part of that means going through stuff without needing to share it. She probably has a lot on her mind and she doesn’t want to trouble you.

Give her time to get her ducks in a row. She’ll be ready for the next story but first, she has to handle the current one.

Ella necesita un descanso de ti

Don’t take this the wrong way but a girl simply needs a break sometimes. It doesn’t mean she wants to break up or that she doesn’t love you anymore; she is simply in desperate need of alone time. 

Don’t badger her with countless text messages or keep DM-ing her on social media. 

Give her some space and she’ll come back to you when she’s ready. Let her have her peace, figure stuff out and come back in full force.

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She’s chosen to take the high road

She’s mad at you but she’s not letting her emotions get the better of her. You lucky son of a gun. You really dodged a bullet here.

Podría estar haciéndote daño de verdad (no físicamente, por supuesto) ahora mismo, pero en lugar de eso, ha elegido el camino fácil. Eso dice mucho de ella.

She won’t stoop to your level no matter how much she wants to. She knows who’s worth her time and who isn’t.

She’s done with your BS for good

She’s just DONE. She can’t take the heated arguments, the emotional abuse or your disconnectedness any longer.

You know better than anyone what you’ve done. She’s probably been seeing through all your red flags for a while but now, it’s over.

Cuando la otra persona elige el tratamiento silencioso en lugar de seguir trabajando en ello, usted sabe que realmente la cagó.

She needs you but doesn’t know how to articulate it

Sometimes, you need to learn to read between the lines. If she’s not really big on words, you must pick up on her emotions.

Recognize when she deeply needs you, even if she’s not saying it. We need to be more considerate of our loved ones’ silences.

If she gets up in the middle of the night for no apparent reason, join her and talk to her. Let her know she’s not alone, no matter the late hour.

She’s overthinking

I’ll be the first to admit that I can really get in my head sometimes. The tiniest inconvenience could happen and I’d find five possible negative interpretations. 

And that’s what might be going on with your girl. 

It might not have anything to do with you; she’s just in her head way too much.

Overthinking can seem like the end is nigh but just give her a bit of time to collect her thoughts. She’ll probably be just fine.

Se esfuerza por mantenerse fuerte

Women are often too strong for too long and you won’t even see how much she’s struggling on the inside because she hides it so well.

However, sometimes, it takes a huge toll on a person. When a woman is silent, that’s when she might actually need you the most. 

La única cuestión es si puedes sintonizar con su lado emocional y reconocer sus necesidades. (Pista: necesita que TÚ le quites parte de la carga.)

Ella quiere lidiar con las cosas por su cuenta

Las mujeres son extremadamente autosuficientes y, a veces, su silencio significa que simplemente quiere que siga siendo así.

Yes, she’s going through something but she’s fine dealing with it on her own. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t appreciate your help. 

Simplemente significa que ésta, puede manejarla ella sola. ¿Y adivina qué? Está en su derecho de hacerlo.

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She’s in the middle of a healing process

If you’ve recently gone through something as a couple, this silence might be a reflection of that. She still isn’t fully okay but she will be.

Everyone needs time to heal and you can’t rush her to feel a certain way. She’ll get there when she gets there.

You don’t have to intervene. Just like you need time to figure stuff out, so does she. The silent treatment is her way of getting through to the other side of things.

She’s trying to figure out her next step

She’s not sure where you stand or whether she wants to stay with you (or perhaps she’s testing you). Una vez más, su tratamiento silencioso es probablemente el resultado de acontecimientos recientes.

If she’s silent, that’s because she doesn’t want to speak prematurely. She’ll let you know about her final decision once she figures it out.

In a way, this is the best thing you could hope for. She’s willing to let things cool down before she makes any huge decisions.

She’s reached a dead-end communication-wise

She doesn’t know how to reach you anymore. She keeps trying to find a middle ground and communicate her feelings but to no avail.

It’s not that she wants things to just end; she has simply reached a dead end. The ball is in your court now. It’s time to show her what you’re made of or you’re going to watch her leave very soon.

