La cruda verdad sobre por qué nunca conquistas a tu pareja
Siempre te preguntas por qué siempre acabas soltero. Cada vez que conoces a un posible nuevo interés amoroso, la llama se apaga antes incluso de tener la oportunidad de encenderse. Nunca puedes aferrarte a un chico lo suficiente como para llamarlo novio y siempre aceptas cualquier excusa poco convincente que tenga para dejarte.
Incluso cuando conoces a un chico con el que tienes mucho en común y las conversaciones son increíblemente estimulantes, tu química textual se sale de lo normal y te sientes tan atraída sexualmente por él, que nunca parece ser suficiente para durar. ¿Por qué siempre resulta así?
You’re baffled and annoyed! It’s not like you’re not a catch! You’re good-looking, you’re ambitious and you are not superficial. You have good values and you’re kind to the people around you. So, what gives?
You’re too serious.
Think about it. You may still feel too young for marriage and kids but you’re also too old for meaningless conversations and superficial values.
At this point in your life, you’re serious. Serious about your intentions with a significant other and serious about commitment. You no longer crave trivial chats through text but want a phone call from him asking how your day went.
You don’t want someone who’s going to call you at 2 AM, drunk off his ass, screaming into your ear, very clearly wasted but rather a guy who’s going to call at that ungodly hour to tell you he misses you and he can’t wait to get home.
Ya no buscas nada débil o vago, ahora quieres algo de verdad. Un compromiso. Y los chicos pueden sentirlo.
Unfortunately, some men are intimidated as soon as they sense it and they’re gone before you know it.
Pides demasiado.
You have standards. You have needs. You no longer settle for anything half-assed. You are perfectly capable of dealing with their wants and needs but they can’t seem to handle yours.
Les pides tiempo. Sabes que es importante pasar tiempo juntos para poder crecer y conectar como pareja. Exiges interés. Necesitan poder preguntarte por tu día, sin que tengas que recordárselo.
You demand trust. You want to be able to trust them when they’re off doing their thing, the same way they know they can trust you. But they can’t seem to return the favor.
Never feel bad about needing commitment from a guy. A real relationship has to check all those boxes. If it doesn’t, keep searching. Un buen tipo tiene que existir en alguna parte.
Tienes que ser su prioridad.
You don’t ask for the moon and the stars. You don’t ask for them to have eyes only for you. All you want and deserve is a guy who is never going to make you feel like you come second.
He can still have his life. He can still hang out with his buddies. But you need to be high up on that priority list as well. You’re not here to beg for anyone’s attention.
Some guys just can’t deal with that. They feel like going off the radar for a few days without checking in is okay and then they make you the crazy one for asking why they didn’t at least text that everything was all right.
The right guy will always check on you. He will never make you feel crazy for needing a healthy amount of communication. So don’t give up due to immature jerks. Un hombre de verdad te encontrará cuando dejes de buscarlo.
Meaningless flings don’t interest you.
You want a real conversation. You want to be able to confide in him and seek solace in his arms. You don’t need a boy who’s just going to nod at whatever you say and then go play video games.
Quieres una relación. Una sociedad. Y algunos hombres simplemente quieren un cuerpo caliente para cuando se sienten solos. Si sigues encontrándote con esos tipos, empieza a buscar en otra parte.
There are guys out there capable of giving you what you need out of a relationship. Just because you keep running into immature assholes doesn’t mean a relationship is not meant for you.
Todos tenemos nuestro camino que recorrer y el tuyo aún está en marcha. Sé paciente y espera a un hombre que vea todo de ti y sepa lo que vales. Nada más vale tu tiempo.