She’s tired of her efforts going to waste

There’s nothing she hasn’t tried. She has tried meeting you halfway, pleading with you, caving in on some of her fundamental needs but it all just goes to waste.

At a certain point, a person simply gets tired of trying too hard for someone who doesn’t care. 

Tú la hiciste ser así. Piensa en ello. ¿Cuánto has puesto realmente en tu relación? ¿Puedes hacerlo mejor para salvar vuestra unión?

She’s doing her own thing and is simply busy

Women juggle much more than men do; it’s true, don’t even deny it. I bet she handles the majority of the stuff around the house, the chores, kids (if you have any), work and meals.

And what do you do? Say thank you and go off with your buddies? The least you can do is respect her silence because trust me, there’s a LOT she could say to you.

But no. She does everything with zero complaints and tries so hard to please you. Isn’t it time to step the hell up and stop complaining?

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6 cosas que NO hay que hacer cuando una mujer está callada

Now that I’ve covered the basics regarding her silence, it’s important that you know how to behave. Avoid doing these 6 things if you ever want to make it right with her again.

Don’t respond with anger or resentment

This can only escalate things so avoid it at all costs. She doesn’t deserve your anger and you know it so don’t blow things by being an ass.

Listen, observe, read between the lines and make an effort to figure her out. She’s not an enigma, she just needs a man who’ll actually give a damn about her.

Enfadarse sin intentar resolver las cosas te acerca un paso más al final. Tienes que aprender a descifrar sus silencios.

Don’t start threatening to break things off

Your threats will be futile because it’s the most childish way to react. Instead, why not try to see su punto de vista? 

Or are you that much of a narcissist that you can’t accept that you’re flawed? Put yourself in her shoes, think really hard about what brought you here and wait until the next day to react.

Sometimes, she just needs time. If she doesn’t initiate a conversation anytime soon, it’s time to gently and kindly start talking.

Don’t EVER give her ultimatums

Lo único a lo que te acercará un ultimátum es a un final inminente de tu relación. ¿Cuándo has oído hablar de un ultimátum que acabara bien?

In intimate relationships, it’s all about communication, understanding and compromise. When you encounter the silent treatment, your best bet is to think about the possible reasons.

I’m pretty sure you can come up with a few reasons why she’s hesitant to talk.

Don’t beg her to talk to you

She’ll communicate when she’s ready but it has to be on her terms so don’t send her an extremely long message begging her to talk as it’ll be seen as disrespectful and rude. 

She clearly isn’t ready right now. Use her silent treatment as an opportunity to try and be better.

Do stuff around the house, take over some of her chores and just be there. It’s precisely these things that might change her mind.

Don’t take her behavior personally (it takes two to tango)

This may have been partially your fault but it’s never just on you. It takes two to tango, haven’t you heard?

So whatever is going on, it’s going to take an effort on both parts to resolve it. Issues don’t just appear out of the blue; two people have to contribute to them.

Cuando veas que está dispuesta a hablar, ofrécete a hacerlo, dispuesto a asumir tu parte de culpa.

Don’t apologize if you don’t mean it

What’s worse than a fake apology? Plus a woman has a sixth sense for these things; she’ll sense the BS from miles away so always be genuine if you’re saying sorry.

If you’re not, it’s always going to worsen things. Without honesty or transparency, what do you really have? She will never in a million years be okay with something so fake.

IF you’re guilty, then it’s okay to say why you’re sorry for handling things poorly but if you feel it’s on both of you, work it out as a team!

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Lo esencial

When a woman is silent, it’s a sign that a change is coming. As is evident from the above, you should nunca brush off a woman’s silence.

The key thing here is to know whether it has anything to do with your actions or if she’s simply dealing with her own stuff.

Después de identificar cuál es, asegúrate de no dedicarte a suplicar, amenazar o pedir disculpas falsas. Mujeres siempre know when you’re full of it.

Las relaciones íntimas son complicadas y, para las personas que odian el silencio, puede resultar duro capear estas tormentas. Pero creo firmemente que siempre merece la pena luchar por todo lo que merece la pena tener.

Así que pregúntese lo siguiente: ¿Merece tu chica la pena luchar? And there’s your answer.